Heating disputes

Banana1983782

Hi

Does anyone else have regular disputes with their other half over the heating?

Right now, my other half has every radiator in the apartment on 5, the boiler set to 70’C (the highest it will go) and insists on wearing shorts and a T-Shirt about the place!

The radiators are on all over “in case we use that room”, which is infuriating. 

I would quite happily not put the heating on, or set it low and add an extra layer. I appreciate that we are heading for Winter and everyone is different.

Even though we’re on a fixed tariff, I’ve just been told our monthly DD is due to increase by 79% due to projected usage. 

Every time I raise this it just ends in a blazing row which is getting me down. I literally cannot remove any layers - I would be naked! 

Does anyone else have this and any suggestions on finding a common ground?

thanks! 

tacpot12

I have this, but in reverse! I am the one that likes it warm, my partner likes it cooler. I'm not sure I can offer much advice as I have compromised and put on more layers. I've asked for thermal long-johns for Christmas from my parents, so I should be warm again after 25th Dec... 

I've been round the house and turned the TRVs down to 1 in the rooms we don't use - two children have moved out and the third is at Uni so we have some rooms that are not in use. We have the house thermostat turned down to 18.5 degrees. The thermostat is in the hallway which gets quite cold, so the other rooms tend to be  warmer and the TRVs limit the temperature to what my partner  wants. We share the energy bills, and I do want to keep them down, but whereas I turn lights off in the house, she is happy to leave them switched on all day!

I also turned down the boiler temp to 55 degrees as my partner was complaining that the radiators were too hot. Of course, turning the boilerr down means that the boiler is on for longer, but it should be more efficient as it will be in the condensing range longer. You might turn down the boiler a few degrees each week and see if he even notices. He might not. 

In essence, I think it is a battle of wills, and the winner will be the one who can keep up the battle for the longest without losing their mind over it.

MovingForwards

Low heating in the 2nd bedroom and hall.
Medium in the shower room.
High in the lounge and main bedroom.

My OH would be ok if I wanted the heating on all year round, but it's only the last 5 years I've lived in properties with GCH and DG; previously lived in places that were single glazed and had one gas fire to heat the whole property. I still go for layers, blankets and a hot water bottle over putting the heating on.

Your OH is taking the wee having it on full blast and walking around in summer gear. I'd be going round turning the heating down in unused rooms.

AskAsk

yeah, same here.  my husband would want to turn the heating on because he feels cold and yet he is not wearing a jumper or has a fleece on and has not zipped the fleece up.  me then feeling so hot as i have a jumper on and i generally have a problem with heat anyway.

we don't have blazing rows but we have disagreements, where i tell him he needs to put a jumper on or zip his fleece and he tells me to take my jumper off if i feel so hot.

we both mess around with the thermostat and boiler control.  he would switch it on or increase the temperature and i would then go and turn it off or reduce the temperature.  the boiler is continually turned on and off during the day as we change the thermostat.

it hasn't got to the stage where we end up in a row as i told him we may not be able to live together at all if we can't get to the correct temperature setting and this stops him starting any rows 

BellaLasagna2018

Get you OH to pay the bill, all of it! 

Banana1983782

BellaLasagna2018 said:

Get you OH to pay the bill, all of it! 

It’s not so much the financial element as much as being sat in tropical temperatures. 

74jax

Hubby and I are similar in temperature, we don't have the heating on timer just yet as the house is a steady 20ish but when I come in, I'm not getting the 'warmth' rush as it's not on.

Hubby is wfh but the study has so much it equipment it's the warmest room in the house 😂

comeandgo

Banana1983782 said:

BellaLasagna2018 said:

Get you OH to pay the bill, all of it! 

It’s not so much the financial element as much as being sat in tropical temperatures. 

I think it’s not so much the financial element it’s the fact your partner is not listening to you or giving you any consideration.

Pollycat

I've never understood this need to wear shorts and t shirts round the house in winter with the heating on full.
A friend's ex did this. But he did pay all of the bill.

In winter our heating comes on for an hour in the morning and 1.5 hours in the evening.
We knock it on for an extra hour if it feels chilly.
We both spend a fair amount of time in the study which is small and warm with PC equipment.
When I'm not in there, I'm usually busy - either ironing, cleaning or cooking. 

I wear leggings and sweatshirts in the house, socks and UGG slippers.
Luckily, we both feel the same way about heating.

Being in an over-heated house would make me feel very uncomfortable.

Gavin83

Honestly I hate wearing jumpers/hoodies/similar indoors and especially hate wearing socks. To be entirely honest I don't really like wearing anything indoors (except when we've got guests!) but I'll wear a dressing gown and slippers when moving about during winter. Saying this I'm the one who prefers the heating off, I'm rarely cold. My wife on the other hand does prefer it on and we do often have the battle of the thermostat. She's no where near as bad as your other half though.

One thing that does help is that we have a sofa duvet which keeps us toasty warm when sitting down. This is genuinely one of the greatest things we've ever done and I'm always surprised that no one else seems to do it!

sheramber

My son wera short sleeve tshitrs all year.

Similarly my grandson also wears short sleeved tshirst and shorts in the house all year.

Meanwhile the heating is set to 19 and my DIL had a heavy cardi on and sits with a blanket round her legs.