Neighbour issue

SadieO

JGreenwood said:

It does seem a bit extreme to move because of this. Plus, so many people smoke, there's no guarantees that in your next place you'd live next to a non smoker.

Also, imagine if you moved and ended up next to another smoker (or worse) and then somehow found out that your former neighbour had also moved - or had quit smoking!

OP, I think this is something you've got to learn to live with. I can understand the annoyance about the smoking but I think it's a bit much to complain about them cooking. It's just part and parcel of living near to other people, and frankly I think there's worse they could be doing!

_Sam_

diystarter7 said:

Hi

True and possibly unfriendly etc etc but as I've and others have said, especially me, an older detached house etc that have bigger, wider gardens may be a good way forward.

There are no easy solutions and personally, I'd feel like the OP but I would not say anything to next door unless we were good friends/etc and then possibly say something re smoking and the impact on us but would not say anything re food.

Thanks

One of the main reasons we moved to a detached house from the previous semi was dog barking. We had very good neighbours, really lovely on the non-attached side, and quiet on the attached side. I knew that the attached neighbours were a bit annoyed by our dogs barking. When we were at home it wasn't not a problem as we could shush the dogs before they even started, but left alone in the house they could at times entertain themselves by barking, which the attached neighbours would then hear.

The neighbours only mentioned it to us "in passing" as if not making a big deal out of it, but it obviously made us aware that they were annoyed, and that awareness immediately put a pressure on us - we would be constantly worried leaving the dogs alone should they start barking, we bought "talking" cameras (to no great effect) etc, but basically we ended up pretty annoyed to! 

So the only way to achieve a stress-free lives for ourselves was to move. Now in a detached house (1950's type with enough space between houses!) it is a blessing. We can allow dogs to have some fun barking for a bit while inside even if we are at home, as we know no one could hear it, and we no longer have to worry leaving them alone.


The point of this long story is ( ) I would not say anything to my neighbours if I was the OP about something as minor as smoking and cooking. If the neighbour is of non-caring type they would just ignore you and continue doing the way they did, if they are caring they'll probably end up upset and stressed from then on every time they want to cook something or smoke on the back porch.

I say 'minor' because to me smoking and cooking in one's own house is considered "normal" in our society. That may well change in the future, at least for smoking, the more people become non-smokers and the less socially acceptable smoking becomes. But I don't think we are there yet!
  

diystarter7

SadieO said:

JGreenwood said:

It does seem a bit extreme to move because of this. Plus, so many people smoke, there's no guarantees that in your next place you'd live next to a non smoker.

Also, imagine if you moved and ended up next to another smoker (or worse) and then somehow found out that your former neighbour had also moved - or had quit smoking!

OP, I think this is something you've got to learn to live with. I can understand the annoyance about the smoking but I think it's a bit much to complain about them cooking. It's just part and parcel of living near to other people, and frankly I think there's worse they could be doing!

Hi
I disagree. Moving has massive risks we all know that. However, older, date etc as per my previous posts does do the trick.
It does not have to be 'part...' etc and even if it is, a larger garden, det house as previous posts may do the trick.

To anyone suffering in this way, do consider the move but there are no guarantees unless you have loads of money and buy a hause with a massive garden or live up north where you can easiy get outside town much larger property with 1/3 to half and acres of land for around5/600k.

John_the_Boy

I remember a thread where someone's neighbour had a hot tub and it was causing them noise distress. They put some comfrey and water in a lidded container which stinks when it starts to rot and whenever the hot tub was used they took the lid off and it soon stopped them using the hot tub.

Might be something to consider every time the neighbour has a cigarette by the back door   

Skiddaw1

Getting_greyer said:

Could be worse, my neighbour has got a wind chime.

That'd be my husband's worst nightmare.... .... I, on the other hand, love them! Given half a chance I'd have one like Aunt Meg's in the movie 'Twister'..

diystarter7

John_the_Boy said:

I remember a thread where someone's neighbour had a hot tub and it was causing them noise distress. They put some comfrey and water in a lidded container which stinks when it starts to rot and whenever the hot tub was used they took the lid off and it soon stopped them using the hot tub.

Might be something to consider every time the neighbour has a cigarette by the back door   

Hi
I know you are not being serious but that was funny, lol.

An option I had forgotten about may be a solution is build an extension to max height right up to the fend and have sealed windows nearest to next door and windows that open on the other side.

Thanks

elsien

That seems a little disproportionate in terms of effort and finances for a bit of cigarette smoke.

davemorton

diystarter7 said:

YoungBlueEyes said:

The government will never totally ban smoking, where would they recoup all that lovely tax from? 

I bet you they will as smoking revenue is less than years ago (based on infaltion) and the toll on epoples health inc secondary smoke costs us the taxpayers billons more than the income

Thanks

Apologies for calling you up on this, but this is just not true, it is one of those urban myths that people keep spreading. PLease check out the research into this as false information is not helpful to anyone.  

diystarter7

Hi OP

Just been reading this, you may find it helpful - but the extension idea I posted is cheaper, easier than moving and possibly adding value and enjyability to your house

https://www.porterscleaning.com/blog/how-to-erase-the-nasty-cigarette-smell-from-next-door/


Thanks

sheramber

Getting_greyer said:

Could be worse, my neighbour has got a wind chime.

Our neighbour had one of these and our dog thought it was the doorbell every time it chimed. That resulted in her barking every time.