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Money Moral Dilemma: Is it wrong I don't want to adopt the cat I feed and have to pay vet bills?

edited 7 March at 3:00PM in Pets & pet care
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edited 7 March at 3:00PM in Pets & pet care
This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

Last summer, a cat began coming into my house. It didn't have a collar and looked thin, and when it began spending most of the day at mine, I started buying it food. Eventually I found out it belonged to a neighbour, who has several other pets. They asked if I wanted to adopt the cat since it now effectively lives with me. I said no, because to me that just means paying vet bills... the neighbour didn't seem happy. Am I in the wrong, or should they be thankful I'm already paying for their cat's food?

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  • hairywalrushairywalrus Forumite
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    Clearly this.
    I don't see this as a money dilemma to be honest. Putting myself in your neighbour's shoes, I'd find it very odd to be aggrieved that you wouldn't want to adopt the pet that is in fact mine. You're well within your rights to say no.

    Cats are often very promiscuous in general, and presuming new ownership based upon it being fed elsewhere seems a strange stance to take.  I would more say in the direction of the neighbour that they "clearly don't want to accept the responsibilities of pet ownership".

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