Money Moral Dilemma: Should we give our children from other relationships gifts of the same value?

ginger_chocolate

I'm not sure I've fully understood the question but if so then I'm not sure why it would matter?
Everyone is getting a present
Everyone is spending within their means
No-one has raised any objections

It seems a bit like you're looking for a problem that doesn't actually exist tbh

confusedgranny

Bonnypitlad said:

You see! Martin is correct about this nonsense of giving unnecessary gifts at Christmas 
You are obviously concerned and it is spoiling your Christmas 
Christmas has become far too commercialised 
Tell all the adult offspring that you’ve contributed charity gifts in their name.
Mosquito nets seem to be worthwhile to me
I have donated goats in the past but apparently they can denude the local area of water and vegetation 

I very much agree with the first half of your reply. 
But there seems something rather odd about 'charity gifts' unless it is a charity you know they want to support.
If I want to give to charity I will, thank you.

sjaeagle5

They're adult children so have an adult conversation with whomever may be affected.  It's not like they're going to have a tantrum, is it?!

whydoineedone

Oh don’t you just hate Christmas?
we just spend the same on all of our adult kids - a few have plenty of money, one doesn’t but I spend the same anyway. The one who struggles with money a bit will get a more practical gift though such as a gift voucher or cash, rather than something he doesn’t really need. Likewise we have one step grandson but he gets the same money spent on him as the other grandchildren. 

Pollycat

whydoineedone said:

Oh don’t you just hate Christmas?
we just spend the same on all of our adult kids - a few have plenty of money, one doesn’t but I spend the same anyway. The one who struggles with money a bit will get a more practical gift though such as a gift voucher or cash, rather than something he doesn’t really need. Likewise we have one step grandson but he gets the same money spent on him as the other grandchildren. 

I hate how Christmas makes some people anxious and how it makes some people behave.
I'm happy with what I spend on people, what gifts I receive, what I spend on food and how I socialise.

howardl

I'm thankful I'm childfree and don't have these  problems..

BMW51K

I can't understand why there's a dilemma. Just treat them all the same.

dninja

They are adults, if they get upset at what you are spending on them, then they are in it for the money not the family so sod them, give them a lump of coal.

(OK, a lump of coal may be worth more than some gifts now, so maybe a small pebble instead)

CapeTown

They are adults. Stop wasting money on them. 

Ed264

You state that it'll likely upset his or your children. I think you know the answer! I say leave things as they are. You don't want that sort of hassle at Christmas!