(Short version) should I leave my 2 friends?

gozaimasu

Jude57 said:

If your friend can't see how frightening it could be for a lone woman of any age to be approached by a stranger like that, he's not a very nice person.

The OP’s pal sounds like an absolute creep. If a random bloke looks like he’s coming towards me in the street, I move away in advance to stop him from approaching, and if he keeps coming then I’d be running away or putting my hands out to stop him coming near me.

sim2335

gozaimasu said:

Jude57 said:

If your friend can't see how frightening it could be for a lone woman of any age to be approached by a stranger like that, he's not a very nice person.

The OP’s pal sounds like an absolute creep. If a random bloke looks like he’s coming towards me in the street, I move away in advance to stop him from approaching, and if he keeps coming then I’d be running away or putting my hands out to stop him coming near me.

He goes to university’s and does it and shopping malls, at uni he just says he’s a student, once they become girlfriend he will say he’s not and his real age.

he’s obsessed even when we go theme park he goes this was a waste didn’t manage to do any approaches.

Don’t get me wrong if you see a girl nothing wrong with a approach, but to keep going out and approaching or trying to approach.

thorsoak

sim2335 said:

34, in full time work, and yes live at home with parents.

yes we have things in common, with my friends but I think it comes down to both of them don’t respect me.
first mate will almost always say something which will ruin the day, like smile when you ask that person question I idiot etc or tell me off
2nd mate loads of times had no
problmes with him, but loads of times I have when he tells me off, for something because he has a diffent opion etc 

I am shocked.   Completely and utterly gobsmacked.   From your first post I thought that you might be about 16 years of age.   

My suggestion to your problem?   Cut these two absolutely and utterly out of your life.   If they are the only friends that you have, then that's the reason - they are completely obnoxious.   Friend 1 sounds as if he is modelling himself on Trump and Friend 2 seems just to want to bolster any negative thoughts that you have.    You would be better off with no friends at the moment than to claim these two as your friends.

calleyw

People might like to read the OP's previous posts.  We had one a few months ago about a friend lying about their job.  I thought this posting style sounded familiar.

You have been told told before to cut out toxic people.  But you seem to be like someone who can't stop picking a scab.  I personally have no friends.  Not 100% happy about it but I have been hurt, upset and messed around by people. So I no longer trust people and are wary when people want to be friends or a nice to me because of it.  So there is only me and my partner.  Yep sounds lonely but 90% of the time I am happy with it.  I am just not a people person.  I have come to terms with that and having no friends. 

I get the feeling you have nothing else going on in your life.  Find a hobby either one that can be done alone or with others.  Stop getting so involved with other peoples lives.  If they want to lie thats their look out and they will get caught out one

gozaimasu

How did you meet these friends? From school?

gozaimasu

calleyw said:

People might like to read the OP's previous posts. 

Nope. This is one of the things I hate most about MSE. Trawling through any posters’ old posts and then using it against them.

sim2335

gozaimasu said:

How did you meet these friends? From school?

Both from college

calleyw

gozaimasu said:

calleyw said:

People might like to read the OP's previous posts. 

Nope. This is one of the things I hate most about MSE. Trawling through any posters’ old posts and then using it against them.

Its not using against them. I am not ripping the OP apart. But the OP basically has issues with loads of people in his life and that is worrying and they keep asking the same sort of questions again and again. And not taking on board what advice they have been given previously.

I do believe the OP would better off talking to qualified people. Who can guide him through any issues he has. Rather than bunch of strangers.

sim2335

calleyw said:

gozaimasu said:

calleyw said:

People might like to read the OP's previous posts. 

Nope. This is one of the things I hate most about MSE. Trawling through any posters’ old posts and then using it against them.

Its not using against them. I am not ripping the OP apart. But the OP basically has issues with loads of people in his life and that is worrying and they keep asking the same sort of questions again and again. And not taking on board what advice they have been given previously.

I do believe the OP would better off talking to qualified people. Who can guide him through any issues he has. Rather than bunch of strangers.

I do listen, I already left one mate who scammed me out of money to gamble

Pixie5740

@sim2335 have you ever had, or considered having, counselling to help you build more healthy relationships with people.  Nobody is perfect, we all have our faults, but I wouldn't want to spend time with these two people if they really are how you describe.