Granddaughter dislikes me

swan6060

Maybe it is because she is fairly young. I can understand it must be very difficult but she will realize once she is a grown up. Even my nephew used to be like that but it changed once he started attending school

Brie

Chances are that you are completely normal in appearance and everything else.  It's not you.  It's her.  And there's nothing the matter with that either.

And to her you may remind her of the shadows the trees made on her wall one night.  Or a pattern in the wallpaper she thinks is odd.  You will likely never know.  Think of how many children were supposedly frightened of clowns a while back (and maybe they still are) I found that baffling but there's probably a logical reason to it if you know know what it is!

I like the idea of grandpa saying "grandma's got the toy, let's go ask her for it".  That makes is a fun thing.

kimwp

My friend's child used to toddle over to me with a book and sit in my lap while I read to her and even once cried when I left. That was before lockdown and now she eyes me suspiciously and barely responds if I talk to her, trying to edge away - my mistake was acting with the familiarity that we'd had previously, whereas she'd completely forgotten me. It would be upsetting apart from the fact that she's not even four. Key I think is to not try to get into their personal space or good books. So offer a hug, but don't push for one and don't be super nice if they aren't also being super-nice to you too. It's almost like gaining the trust of a skittish animal - tiny baby steps showing they can trust and have fun with you.

Edited to add-

It sounds silly, but you can freak a toddler out by smiling at them too much. Smile when you look at them, but try not to get their attention and they'll feel much more comfortable.