Step parent title

Shelldean

ontheroad1970 said:

Shelldean said:

Ok I have two situations very similar to this.

This first was my own. When I got together with my now hubby I had already small child. Initially my partner as he was then was known as (Name) however I then became pregnant and we knew this may cause problems with names etc.
So we started calling him Daddy (name) child was still visiting their paternal grandparents with the father being there sporadically. He wasn't very happy with this South much like your OH.

But we was trying to blend everything.
Over time WE rarely has time for his daughter. And once I'd had the twins the daddy (name) faded away and he became Daddy.
Ex became just name.


Thankfully due to dad literally fighting to see his child, maintain a relationship and its generally staying in his life has resulted in him not call his mum's partner dad and he still calls his dad ....Dad!

All so bizarre!!

A talk may well help. But Mum not see that there is problem.
I know my relatives ex couldn't see the problem
And tbh while I could see the problems I was trying to sort out  things so everyone was happy. But in my case the EX just step up and actually be a father. So he slowly lost the title dad!

Sorry I've rambled and I've no idea if this will help you in shape or form.

But you're not alone xx

Bit in Bold - do you mean He rarely had time for his daughter?

Yes I either typed EX or HE and it auto corrected.

sheramber

What is in a name?  When my son was28 months old my husband changed jobs and until we sold our house and moved he was only home from late Friday evening until Sunday afternoon. My son referred to him as ‘the man’ and addressed him as ‘man’.  When we were together again he continued to call him ‘man’ despite my older one calling him daddy. Son was now able to spend time playing with his cousins and he started to call my BIL  daddy, hearing his cousins do so. This continued for a few months. We ignored it and eventually he started calling the right person daddy. 

TripleH

I'm 'over 30' and only this month referred to my mother by her first name in correspondence. I was after help from one of her friends on a matter and found it easier to refer to her by her name.

I always referred to my father as Dad (or Mr TripleH in front of clients) even when we worked together.

JGB1955

From the age of about 21 I called my parents by their first names.  I suspect others might have found that odd, but it worked for us all for 40+ years!