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Sexism in london rental market

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  • sourpuss2021
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    edited 4 February 2023 at 2:38PM
    Are you talking about moving into an existing flatshare where the tenants choose who they want to live with?  And you all pay rent to a landlord who lives somewhere else.

    Or would it be moving in with a live-in landlord who owns the property?

    It’s true that female live in landlords will nearly always prefer a female lodger.   And some male landlords may too.  So yes I think there’s a bias there.  But in general it’s difficult for everyone since a lot of people of either sex compete for each room.

    By the way personally I had more aggro from the male boyfriends of female lodgers, than I ever did from male lodgers.   At least with a male lodger you have vetted and form some bond with him, but a female lodger could bring back some right !!!!!!/dangerous people and you’d have no idea who they were.


  • EssexHebridean
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    edited 4 February 2023 at 2:39PM
    I draw the line at women having the right to feel safe in their own homes, even if they don’t in many other settings. You clearly disagree though OP, as this really is a remarkably simple concept to grasp. 

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  • F37A said:
    F37A said:
    silvercar said:
    As a female, I understand the landlords point of view. There is a vulnerability in having someone move in who you have only met briefly, that vulnerability is greater if the lodger is male. 
    Why is being a male a threat if you know their occupation / have references / and can control notice periods? Where does that leave society if landlords are supporting discrimination. I think it’s disgusting.
    Harold Shipman would have had perfect references/occupation…….
    Was he a threat to someone he was living with? killed his patients didn't he. Still by this argument are you implying that men can be a threat in certain contexts and so should not have same access to housing as others? If men are a threat then why employ men for jobs they could kill people? if men are a threat why aren't they all dumped into prison. if men are a threat then handcuff them all no?

    Some of these female only ads are from pervert men who are despertate. So females beware which rental property you go for. it's acutally a danger if its male live in landlord.

    Also if you accept discrimination as a rule or justify (as above) it then might as well discriminate based on anything. No homes if you look like x will be headline. But where do you draw the line?

    No, I’m just giving an example of an individual who would have had a perfect reference and occupation.

    As for discrimination, I don’t think it is. It’s the owner’s home and if they are living in it, they are perfectly entitled to decide who lives with them.
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  • F37A
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    F37A said:
    silvercar said:
    As a female, I understand the landlords point of view. There is a vulnerability in having someone move in who you have only met briefly, that vulnerability is greater if the lodger is male. 
    Why is being a male a threat if you know their occupation / have references / and can control notice periods? Where does that leave society if landlords are supporting discrimination. I think it’s disgusting.
    Wayne Couzens. 

    Are we done with this conversation now? 
    Fair point. I accept males seen more of a threat than before with media headlines at the moment. However if a man steals a good doesn't mean all men are thieves?  But if we are trying to justify discrimination then doesn't leave us in a great place as a society.  
  • Emily_Joy
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    I think the situation is partially due to a salary gap. Female workers often get paid less than male workers for doing the same job. Thus to make up the difference they need to rent a room out. Predictably, they feel safer sharing a house with a female. Hence we see more female only adds.
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