I am dating a married man-now what?

Andyjflet

Off you go, end the relationship its only going to get worse for you, find somebody who is serious about you. 

seven-day-weekend

He wants his wife in his own country and you as his bit on the side in the UK.  He thinks he can have it both ways and doesn't have to chose.  He is lying to both of you.

His family obviously agree with him and enable him to carry on being duplicitous.

He is MARRIED.   You don't have to understand why, it is just a fact. She is not his ex.  Dump him now.

gwynlas

Why is his wife not with him in this country? If they are from the Eu there should not be any barriers
You beleive that he is married and that his family are complicit in his lies despite being good Christians.
If your sexual life is fantastic then accept it for what it is and carry on seeing him realising that this is never going to lead to anything. On an MSE note do not get financially entangled with him
Otherwise start looking for somebody else do not listen to hos bull***t and move on.
The decision to continue is entirely yours and I cannot see that asking others opinions is gpong to change anything

AskAsk

doesn't sound good and it is terrible when you have been deceived and have obviously developed feelings for him.  however, you will need to leave him as he is married and so the questions you ask isn't really of importance here but it should be 'what sort of a person is he that has done this to you?  he obviously doesn't care about hurting you and is only interested in his own needs'.

leave now before it gets even worse for you.  at least you have now found out.

izawa

You are dating a married man, don't you think twice before doing something comical like this? His wife must be delighted at this.

strawb_shortcake

Hearing a new partner talk about his ex like this:

Also, he told me that his ex is a horrible, tyrannical, abusive woman with significant mental health problems, that she often experiences bouts of rage and insanity and that he married her simply out of pity. My boyfriend’s brother described the ex as ‘Oh my God, she is so so so crazy.’

Would have been ringing alarm bells from the start.
Perhaps if she truly displays any of the above traits it's because she has a lying cheating Husband  that made her that way? 

Pollycat

izawa said:

You are dating a married man, don't you think twice before doing something comical like this? His wife must be delighted at this.

The OP thought she was dating a single man.
She couldn't really have thought twice about it when she had every reason to believe a chap she'd just met.
I think it's a sad situation rather than comical.
The OP is likely to get hurt if she carries on with this.

ConfuseddMe said:

When I first went out with my boyfriend, he informed me he had recently got divorced and came here to start a new life. 

sheramber

What clarity do you need about someone who strings you along with lots lies? His wife may have good reson to be angry.

What makes you think he will change and not do the same to you.?

How many others has he done it to?

calleyw

You now know he is married and is not leaving his wife. And you seem to be blaming others for not telling you.  Not their job the person to blame is the person you are seeing for lying to you. So just move on.  Not sure what other advice you are looking for?  None of us can answer the questions you have.  Only he can.  And you wont get a straight answer out of him.

Block his number, lick your wounds and move on

warwick2001

This thread reminds me of the very familiar headlines:

"Married man lied and cheated me out of £000's"

It appears he hasn't tried to get any money out of the OP yet, and I really hope for the OP's sake it doesn't come true once again.....

My advice? Leave the relationship now and never look back. You deserve better.