Which dating site(s)

ChilliBob

I have been tasked with helping to find my sister in law a partner, male.

Basically she (36) has had a string of relationships and has failed to meet anyone worth staying with, mainly blokes who basically were either stringing her along or were a waste of space

Me and my wife reckon we can have a stab at making a decent profile to her and helping her sift through the results so to speak (yep, I'm aware that makes it sound like an interview process!).

So yeah, she's 36, looking for a serious relationship, she's not super career focused or anything like that, down to earth, good fun. But odd saying this, but she's say size 8-10, good looking and keeps herself fit and strong!

So yeah, I have no idea what sites attract people only looking for one thing, vs those serious etc. I think shes tried quite a few, both paid and free. 

Any ideas much appreciated!

And yeah, fully aware this could backfire on us, I've already raised that!! 

MikeJXE

Which ever you choose read about romance scams first 

ChilliBob

MikeJXE said:

Which ever you choose read about romance scams first 

Yeah both me and my wife would be on the case here if she said someone wanted 5k for a short term loan or some other nonsense etc! But many thanks for the warning! 

sevenhills

Difficult, the few friends that I have, I wouldn't set  them up to date a female friend.
There is Facebook dating and there are also Facebook dating groups.
Do you have any suitable workplace males that your family knows?

ChilliBob

sevenhills said:

Difficult, the few friends that I have, I wouldn't set  them up to date a female friend.
There is Facebook dating and there are also Facebook dating groups.
Do you have any suitable workplace males that your family knows?

I think Facebook is actually where she has met some of the time wasters, but I think they have approached her. 

ChilliBob

Sadly not as regards mates or workplace - I'm not currently working and most in my last role were married off or far too young. 

pinkshoes

I'd suggest she stops looking and starts living. 

Tell her to go start doing hobbies that involve real people and that way she might meet someone she has something in common with. 

Martial Arts? Walking groups? Playing in an orchestra? A singles art group? Singles rock climbing night? Lots of local companies run nights like this!

Or use a dating group specialising in dating for those with a particular interest e.g. a friend of mine moved to this area after meeting her partner through a Christian dating site having got to her late 30s and not met anyone. Greatest Hits FM and similar always advertise their dating site which would be for people who like music. 

ChilliBob

She actually has started doing that sort of thing - going out with work colleagues more and she intends to start Jujitsu I believe!

At the moment I'd not say she has a specific enough hobby / view etc for that sort of thing to work. 

But yeah, totally agree with the concept big time. 

prowla

Was that Marital Arts?

In seriousness, I think the chances of meeting someone at a martial arts club is slim, though some years ago I did meet someone via an app and it turned out we had that in common.

ChilliBob

Yeah she's not doing the martial arts thing to meet people. Sadly she's sort of given up on meeting anyone after the last few years. We think it's worth a crack to see how things turn out if we write her profile (she doesn't sell herself!) and suggest some of the people who match with her etc - she seems stuck in a rut of always choosing the same type of bloke, and thus the same outcome results!

Devongardener

Is she happy that you’ve been charged with finding her a partner?  That sound extremely controlling.  

I wouldn’t want any of my family doing this for me.   She’s far better just getting on with her life and see where it leads, there are worse scenarios than being single.