Regret moving 4 months in

movilogo

Firstly, don't compare your current house with your old house. Assuming you sold it already there is no point in comparison as it won't achieve anything. In case you kept your old house, you can put let out new one and go back to old house.

Now identify which aspects of the house you don't like. There are things you can't change e.g. location but few things you may be able to change e.g. if you want a bigger room and extension is feasible etc.

Understand the difference between things can can't change/outside your control and things you can change. Then work out from there. There are few things in life which, if can't be cured, must be endured. 

GiantTCR

het77 said:

We moved 4 months ago, and dislike our new house. We never liked it, we moved for other reasons (school, family). The other reasons aren’t as strong as we thought - questioning the real difference in schooling between area we moved from, and don’t see family that much more than we used to. 

Anyway, now the market is slowing, we feel majorly stuck. Just wondering how long to give it, if we’ll ‘settle’, or if we should just cut our loses. Has anyone experience of this?
oh, and we also keep finding problems with the house, bought at the top end before and must have spent £10-15k already on work, and we know it needs more. We will definitely lose money if we sell now. 

Yeah, if I was you I'd sell and move as soon as I can. Life is too short to spend it in a house you don't like. You'll lose money but the thing is money comes and goes, time doesn't come back.

saajan_12

You've mentioned why the positives aren't there / aren't as big as expected. 
What are the actual negatives - why do you dislike the place? Perhaps working out how you can adjust the layout or make other changes to mitigate those would help. 

Rumana03

OP reading this post sounds exactly how I feel. We also moved about 4 months ago. We moved from London to a place which feels the opposite to London.
The house we brought was one that we liked best during all the viewings we went to but now I realise we did overpay. And like you, I also keep finding things that I do not like.

Unfortunately when we looked at the house we imagined our daughter would get a place at the school nearby but instead the only school which had a place for her is 2nd furtherest to us (which isn't the issue). But the school itself seems like it lacks funds. The teachers do not have enough parking spaces so park randomly in front of the school and parents each morning have to weive their way through...it's such an embarrassment. The kids each lunch in their classrooms. This was supposedly introduced during covid times but for some reason they are continuing it...I know covid is still going on but it seems odd to keep the kids in their classes and not mixing with others.
And the buses...omg the buses here confuse me. Double decker buses which only have one door meaning you enter/exit the bus the same way. 

To be honest since moving it has made me realise how good London is. I guess I didn't fully appreciate it till I moved. The only good things about where we have moved to is that crime is low & the people are mostly friendly (random people will just say "Good morning" and "Hello" to you).

Our plan was only to stay for 3 years but I'm hating it here so much that every day I dream of going back to London. Also being away from family makes me realise how much I am missing and also lacking any support system here...

movilogo

omg the buses here confuse me. Double decker buses which only have one door meaning you enter/exit the bus the same way. 

Seems you have never been outside London  With just one door, there is less confusion. I get confused with 3 doors in London double decker buses. 

Life outside London is very different. I prefer countryside much more than London. But this is down to personal needs & wants. 

Rumana03

I have been outside London many times but I guess when you go somewhere in the UK on holiday, you tend not to dwell on things too much as you are only there for a short while.

London buses are quite straight forward with the contactless payment and no cash payments. But where I am now they seem to take contactless on some buses and others you have to tell the driver where you will be getting off for them to charge you the correct amount and give you a ticket. And they take cash payments which slows everything down.

The two doors thing makes total sense to me. That way you are not holding anyone up. Here we have to wait for passengers to get off the bus before we can get on.

Also in London you are only charged once if you change buses within an hour. It's a shame they don't do this in other parts of the country.

EssexHebridean

Yes, it's usually a bit of a mistake to buy a house somewhere because you thought it was nice when you were there for a fortnight's holiday... 

Parties03

@Rumana03 the bus comment made me laugh! First time I used a bus in London I had no idea that’s how they work there and the driver was so annoyed at me, once he heard me speaking to say sorry (northern) he realised it was a genuine mistake haha 

Cheesy77

Agree with what others have said about giving it a chance. Of you really can't stick it after a few more months then could you speak to your lender about doing a consent to let? Rent the house out so it covers the mortgage and rent yourself somewhere where you do want to be? At least for a year or two and then re evaluate or sell then so it's not so soon?

EndlessStruggle

I had made the decision that I wanted to sell my house again after a month of buying it.

Unfortunately the stress of the move was the straw that broke the camels back with my mental health.

I had a major break down that in hindsight was a long time coming.

I knew I wanted out but I told myself I would give myself at least 6 months and rethink.

Mainly because it couldn't be remortgaged for 6 months anyway.

Things had got worse by 6 months so I finished decorating and put it on the market, 8 months after purchase.

In this time I had invested 6k in fixes and improvements and redecorated the whole house myself.

I think I am one of the exceptions to the rule in terms of making profit/breaking even after so little time.

I bought the house at 325k in Dec 2021 and sold at 358k in January 2023.

The buyers were obviously suspicious as to why I was selling it so got a very thorough survey.

We complete Monday, 13 months after I completed on it myself.

The decision to move back to my childhood village is probably the best I have ever made but I was prepared to take a hit.