Ex wants to name my current gf on divorce

barbiedoll

My ex-husband went off to live with his future ex-wife when we split. I divorced him for his unreasonable behaviour (he was a nasty abusive drunk), and I honestly didn't care about the adultery. The new woman would probably have thought it was "romantic", that we divorced because of her. I wasn't going to give her the satisfaction of thinking that, I was going to divorce him anyway!

Jude57

sassyblue said:

Jude57 said:

I gave a lot of thought to fighting the allegations in court but eventually decided not to.

 I suppose that in future some genealogist may read those allegations as true and reach conclusions about my character but otherwise it's had absolutely no impact on my life whatsoever.

You don’t fight the allegations in court. If you decided not to agree all the judge needs to determine is has the marriage broken down and can your husband proceed with his petition.  The facts would have determined yes the marriage has broken down (it’s not difficult to say the marriage has broken down when one person is attempting to divorce the other) but your husband's petition wouldn’t have been allowed, therefore, he would have been advised to submit a new petition presumably citing your unreasonable behaviour.

the family court is NOTHING like a criminal court. 

I do remember one potential divorce by a husband who was incensed that his wife was 'getting away' with her alleged adultery. He was planning on inviting their neighbours and family to the court and was beside himself with rage that he wasn’t going to receive 'justice'.  He would not accept that he wasn’t able to cross examine his wife in court who had besmirched his 'good name'.   He ran up a quite considerable bill with the lawyer I worked for and then flounced to another solicitor because he wasn’t getting what he wanted.  He was extremely rich and as mad as a hatter.  I often wonder if they ever did get divorced.

Sloppy drafting on my part! I meant I debated whether to deny the allegations in my response to his petition and leave it for him to prove his case. This was 20 years ago so perhaps things have changed but the response I chose to give was to not challenge the allegations, nor to comment on them in my response. My fear was that he would name all my colleagues so it was the lesser of two evils. There was no truth to his allegations but was his way of punishing me for leaving. The marriage ended because of his unreasonable behaviour which I won't detail here, but he got in first with the paperwork to end it. I was in no hurry to divorce when I first left (with only a weekend bag and my dog) but with no children to consider, and as I was signing the house over to him, it seemed pointless to argue the toss. 

Reading about your client, if it wasn't for my ex not being rich, I'd wonder if your firm had represented my ex!