Who to notify after marriage? - NOT changing names

Tunstallstoven

Great, thanks for all the replies.  That seems easy enough then, and will be sure to let pensions know.  

RE insurance.  We always tend to choose policies which have free amendments, having been caught out in the past with admin fees for minor changes.  Taking on board there may not be a need to tell insurers, but OTOH I always have the view that if they can wiggle out of a claim for any reason, they will, and so best to keep everything 100% up to date.  No harm if no cost, just 5/10 minutes.

Thanks again

EP456

Mrs means “wife of” so you shouldn’t use it as a title if you’re not taking your husband’s name.  Ms is fine.

Flugelhorn

EP456 said:

Mrs means “wife of” so you shouldn’t use it as a title if you’re not taking your husband’s name.  Ms is fine.

Amazing how often you get called "Mrs  <maiden name>" even though you have not indicated that that is your title - I hate it, though it is no-one's fault, they are just trying to be polite

I answer to Dr H or Mrs B - however stuff is often addressed to, or I get phoned as Mrs H - keep thinking they are referring to my mother. 

On drop down boxes there is often only the choice of Mr Mrs Ms - in this case I put Ms H but they still get it wrong 

Mojisola

EP456 said:

Mrs means “wife of” so you shouldn’t use it as a title if you’re not taking your husband’s name.  Ms is fine.

That's the modern use but not the word's origin nor was it used to mean that until relatively recently in history.

Anyone, even an unmarried woman, can use Mrs if they want to.

Flugelhorn

Mojisola said:

EP456 said:

Mrs means “wife of” so you shouldn’t use it as a title if you’re not taking your husband’s name.  Ms is fine.

That's the modern use but not the word's origin nor was it used to mean that until relatively recently in history.

Anyone, even an unmarried woman, can use Mrs if they want to.

good point - it was "Mistress" so any adult woman. Bit like in Germany with Fraulein and Frau being defined by age not marital status

Tunstallstoven

Interesting stuff... 

So just to be clear, if you are married but have kept your maiden name there are no technical requirements for title? 

You can be married, with a maiden name, and choose to be a Miss, Ms or Mrs?

Sorry if I'm missing anything obvious!  

Mojisola

Tunstallstoven said:

So just to be clear, if you are married but have kept your maiden name there are no technical requirements for title? 

You can be married, with a maiden name, and choose to be a Miss, Ms or Mrs?

The two young women most recently married in my family have chosen -

1. To take her husband's name but use Ms as the honorific

2. To keep her own name but use Mrs.

Flugelhorn

Tunstallstoven said:

Interesting stuff... 

So just to be clear, if you are married but have kept your maiden name there are no technical requirements for title? 

You can be married, with a maiden name, and choose to be a Miss, Ms or Mrs?

Sorry if I'm missing anything obvious!  

not a case of choosing - you just get given a random selection of one of the above 

Tunstallstoven

Mojisola said:

Tunstallstoven said:

So just to be clear, if you are married but have kept your maiden name there are no technical requirements for title? 

You can be married, with a maiden name, and choose to be a Miss, Ms or Mrs?

The two young women most recently married in my family have chosen -

1. To take her husband's name but use Ms as the honorific

2. To keep her own name but use Mrs.

So I take form that that anything goes!  

Flugelhorn said:

not a case of choosing - you just get given a random selection of one of the above 

I see your point - that regardless of what you choose, companies, people, etc. may not use it in any case and will call you by what they see fit?!   

But when it comes to having the choice to make, on forms, when signing up to stuff, etc.  any can be choosed presuambly.

Ta

Flugelhorn

yes you can choose whatever you like