Advice MIL died without leaving a will

Ms_Chocaholic

You will be able to get a copy of the Grant/LOA from the gov.uk website to show the value of your MIL estate, I think it costs £1.50, just in case that helps you both x

tetrarch

paul2louise said:

The accountant exists and replied to my OH and said she would pass this on to the sis. My OH decided to contact sis and state the facts of the law etc and that equal split. That's when he got the reply this afternoon with the poison she was spouting. She has money although she always pleads poverty since I have known her. I think my OH has got his practical head on now and isn't upset anymore with the stuff she is saying. I was nervous saying to him I thought she was on something but he said she takes pills and drinks so isn't surprised. I don't think he has been close to her for a long time but I feel so sorry when you destroy your relationship with family. I lost my brother nearly 18 years ago when he was only 30. I would give anything to have him still alive. My mum still feels his loss every day. He would have been 48 last weekend.

This must be especially tough for you as well with your sad family history. The most important thing is that you and your husband work through this as a team and support each other. I'm afraid that you both are going to be practical and hard-headed, this is now the time to go down the legal route and get a proper financial resolution.

There may be an opportunity down the road to repair the family relationshps, but you need to deal with this first.

Best wishes and good luck

Tet

Spendless

Hoping your DH hears some positive news this week about his inheritance.

My Nan died recently, Mum is sole executor of her will. She transferred the money into a new account so it didn't get mixed with her usual account - new account is a savings one, not taking into account that she wished to pay some of Nan's final bills by cheque so has been juggling money back and forwards between the 2 accounts. Even in the last week, an insurance paid out and Mum gave them her own original account to put the money in, not thinking rather than the account for 'Nan's money' so a transaction moved from account A, to Account B and then Nan's last care home  bill came, so money from Account B to Account A as Mum wished to send a cheque. DH helping her observed there was only a £50 difference between the 2 and to just transfer that instead, but Mum didn't because we have an estranged relative as a beneficiary who may well ask to see estate accounts, so each transaction she does has a reference. . 

It might just be that your DH's sister has got similarly muddled up with what has gone in and out of accounts and who is owed what, where and needs an accountant to look at it first.

Best wishes with it. 

paul2louise

Not replied for few days as I was waiting for next stage. He has instructed a solicitor to write to the sis. So just getting the details sorted and that will hopefully be heading her way shortly

Spendless

@paul2louise - Is there any update? I thought about this thread earlier because my parents asked me and my DH to go round and create a spreadsheet showing the incomings and outgoings of my Nan's estate from her dying to her final funeral bill. My parents moved my Nan's bank account to their own before thinking of getting another just for Nan's estate and my Dad's tendency to 'round it up because it doesn't matter' meant he had unwittingly put over £800 from his own account into my Nan's estate one. Fortunately it was spotted by DH and moved back to my parents account. Shows how you can get into a muddle. Here's hoping that this was the reason your sis-in-law wanted an accountant involved and your DH is nearer to receiving his inheritance. 

paul2louise

Spendless said:

@paul2louise - Is there any update? I thought about this thread earlier because my parents asked me and my DH to go round and create a spreadsheet showing the incomings and outgoings of my Nan's estate from her dying to her final funeral bill. My parents moved my Nan's bank account to their own before thinking of getting another just for Nan's estate and my Dad's tendency to 'round it up because it doesn't matter' meant he had unwittingly put over £800 from his own account into my Nan's estate one. Fortunately it was spotted by DH and moved back to my parents account. Shows how you can get into a muddle. Here's hoping that this was the reason your sis-in-law wanted an accountant involved and your DH is nearer to receiving his inheritance. 

My OH has got a solicitor to write to her. He is waiting for them to put all the facts together. Its taking a while but I suppose bank holiday has slowed things up a bit. He emailed them and paid the starting fee before Easter weekend. So hopefully might hear from them this week. I will post back when he does. Thanks for following this with me x

paul2louise

Spendless said:

@paul2louise - Is there any update? I thought about this thread earlier because my parents asked me and my DH to go round and create a spreadsheet showing the incomings and outgoings of my Nan's estate from her dying to her final funeral bill. My parents moved my Nan's bank account to their own before thinking of getting another just for Nan's estate and my Dad's tendency to 'round it up because it doesn't matter' meant he had unwittingly put over £800 from his own account into my Nan's estate one. Fortunately it was spotted by DH and moved back to my parents account. Shows how you can get into a muddle. Here's hoping that this was the reason your sis-in-law wanted an accountant involved and your DH is nearer to receiving his inheritance. 

My OH has got a solicitor to write to her. He is waiting for them to put all the facts together. Its taking a while but I suppose bank holiday has slowed things up a bit. He emailed them and paid the starting fee before Easter weekend. So hopefully might hear from them this week. I will post back when he does. Thanks for following this with me x

paul2louise

Update. After a few amends the letter has finally been approved to send to OH sister. So it states she needs to respond within 14 days. So fingers crossed it will be with her very soon and hopefully get sorted.

wilfred30

Did the solicitor's letter give any indication as to what steps they would take if she did not respond within 14 days or, indeed, at all?

paul2louise

wilfred30 said:

Did the solicitor's letter give any indication as to what steps they would take if she did not respond within 14 days or, indeed, at all?

Copied from the first draft

As an administrator, you are legally responsible for the money, property and possessions of 

the Deceased’s estate from the date of death until the date they are passed on to the 

beneficiaries. There are various obligations and responsibilities that you must follow which 

include distributing the estate in accordance with the intestacy rules. If you are unsure as to 

what this entails, you should seek advice from a solicitor. 

We are instructed that the Deceased left no surviving married or civil partner and yourself and 

our client are the only children of the Deceased. The rules of intestacy stipulate that the 

Deceased’s estate should therefore be divided equally between you both. 

We are further instructed that you have informed our client that you are considering distributing 

the estate between yourself, our client and all respective children. Our client 

has confirmed to you that he does not agree for the estate to be distributed in this manner. As 

such, to distribute in this matter would amount to a breach of the rules of intestacy and may 

result in a claim being brought against you. If found liable, you may be held personally liable 

for any loss suffered by our client. 

Next steps 

Please respond to this letter within 14 days to confirm that you shall be distributing the estate 

in equal shares between yourself and our client, 

Letter was probably sent out Friday. But by coincidence his sis emailed with more poison. She claims he stole his mum's possessions. He has a few of his dad's coins and stamps. Sis took all the furniture, jewellery, my bedroom furniture, royal Dalton and Wedgewood pottery. I don't know what planet she is on. Is this something that can cause us problems if she claims he has stolen stuff. I am not biased about this. We genuinely don't have anything of his mum's really and she pretty much cleared everything but she has got into her head we have stolen stuff. Its taken 3 years for her to decide this. I know she has sold stuff on eBay. 

Is this hot air or will this make problems with the settlement