Alchemausterity II

greenbee

At least you know it needs work. Mine is apparently fine, but has been stinking, so work has been done to the drains. Smell seems to have gone, but I'm not convinced it's gone completely. 

savingholmes

Sorry you are going through it. I think listen to your gut but also ensuring you have stable finances gives you choices.

Alchemilla

greenbee said:

At least you know it needs work. Mine is apparently fine, but has been stinking, so work has been done to the drains. Smell seems to have gone, but I'm not convinced it's gone completely. 

Is it close to the house? Ours might be stinky but too far away to smell.

Alchemilla

savingholmes said:

Sorry you are going through it. I think listen to your gut but also ensuring you have stable finances gives you choices.

Thanks SH. TBH I tried to spend my way out of the grief of DH's death so not as financially robust as I could be.

savingholmes

Alchemilla said:

savingholmes said:

Sorry you are going through it. I think listen to your gut but also ensuring you have stable finances gives you choices.

Thanks SH. TBH I tried to spend my way out of the grief of DH's death so not as financially robust as I could be.

It's not an unusual response. Don't beat yourself up. I think what I'm trying to say is - do what's right for you with regards to the partner - but make sure that any hasty decisions don't blow up your finances.

greenbee

Alchemilla said:

greenbee said:

At least you know it needs work. Mine is apparently fine, but has been stinking, so work has been done to the drains. Smell seems to have gone, but I'm not convinced it's gone completely. 

Is it close to the house? Ours might be stinky but too far away to smell.

Pretty much right outside the front door, so noticeable when you arrive, if you have the windows open, and through the vent in the sitting room when the fire is lit... But it shouldn't smell - despite what some people say (most of my neighbours who can't even manage their treatment plants so they don't smell), a septic tank that is working properly shouldn't smell. 

Alchemilla

savingholmes said:

Alchemilla said:

savingholmes said:

Sorry you are going through it. I think listen to your gut but also ensuring you have stable finances gives you choices.

Thanks SH. TBH I tried to spend my way out of the grief of DH's death so not as financially robust as I could be.

It's not an unusual response. Don't beat yourself up. I think what I'm trying to say is - do what's right for you with regards to the partner - but make sure that any hasty decisions don't blow up your finances.

Thanks SH. Any decisions are fairly finance-neutral fortunnately. Unless I try to spend my way out of the sadness again 🙂

Watty1

Spending in sadness is one of my defaults, I'm grateful for this board and my diary as it does help me focus.

Alchemilla

Morning
I am going to set some targets.
This week

*Relationship - keep a journal of highs and lows
*Money - 5 NSDs
*Work - make some progress towards gaining a promotion
*Health - record BP am and pm for 5 days
*Home - clean puppy smears off inside of windows
*Family - offer some quality time or act of service to each child.

Please hold me accountable!

Alchemilla

Grocery spend last month £821.69 😱