Second Time Bride Advice

lika_86

bluelass said:

I love veils but dont want a tiara or hair clip etc even though my husband to be has kindly offered to pay for a diamond tiara hire.
The jeweller we bought my engagement ring from has a complementary tiara hire but requires a deposit. They had a gorgeous emerald and diamond tiara but we were told its no longer available i was very upset about that.

Personally, I agree with Mark-Francis of Made in Chelsea on this "Unless you have a family tiara, you don't wear one".

Doodles

I would say the outfit should match the formality of the event so given its a castle, Rolls Royce etc then you do need something elegant.  

Have you checked out the wedding section on Monsoon (online)?  Phase Eight is another choice for formal occasion wear

MalMonroe

bluelass said:

I am engaged after my traumatic divorce and i am unsure what to wear the ceremony etc.
My fiancee is 8 years younger than me and it will be his first marriage.
I dont like white gowns i wore ivory silk taffeta to my first wedding and i dont want my second wedding to mirror my first.
I was thinking a champagne or very pale pink bateau neckline with small train very modest and plain with a dramatic very long silk veil edged with lace flowers in the same colour as my gown my gown with three quarter sleeves.
I love veils but dont want a tiara or hair clip etc even though my husband to be has kindly offered to pay for a diamond tiara hire.
The jeweller we bought my engagement ring from has a complementary tiara hire but requires a deposit. They had a gorgeous emerald and diamond tiara but we were told its no longer available i was very upset about that.
The wedding will be in a chapel in the grounds of a castle and im having a vintage car on the day a rolls  royce phantom in burgundy.
Any suggestions welcome

Hi and many congratulations!

Just wear what you want to wear. Don't forget that the wedding itself is not really important - it's the marriage that comes afterwards that's the most important thing. A lot of people forget that. It doesn't hurt to dress up for the wedding, though and share a lovely ceremony and celebration with friends and family. 

Who needs a tiara anyway - if it were me I'd ask that lovely husband to be to save his money or maybe put it towards going away somewhere lovely later on rather than hire a tiara.

In hindsight, for my own wedding, I would not have wasted money on the classic Bentley car I insisted on having - just to show off really - or on many other things that were quite unnecessary. We were leaving the country six weeks afterwards and so I thought we needed to have a really big 'do' that we couldn't really afford. We didn't. And it ended in divorce anyway. Going by my past experiences, I'd not splash out on things that really don't matter for the wedding. It's the afterwards that matters. 

Good luck for the future.

sillyvixen

Good luck in finding the right dress for you, wear what you feel comfortable in, don't feel you need to conform. I didn't even look in the window of a bridal shop or a wedding magazine when I got married as a size 20 bride I wanted something simple with no fussy bits to draw attention to my size. I found a pattern to purchase online that was simple and elegant, and some ivory satin. we have a family friend who worked as a seamstress untillher children came along and has always taken sewing jobs on (she does everything from taking up school uniform to making bridesmaid dresses for multiple bridesmaids of different sizes just from a picture and measurements - she is very talented) she had already said she would be honoured to make my dress, It was perfect and all the on show (neckline, hem and capped sleeves) was done by hand. She wouldn't take a penny and gifted it as a wedding present as she had known me and my hubby since we were young children. We had a church wedding, I arrived in a white Rolls Royce Phantom, as I was met outside the church by our minister and the church stewards there was a gasp, followed by laughter and the minister stating 'that's so you'. The reaction was not to my dress but my wedding footwear purple Doc Martin boots laced with ivory ribbons, that were visible as I got out of the car. I don't do heels and wanted to be comfortable, i didn't want to spend a fortune on flat white shoes I would never wear again, my wedding theme was purple and to be honest I had wanted those boots for years but could not justify buying them! The minister pronounced us man and wife and then said 'turn round and show everyone your shoes!'

My point is be yourself, it's your day, wear what you are comfortable in!

All the best.

Titus_Wadd

I got married ( my 2nd, his 1st) in a red velvet dress from Laura Ashley, full length.  I wanted a very small and low key wedding, but the guest list grew once the outlaws got involved!  Four of my immediate family, and 6 old friends. The rest of the 50 from his side.  We didn't have an evening meal, so the rest drifted away leaving us in the bar with around 10 close friends.  No speeches, 100% candid photos with no big groups.  I'm not saying do this but stay true to your and his preferences.   Eg. My Dad had died and I didn't need to be given away by anyone; I'd lived away from my parents' home over 10 years.  We weren't separate the night before and waked down the aisle together.  The whole thing was planned and executed in less than 8 weeks.  We loved every minute and still bonkers for each other 30 years later.  We paid for it ourselves.
Plan the day to suit you both and you'll enjoy it I'm sure.  Xx

bluelass

Doodles said:

I would say the outfit should match the formality of the event so given its a castle, Rolls Royce etc then you do need something elegant.  

Have you checked out the wedding section on Monsoon (online)?  Phase Eight is another choice for formal occasion wear

I want a gown similar to the one the duchess of sussex wore to her wedding  but i dont want white.
Also i like bateau necklines but dont want my neckline as deep as Meghans was.
I am going for a plain dress but with a dramatic veil 20 feet long in pale champagne silk tulle edged with chantilly lace flowers.
I am a size 12.

Pollycat

I'm sure that what you want is out there.

bluelass

Titus_Wadd said:

I got married ( my 2nd, his 1st) in a red velvet dress from Laura Ashley, full length.  I wanted a very small and low key wedding, but the guest list grew once the outlaws got involved!  Four of my immediate family, and 6 old friends. The rest of the 50 from his side.  We didn't have an evening meal, so the rest drifted away leaving us in the bar with around 10 close friends.  No speeches, 100% candid photos with no big groups.  I'm not saying do this but stay true to your and his preferences.   Eg. My Dad had died and I didn't need to be given away by anyone; I'd lived away from my parents' home over 10 years.  We weren't separate the night before and waked down the aisle together.  The whole thing was planned and executed in less than 8 weeks.  We loved every minute and still bonkers for each other 30 years later.  We paid for it ourselves.
Plan the day to suit you both and you'll enjoy it I'm sure.  Xx

I don't really want to be given away as such I have always found that a funny concept in today's society.
I'm a strong woman who has been through a controlling marriage and now met the true love of my life.
I'm going to exit the car with just me and 2 flower girls and page boys and astend the steps by myself and let my attendees walk in front with me following them. When I get just before the aisle my dad can leave his seat and walk me to my husband to be.
We are having a cantor as it's going to be a reform Jewish service as my fiancee is from that religion. My dad didn't give me away at my first wedding long story I will get round to that someday.

bluelass

bluelass said:

Titus_Wadd said:

I got married ( my 2nd, his 1st) in a red velvet dress from Laura Ashley, full length.  I wanted a very small and low key wedding, but the guest list grew once the outlaws got involved!  Four of my immediate family, and 6 old friends. The rest of the 50 from his side.  We didn't have an evening meal, so the rest drifted away leaving us in the bar with around 10 close friends.  No speeches, 100% candid photos with no big groups.  I'm not saying do this but stay true to your and his preferences.   Eg. My Dad had died and I didn't need to be given away by anyone; I'd lived away from my parents' home over 10 years.  We weren't separate the night before and waked down the aisle together.  The whole thing was planned and executed in less than 8 weeks.  We loved every minute and still bonkers for each other 30 years later.  We paid for it ourselves.
Plan the day to suit you both and you'll enjoy it I'm sure.  Xx

I don't really want to be given away as such I have always found that a funny concept in today's society.
I'm a strong woman who has been through a controlling marriage and now met the true love of my life.
I'm going to exit the car with just me and 2 flower girls and page boys and astend the steps by myself and let my attendees walk in front with me following them. When I get just before the aisle my dad can leave his seat and walk me to my husband to be.
We are having a cantor as it's going to be a reform Jewish service as my fiancee is from that religion. My dad didn't give me away at my first wedding long story I will get round to that somed

bluelass

This is the type of gown I would like but in a champagne colour instead.