Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my friend to pay me exactly what she owes me for tickets?

Missy15

Simple answer  is yes, as long as you both are doing equal shares in everything else,ie: drinks, coffees, car sharing petrol or whatever. Otherwise given the fact you have written in, and  you value the friendship it won't last.

DaBa

MSE_Kelvin said:

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I've a new friend that I go to concerts with. I usually book the tickets, then send her the booking confirmation with the cost. But when she pays me back, she rounds down the amount - so if her ticket cost £53, she'll transfer me £50. While individually they're small amounts, it's starting to add up. Should I mention it - I don't want to jeopardise this friendship, as I rely on her as my concert companion?

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Absolutely you should as all these amounts will tally up quite high. Or you could ask her to pay for drinks and snacks and deduct what she owes you from what you give for your portion?

DaBa

Absolutely you should as all these amounts will tally up quite high. Or you could ask her to pay for drinks and snacks and deduct what she owes you from what you give for your portion?

JaneHenery

Yes, she should pay you exactly, no discussion. What's with the rounding down? Who even does that? Why? Because it makes her life cheaper at someone else's expense? It sounds to me as if you are perhaps a little low on friends and you value having found one, but it also seems as if she maybe recognises your need and is milking it. She's not your friend if she's taking advantage of you, as bitter as that may be to hear, and it won't be long before she's expecting you to pay for other things, with the subtle hint that she'll withdraw her friendship if you don't.

If she IS a real friend she'll be able to take you kindly pointing out she's short-changing you all the time, and she'll be apologetic and embarrassed, and it won't happen again. Any other response than that is a red flag. . 

gpr1

Don't just copy the confirmation but also ask for the exact amount for her to pay . Just say the exact amount you owe is ...... If you don't get it then send email thanking her for payment but in the future could she pay back exact amount requested.

Hopefully that way she will get the message and without any bad feelings or discussions.

Belsyb

I would set up an account for both you of you to put in an equal amount to cover the tickets, drinks, food and transportation for your concert trips ... no awkwardness and fair all round

tastyfish

I don’t understand why she does this, it’s literally no more effort to type “53.00” than “50.00” when transferring. Bizarre. Does she have a few brain cells missing?