Ex Partner Remained in Our Home and is Wrecking It. 10 May 2022 at 4:55PM in Marriage, relationships & families 37 replies 3.6K views

gwynlas

Our reputable heating engineer is not interested in changing our bpiler until such time as it breaks down for good. It reached the grand old age of 25 this year

summerfields

gwynlas said:

Our reputable heating engineer is not interested in changing our bpiler until such time as it breaks down for good. It reached the grand old age of 25 this year

Yes, but it's an oil boiler. 

I live in N Ireland where most people have switched or plan to switch to gas. Oil at the moment is horrendously expensive, about £100 for 100 litres. It's impossible to budget-buy it, or buy small amounts - if you have PAYG gas, it's equally expensive but at least you can just stick a tenner in if you are short. Most buyers would react with dismay if they were told, 'the heating's oil' at the minute!

gwynlas

Information appears to be appearing in dribs and drabs. It appears that regardless of the current state of the property that you wish to move back in make repairs and leave the house to your children. If you are not on good speaking terms you are probably best off speaking to a family solicitor and engaging a mediatoe. He needs to be asked how much would he accept to relinquish his rights to the house and for you to take sole responsibility for the mortgage. You can pay this out of your forthcoming inheritance and carry out removations at your own pace.

sammyjammy

The facts are simple, you are Joint Tenants and you were not married, any child support paid or not paid is not related to the house at all.  If he is living in the house an dis happy to continue to the only way you can change this is to force a sale through the courts.

All this talk of the state of the house is pointless.  Unless you can negotiate otherwise the house is owned and would be split 50/50.

warwick2001

I find it remarkable an EA said the house was almost unsellable (even 6 years ago).

Round my way, there are houses that need every inch renovated/repaired, and they are still selling over the market value of a 'sellable' house.

I suspect, given the current market, pretty much any house on the market will sell, and probably for a decent amount too. 

A forced sale through the courts is probably the only way to attempt to move this forward (I'm guessing discussing the situation with the ex and coming to a workable solution is impossible).

Good luck

CottonTail

Forced sale through the courts via auction is the only way resolve. He will then need to house himself and pay child maintenance.

DE_612183

The OP hasn't actually stated what the result of any conversation were with her ex ( from what I can see ) she mentions the children being ignored - but has she actually put an offer either verbally or in writing to him?
That should be the first step before court.