How to be assertive

sim2335

I brought a Xbox trade in PlayStation and paid extra then wanted a refund, because I didn’t like it as much as PlayStation.

I did say it didn’t work shop refused as they tested it, fair enough there in right

Anyway my friend says damage it like water or drop it, then say it don’t work.

My mum said they will find out.

Now Next time I speak to my friend, I will say they will find out he will be like how it’s impossible etc, which will create a argument I can’t win anyway.

Before he told me to keep PlayStation which I didn’t, so he will add that again and saying you will lose out.

So how do I respond?

elsien

Is this one of the so-called friends you’ve asked about previously?
Same answer - you don’t have to discuss anything with him if you don’t want to.
You’ve decided what you’re going to do. End of discussion. Just tell him you’re not up for an argument and change the subject. 

74jax

Just don't talk to him about the play station..
It's not being assertive, it's talking about what you want to. 
He mentions it, you ignore it. He keeps pushing, you say you are leaving. 
It's really not an issue. 

sim2335

He started a small argument today saying once you get rid of Xbox get a PlayStation straight away

I was like no I will get one when I want one

Then he’s like then ps5 will have good games, so you will miss out on loads of games, won’t have time.

Then he’s like you like rebelling against me that’s why you saying no

He’s like I had to tell you though, I haven’t lost anything, you will lose like you did with PlayStation.

What on earth do I say to all that crap.

elsien

Rebelling against him? I’d just laugh and walk away if someone said that to me.

OP, not sure I’ve asked this before but how old are you? 

sim2335

I am 35 years

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

He started a small argument today saying once you get rid of Xbox get a PlayStation straight away

I was like no I will get one when I want one

Then he’s like then ps5 will have good games, so you will miss out on loads of games, won’t have time.

Then he’s like you like rebelling against me that’s why you saying no

He’s like I had to tell you though, I haven’t lost anything, you will lose like you did with PlayStation.

What on earth do I say to all that crap.

Is this the same friend you have mentioned in various earlier threads?

If it is, I would sit down and seriously ask yourself if this 'friend' is worth all this trouble.

Mojisola

sim2335 said:

What on earth do I say to all that crap.

Hopefully, you realise this person is not a friend and you don't have anything more to do with him. 

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

He started a small argument today saying once you get rid of Xbox get a PlayStation straight away

I was like no I will get one when I want one

Then he’s like then ps5 will have good games, so you will miss out on loads of games, won’t have time.

Then he’s like you like rebelling against me that’s why you saying no

He’s like I had to tell you though, I haven’t lost anything, you will lose like you did with PlayStation.

What on earth do I say to all that crap.

He is trying to control you - and sadly, he's succeeding.

He is giving you poor advice.
To suggest you deliberately damage an item that you've already tried to return and been rejected because it works perfectly (you just don't like it as much as the brand you traded in) is stupid.
Lying to the shop that it was faulty when it wasn't was a silly mistake. Did he suggest that too?

NBLondon

sim2335 said:

I am 35 years

I think we have to ask the blunt question...  Are you on the autistic spectrum?

This person is not a friend.  They are repeatedly manipulating you and possibly taking their own perverse pleasure out of confusing and winding you up.  Can you think of anything they have done or said that makes you feel good - either about yourself or about life in general?  If the answer to that question is "No" - they are not a friend.

You need to break contact with them.  Abruptly if necessary - because it seems your previous attempts to discourage them aren't working.  Permanently.

Find other friends.  That may be hard work but it will be better for you.

sim2335

I’ve mentioned diffent friends in past it’s one of them.

The obvious answer is to cut him off, but then when I’m meeting him etc or having good conversation I’m glad I have not.

Yes he suggested lying to shop and I would defiantly get a refund.

I have had arguments in past, he says it’s his passion, doesn’t want to see my go wrong and help a friend.

Like if he saw someone driving of a cliff he can’t say nicley please stop.

I think he is genulliy trying to help but I don’t like his tone and his perstiamce 

It’s so hard to find other friends I connect wi