Money Moral Dilemma: Can I keep some of the cash from selling my daughter's christening present?

cjloui1

It’s your daughter’s.  Can’t believe this is even a question. Tell her what it is worth and if she wants to sell she could put the money into a savings account if it’s that significant a sum. 

Seakay

Your daughter either offers the present back to the giver or keeps it or sells it. 
It was given to her, someone wanted her to enjoy it or to otherwise benefit from it.
It has nothing to do with you.
Your daughter's disinterest in her possession is not an invitation to you to take and benefit from it.
Presumably your attitude to ownership is what has resulted in thefts from the major museums - "well no one is looking at it and I went to all the trouble of finding a buyer and negotiating a price so it's mine to sell"

Spendless

Hmmm the cynic in me thinks this probably isn't the way the MMD was originally because in the format given it's a non brainer, it's the daughter's item to do with as they wish as Brie states in one of the early replies.

I wonder if it was  something along the lines of .... my daughter told me I could have the item cos she doesn't want it and now what do I do (someone earlier raised this point) or daughter passed it to me, I've found it's worth a lot, but daughter is rubbish with money - what should I do

RedRuby_2

ginger_chocolate said:

RedRuby_2 said:

Haven’t logged in awhile but had to when I read this moral dilemma and couldn’t believe some of the replies I read. 

Which replies? Pretty much everyone agrees with you?

I think it’s pretty clear cut. So some of the responses that had strings attached or conditions shocked me. For example, that expenses could be deducted or the child should or could split the money or buy the parent something. 

Chris_Jay

Initial reaction? No! Your daughter may want to keep her gift for a future child. How big is it? How much storage does it require? It doesn't belong to you. You chose to look for a buyer, so you take the hit.

My ex gave away things that belonged to my children, and to me, without ever checking how we felt, and none of us ever forgave him. Do you want to take that chance?

Pollycat

Spendless said:

Hmmm the cynic in me thinks this probably isn't the way the MMD was originally because in the format given it's a non brainer, it's the daughter's item to do with as they wish as Brie states in one of the early replies.

I wonder if it was  something along the lines of .... my daughter told me I could have the item cos she doesn't want it and now what do I do (someone earlier raised this point) or daughter passed it to me, I've found it's worth a lot, but daughter is rubbish with money - what should I do

Once, the author of a MMD came back and posted the whole of the post they sent in. It bore no resemblance to the few lines posted by MSE.
So, yes, your suggestion is quite possible.

Zebo

Borage said:

I see your MSE Staff so obviously it must be a spoof post as nobody could be that greedy and selfish to their offspring

ALL moral dilemmas are posted by MSE staff, that's how it works, they post the dilemmas sent in to them.

Pollycat

Zebo said:

Borage said:

I see your MSE Staff so obviously it must be a spoof post as nobody could be that greedy and selfish to their offspring

ALL moral dilemmas are posted by MSE staff, that's how it works, they post the dilemmas sent in to them.

Not quite.
See the 2 posts above yours.
Yes, MSE do take questions from posters who - for some reason don't want to post on the forum - but they condense the question into a few lines.
I think they deliberately omit lots of information to encourage differences of opinions.
As it goes out on the weekly MSE newsletter, I think they try to get new people to sign up to comment and then hopefully stay.

primrose_penguin

The toy was given to your daughter, she may have said she no longer wanted it because she has no idea of its value. I think you need to have a chat with her and ask if she wants to keep it now or would she like to sell it to the buyer you have found. I think she should have the money if she wants to sell it, perhaps you could encourage her to put it in a savings account for her future. You are her Mum and shouldn't expect to have a share of it, I wouldn't. 

Lizrobson

I can't believe that you are even considering keeping the money from this toy. It was a gift to  your daughter. The fact that she shows no interest in it is irrelevant.  You should tell your daughter the situation and it is then up to her what she does with the item.