Simplifying Life

mary43

ceridwen - good luck and do hope your father isn't as bad as your Mum implies. I'm due to see Mum on Wednesday - brig bruv says she's very bright and alert, awake most of the time............but he's said this before and the picture I had in my head then was not what I saw. So, I'll no better when I see her.
Thats if dentist can fix my tooth without taking it our and me having to wait three days for it to be put on my denture............daren't venture out with middle front tooth missing -folk wondering where my pointy hat is etc.
Plus OH's stomach still isn't quite as it should be. Nowhere near as bad and he got yet more medicine from the chemist yesterday -last night he was really bright and cheerful and seemed ok..........this morning he's still feeling utterly worn out, stomach churning away so says he's going to the doctors in the morning. Not like him to resort to our medical profession so he must be feeling a bit 'off colour' to say the least but being typical male he''s either got 'man flu' when its just a cold, or says nothing much when he's realy not feeling right. So, teeth and OH's stomach permitting I'll hot foot it to Mums on Wednesday.

Aril

Hello virtual friends:j
Help the small person has decluttered his room and has produced a big box of unwanted goodies and about 70 books [many of them are from when he was much younger but he still wasn't ready to get rid of them at Christmas]:eek: Freecycle here I come:D I've also got a big bag of stuff for the charity shop collection tomorrow. The once thing I have noticed since simplifying is just how much stuff passes through my door both going out and coming in. My life seems to be a constant exchange of items between friends and family.
It's been a quiet day here today but I have caught up and finished many little jobs which had accumulated. The ironing and the mending are done and then we went out and had a very unfrugal lunch at the local wildlife reserve. The shepherd's pie I had already prepped for tea will make an appearance tomorrow night instead.
Thought I would leave this one with you today...it made me smile!
I believe that everyone else my age is an adult whereas I am merely in disguise.
Margaret Atwood.
Arilx

mary43

Aril - love the quote.............where do you find them ? That's definitely one for me to keep and also to give to my friend...............lol

Oldest boy back now from visiting girlfriend and has brought girlfriend back with him:eek: Fair enough he did ask first but I laid down condition that a mush messed up bedroom with his name on the door is in great need of a 'muck out'................he has agreed so here's hoping ! He did chuck a lot out last week but still there's a load left and what he threw out wasn't worth passing on to anyone else. Doubt there's anything left in his room that won't be destined for the bin !
Promised myself a tidy up of half done christmas pressies - and some that are actually finished - had every intention of putting them upstairs out of the way................still, there's time yet.

Beki

We've been decluttering big style We've done the whole of the upstairs - our bedroom, ds's and dd's (which was a MAJOR job! :rolleyes: ) and the landing, which is quite big and took a while!

We're halfway through the bathoom, and nowhere near doing the living room and kitchen yet! lol

We WILL get there though! Thanks for the inspiration everyone

ceridwen

mary43 wrote: »

ceridwen - good luck and do hope your father isn't as bad as your Mum implies. I'm due to see Mum on Wednesday - brig bruv says she's very bright and alert, awake most of the time............but he's said this before and the picture I had in my head then was not what I saw. So, I'll no better when I see her.
Thats if dentist can fix my tooth without taking it our and me having to wait three days for it to be put on my denture............daren't venture out with middle front tooth missing -folk wondering where my pointy hat is etc.
Plus OH's stomach still isn't quite as it should be. Nowhere near as bad and he got yet more medicine from the chemist yesterday -last night he was really bright and cheerful and seemed ok..........this morning he's still feeling utterly worn out, stomach churning away so says he's going to the doctors in the morning. Not like him to resort to our medical profession so he must be feeling a bit 'off colour' to say the least but being typical male he''s either got 'man flu' when its just a cold, or says nothing much when he's realy not feeling right. So, teeth and OH's stomach permitting I'll hot foot it to Mums on Wednesday.

Thanks for the good wishes Mary....well....I can see he's feeling weak and doesnt basically want to eat and they are both into their intermittent discussions they have with each other about "You'd better go first - no you'd better go first"....thats how things are in my family. They've both told me they've "had enough" and I know my mother still misses her father and older brother all these decades later - so she was going on about how it had been too long and why did her father leave her (ie die) whilst she was still a child and he'd "better be there to meet me when I go". So - I replied that her father couldnt help leaving her, he didnt want to leave her, but he had to go and they will both be there to meet her.

So...who knows how long? I can understand how the longing for freedom/safety/peace/etc must get stronger as one gets older...and just plain being healthy again (ie free from illness)...so, what can I say? Its up to them...

mary43

ceridwen - its such a shame your Mother feels like that towards her father - still the little arguements that your parents seem to be having with each other about 'who goes first' just might give them the strength to carry on........although I'm never sure its a wise thing if you know what I mean.
My poor old Mums been wanting to go for over a year now but she's still going strong..........well as strong as she can be.
I do hope I've learned something from it all, sad as it is, I would hate my kids to feel as I have this past year . I've hated the feelings of guilt, helplessness, inadequacy........but in the end learned to come to terms with how I feel and how to deal with the situation.
All we can do really is be there when we can and meantime, carry on with our own life. There are limits to what we can say and do..........old folk are very strong willed with minds of their own.
Hope everything goes ok for both of them

mary43

Just a quick pop in to let you know that, front tooth permitting, I'll be away at my Mums till Friday night.
(hoping dentist can fill front tooth..........if it comes out and I look like a witch I shan't even leave the house, let alone go visiting anyone..........lol)

Charis

I made the mistake of posting on the Morgage Exit Fee thread My first post ended up in the middle of a slanging match between several posters and was completely ignored. I opened a new thread only to have someone who says he is a mortgage advisor give me what I interpreted as a very curt reply which boiled down to 'phone them up yourself and demand something off'.

I'm so relieved folk on the OS list are so nice to each other. We get so much more out of our little community. There are accusations and insults flying like grenades on some threads. Some poor kid posted on another thread about having reserved a seat on a train only to find the train packed to the gunnels and someone in her seat. I was not at all impressed with the response, supposedly from adults who consider themselves members of MSE. :cool:

Hugs to all. :grouphug: I'm staying within OS and won't even bother to ask for advice outside (except maybe green & ethical).

Charis

Ellidee

Charis I agree - some of the people in the 'Arms' :eek: . However there are some lovely peeps in DFW- check out the Daily Chat thread. Also the Good Enough Club thread which IS in the Arms I think.

LameWolf

I don't understand peoples' need to be unpleasant to each other. I've stuck my head into the "Arms" on a couple of occasions, but never felt inclined to post there, as I felt positively intimidated!

Maybe OS-ers have more common sense than some.:rolleyes:

Mary if it's any consolation, some of my best friends are witches.....:rotfl: