Help! dealing with puberty

LashyLashla

I remember when my best friend gave her daughter "the talk" about S...E...X.

She explained the physical part of what happened and asked her daughter if she had any questions. Daughter said "That's gross, why didnt you just adopt children rather than having to do that twice?" :rolleyes:

Best friend opened a bottle of wine and proceeded to explain that people didnt just do it to have children, it was also because it was a way of sowing love between a husband and wife.

Daughter not impressed and wouldnt look mum in the eye for another week!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

anonymousie

MortgageMamma wrote: »

Hi All

I was wondering if someone could help me help my daughter

she is in the last year of primary school and has become to develop physically, I am taking her to get a bra fitted on saturday

She has been v emotional lately and low and says she doesnt know why, and is complaining of pains down below

I suspect her body is preparing for her first period, and I remember when I was that age and how alarmed I was when it happened to me (my mother didnt prepare me and was dissmissive when I thought I'd cut myself down below) I don't want my girl to go through this alone

I have had a brief chat with her tonight, but she didnt seem to take it in, so I wondered if anyone on here knew of a book I could buy her to explain things a little more sensitively - she may be less embarassed this way

Any suggestions would really help, and also, what age do you have to be to take pain relief such as paracetamol tablets? somehow giving her calpol doesnt seem to cut it anymore....

Have you looked at this?
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Whats-Happening-Me-Girls/dp/0794512674/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1199089412&sr=1-1

I have it in hand for DD2. Looks pretty good.

Sorry I haven't read all the replies but you have no doubt had some great advice- be positive without being scary- "you are a lady now" and other phrases I havew heard people use would scare me silly as a little girl:mad: :rotfl:
It is just "preparing to be grown up when you are older" like getting taller and learning new skills etc.

Re painkillers- she can have age appropriate doses of paracetamol, and calpol or tablets it is all the same.You say "calpol doesn't cut it anymore" but are you using the top dose fr her age range- which may be quite a few spoonsful! She can also have ibuprofen medicine at top dose for age as well.

anonymousie

Quackers wrote: »

My daughter has found the always towels that come with an individual wipe on each one really useful.

They are really handy - especially when at school.

Also - she found the wings really hard to deal with - and has switched to standard ones. But she is disabled and really struggled with the whole wings thing

DD1 is 14 and uses the thinnest towels with wings- I get what ever is on offer (kotex seem popular with her, always are ££!!).She doesn't use tampons as she can't get on with them. She isn't at all shy about it which is great. Dark knickers are a good idea. re bathing- we have some old fabril nappy boosters (shaped like a sanitary towel) and she grabs one to pop in place whilst drying then sticks it in the wash.

BTW we have the old "bedwetting sheets" back on both girls beds too- they are wonderful things- not your usual plastic sheet but a waterproof layer with flanellette each side so not sweaty or noisy. THey were from one of the posher baby catalogue things and were expensive but have now had 14yrs use and will go on for aever!!