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the only flowers we had were a modest wreath which came from my son & I together with a spray of roses from his sister. These were collected from the undertakers & we then put them on his parents grave.
whilst I appreciate your sentiments please remember that the funeral forms part of the grieving process.
My Dad mid 70's recently was made aware of direct cremations and couldn't make sense of it all, he felt it was really disrespectful to not have a traditional funeral.
My Husband has always said he wanted similar and I did use to tell him the funeral was really for those left behind. Being a bit older I can see there is a compromise between the two, and I find watching a coffin disappear behind a curtain very difficult. Now I'm much more in favour of having a celebration of life followed by a scattering/burial of ashes
I don't think I'd want to even pay up front for it - just put the money aside if you prefer, in a savings account or something and just keep in touch with current prices, so you can ensure your funds cover it. If you pay in advance, you're paying now for the potential future increases and your money is gone and tied up for all of that time - and can potentially be lost too.
Each to their own of course. I'm not elderly but I would be very disappointed if a close family member chose a direct cremation, although I would never say anything to them. Sorry PO, not what you asked about but I just wanted to stand up for "traditional" funerals and say that at least one, not very old person greatly values the comfort they bring.