Frump to Fab 2023

cinnamon123

helensbiggestfan Thank you for the thread. I'm looking forward to removing a bit of the frump this year (in way too many areas of my life). Heading to bed now (I'm in the States) and have just showered and put on some perfume. Oh happy year ahead for all of us!

Watty1

HI All  I'd like to join  in please.  Whilst I haven't shared this with anyone else I really don't feel fab at all. I feel fat, down, unfit, my weight is increasing and my hair has fallen out really badly.  

In December I shared with my partner and he was adorable, suggested if my hair was really bothering me I find some wigs and that he can't see the weight at all.  But I feel it.

I feel scruffy and just not myself at all.  So at the end of last year I went to the doctor and he arranged a scan of the internal organs and blood test.  Had the scan, the lovely lady confirmed my liver was fine (I have had issues in the past and some of my symptoms suggested liver might be an issue) and I have a blood test tomorrow.

I strongly suspect a lot of my issues may be around stress and the menopause. I can do nothing about the aging but I think with your help I can start to feel better about how I am looking.  The stress is caused by an ex that refuses to actually settle up with me and leave.  (It is a very long story maybe for another time).

I know I can only cope with tiny steps to getting and feeling better so my first step was to post here and ask if I could join you and the second step later today is look through some cookery books and find some things that will make healthy snacks that will work for me so I quite binging on the biscuits and sweets.  I tried saying I would give up sugar for January and that felt like an epic fail yesterday but I know from the past I just need to pop some things in the freezer I can grab when I come in from working outside (3 horses) and that will be good. 

Also my surroundings are very unfab because I simply can't be bothered as the ex is here all the time (and just makes a mess and has even broken a few of my things).   However I can make my office where I work fab.  So I started that yesterday and will carry on.   It also occurred to me this morning I could make my bedroom which the ex doesn't enter more hotel like rather than scruffy (I noticed the sheet was torn this morning).

There, my intro.  It feels better to share some of this.  

helensbiggestfan

Good morning lovely ladies.  

Welcome to Cinnamon and Watty. Don't despair ladies, you have come to the right place for support, encouragement and hopefully a few laughs along the way.  

My advice is to try to relax and just enjoy the process. De-frumping takes time so just have some fun and take pleasure in doing something just for you.  Don't worry that you are being selfish or self centred.  You are not, there is a world of difference between self care and being self obsessed.  Your partners and families will feel the benefit of the new you, just as much as you will.  

This fabbing milarky really does spread out into your whole life.  You'll see. It's not just about lippy and perfume, that's just where we start.  It's really all about personal development and living our best lives. 

This week I am mainly concentrating on house fabbing.  Clearing the decks so to speak, ready for action.   The charity took the excess furniture although they forgot the high chair but I can load that into the car myself, it's not heavy.  Not a problem.  I have taken the Christmas decorations down and replaced them with some nice accessories. I have also been rejigging the kitchen cupboards, not quite finished yet.  

 

As I work I am setting some things aside for donating.  There is still a small mountain of excess "stuff" to get rid of.  It will take several trips to the charity shops but there's no tearing hurry.  I'm aiming to get it all done by Easter. 

Watty....hair loss is very demoralising isn't it.  Hopefully once you can reduce your stress levels your hair might improve.  In the meantime there's a lot you can do with hair toppers, wigs etc, even styling products such as thickening fibres and volumising mousses and gels.  A good hairdresser can work wonders styling hair to make it look thicker and can probably recommend products to help.  

I know what you mean about looking scruffy.  

When I started this thread I looked like a bag lady, not a good look. 😂🤣.  I still have my moments, especially when I am very busy or when I feel fat and bloated.  I don't look my best at the moment. I know I can do better.  I  have regained some of the weight I previously lost and feel a bit bloated after all the rich festive food.  I am looking forward to healthier, lighter eating now.  I have got into bad habits, partly because I was so busy moving house and I often resorted  to just grabbing food on the run.   Anyway the festive season is over so it's now back to healthy eating and shedding that next stone.   

My target is 1 stone by the Vernal Equinox, so I can skip lightly into spring 😂. No hiding under layers......

Lovely sunny  day here, although quite chilly.  

Loving the chosen words....,Radiance and Well-being.  Excellent choices.  

thepurplepixie

Hello.  I haven't been on for over a year, I got covid very badly and ended up with pneumonia and I'm still struggling.  I feel like I've aged at least ten years in the last year which is a bit depressing but not much I can do about it at the moment.  My GP has been really good, I'm having regular blood tests to monitor what is going on as everything is topsy turvy.  The worst thing is I am so tired, never been so tired and here I am thinking shall I do some lunch or just go back to bed.

I hope everyone had a better 2022 than I managed and I hope 2023 is a good year for everyone.

MrsCatz

Last night I gave myself a head massage and went to bed at a  decent time with my book. This morning I had a shower and spritzed my fave perfume on before popping to Sainsbo and bought a concealer for my eyes (I bought a universal one rather than one specifically for eyes as I couldn’t see  difference in coverage and the universal one was £2 cheaper) some chicken and veg to bung in the steamer later. I also snagged Christmas cards for 90p and some small decorations for the mini Christmas trees and the plant I decorate in the bathroom. 

When I returned I took the Christmas tree down and the rest of the decorations, washed and put away the Christmas mugs and planned the sewing projects for this year.

For lunch I finished the open Christmas foods and mace a ginger and lemon shot, which I will dilute with hot water for my morning and evening drink. 

This afternoon I plan to go for a walk around the block having declined a prom walk this morning. 

Small steps for myself and the house.

sugarbaby125

Welcome, Cinnamon, Watty and Purple Pixie   

sugarbaby125

Hello Ladies, 

Yesterday evening I went to Karaoke. I had a really enjoyable evening. I sang 4 songs: Return to sender by Elvis, The wonder of you by Elvis, Can't take my eyes off of you by Andy Williams and Hurt so good by Susan Cadogan. There were lots of other singers. I also got up and danced sometimes. I am aching today, but it was so good to dance, so it was worth it. 

I got invited to 2 birthday parties. On the 7th and 14th of January. Really looking forward to both of them. 

Wednesday2000

thepurplepixie said:

Hello.  I haven't been on for over a year, I got covid very badly and ended up with pneumonia and I'm still struggling.

Sorry to read that, it must have been horrible. Nice to see you back.xx

Hello to the other new people.:)

Abbafan1972

Hi all. 

Christmas tree is down and everything is away in the loft. Although we found a stray Father Christmas bauble under the tv unit that the cat has obviously stole from the tree and kicked under, so he is taken pride of place on top of the tv unit now. 

Had a good thorough vacuum round and all is looking tidy now. 

I have not long had a shower and feel refreshed. Need to get back on Slimming World plan - I will be returning to group on 12th January. Just need to get my mojo back after the festive season. 

xx

thepurplepixie

Thank you sugarbaby and Wednesday.  I see you're still singing sugarbaby, I remember that was always a big thing with you.  I can't carry a tune with a bucket so I do envy you.