Annoying But Not Nightmare Neighbours

Murphybear

Skiddaw1 said:

I think you'll get used to it @jonners666 . I do understand however- we spent many years in an urban environment living in houses with party walls and whilst when we were younger we didn't give a hoot about (perfectly acceptable) levels of neighbourhood/local community noise it eventually reached a point where it started to get to both of us  We're now in a rural location in a detached house and I must admit I'm amazed at what a difference it has made to our quality of life. Having said that, we were really happy in previous home/location and I have no regrets about staying there for as long as we did. Here's to many good years in your new home- focus on all those lovely positives.

PS: You might find you become good friends with your neighbours. A few chats over the garden fence and a plate of home-made biscuits and you'll be invited to any future parties without a doubt...

Rural living is generally lovely but you do have to put up with the occasional Moooo or Baaaaa

While I have been reading this I have heard 2 noisy helicopters.  It’s not that uncommon as Yeovilton is just down the road.  Then I realised that the helicopters were on the television, OH is watching the tennis from Queens and the helicopters were flying overhead there 

Adsta

A party once a month is fairly tame. If it was every week or every day that's a bit much. But people should be able to enjoy their own home and have social events every so often.  

Like many others have mention what is normal to you might not be normal to them. Not everyone necessarily enjoys complete silence all the time. Especially if its just talking! if talking is getting through and bugging you that much, look at some noise insulation in your house. 

GixerKate

Seems pretty normal and within the bounds of everyday living, the bike noise - do they use it to commute?  Often bikers warm up their engine by letting it idle for a few minutes before setting off, if its a harley then that can be quite noisy!

Skiddaw1

Murphybear said:

Skiddaw1 said:

I think you'll get used to it @jonners666 . I do understand however- we spent many years in an urban environment living in houses with party walls and whilst when we were younger we didn't give a hoot about (perfectly acceptable) levels of neighbourhood/local community noise it eventually reached a point where it started to get to both of us  We're now in a rural location in a detached house and I must admit I'm amazed at what a difference it has made to our quality of life. Having said that, we were really happy in previous home/location and I have no regrets about staying there for as long as we did. Here's to many good years in your new home- focus on all those lovely positives.

PS: You might find you become good friends with your neighbours. A few chats over the garden fence and a plate of home-made biscuits and you'll be invited to any future parties without a doubt...

Rural living is generally lovely but you do have to put up with the occasional Moooo or Baaaaa

While I have been reading this I have heard 2 noisy helicopters.  It’s not that uncommon as Yeovilton is just down the road.  Then I realised that the helicopters were on the television, OH is watching the tennis from Queens and the helicopters were flying overhead there 

Round here it's usually traineee fighter jet pilots practicing low flying over Ullswater. It's like Top Gun sometimes.

Brie

I admit I've loved the fact that we've moved to a somewhat elderly neighbourhood.  Only issue with that is the occasional 2 am ambulance.  Thankfully that has been rare and the affected individual has always returned home intact.

On the other hand our previous place was a semi detached, with lots of families and loads of uni students - who didn't understand that some people needed to sleep on a week night in order to get up and go to work the next morning.  Apparently because they didn't have classes on a Wednesday it was fine to have the thumping music going to 3 am.

The other extreme was the very quiet people with whom we shared a wall who were highly offended by our very muted clock radio coming on at 5:45 and would bang on the wall to express their annoyance.  He would also run out into the street shouting at any child who decided that football was acceptable any where close to his car.  (counterproductive as it just turned them into little vandals)

That couple was eventually replaced by another pair of DIY enthusiasts.  Cue the drilling, banging, scraping at all hours.  Fortunately they were quite jolly and understood when I tapped on their door to ask what they were getting up to one day.  I laughingly told them that our 2 cats were sitting on the stairs waiting for the mice to come through the wall - turns out they were sanding things down on their side.  The only time it was a problem was when he decided to use something equivalent to a jack hammer at 9:30 on a Saturday night.  That time I banged on their door rather than tapped.  He thought we'd gone out and stopped immediately.

So the upshot is - if it's bothering you ask them about it in a friendly way.  That way they'll know you can hear them and they may moderate their behaviour a bit.  It's also a good time for you to state that you hope your little 2 year old or pup hadn't bothered them.  That's all expected noise really.  Not like the couple I lived above many years back - i think they were both sex addicts which didn't help as he was a grunter and she was a screamer.  I never figured out a way to tell them to turn down the volume.

amyr

You've got my sympathies, OP. I'm in a very similar boat to you - grew up in a quiet, detached house and the reality of living with neighbours has been an absolute awakening. Similarly, my parents never had friends with children round when I was younger, so family noise is also something I'm personally not used to!

I can't offer advice as I'm still driven loopy by neighbour noise. However, although it's not a cure for the situation, do make sure to get friendly with the new neighbours so any needed difficult conversations had in future feel easier, should the situation escalate. 

lookstraightahead

I struggle with car noise, dogs barking, drills etc. But I love having attached neighbours, much more so than being detached. 

Detached properties tend to have more cars, more renovations, more outside space to make a noise in, more people living there, chickens, horses, other livestock.
I live in an area where virtually everything is small listed cottages. Peacefully quiet.

arrows123

I wouldn't worry too much about the parties and tbh the ones sounds more like a few people having a get together rather than a "party", we've just been through over a year of not being able to see some friends and family. It's understandable people may be "blowing off steam" a bit at the moment and maybe having more get togethers than normal especially outside. I'd recommend getting to know them, I'd bet if you know them a bit better and maybe start to like them, the little things that are annoying you won't annoy you as much. It also puts you in a better place in case you do need to bring anything up in future. Like others have said it also works both ways. 

pinkshoes

I think I'd be more worried about neighbours that were too quiet!!

We used to live in a semi and our dog barked at the doorbell or anyone approaching the two houses. Our attached neighbour actually didn't mind because the dog sounded ferocious, you couldn't actually tell which door it was behind, so anyone knocking at the door would stand well back when it was opened!

Your neighbours sound perfectly reasonable with their noise, and no more noisy than you.

Chilli6

I've gone from a new build terrace where I never heard my neighbours, to a 60s semi where I can literally hear their conversations at times. Was a bit of a shock. However I have the attitude that it's give and take and as long as everyone sticks to that then it's all good. I know my dogs bark at times so they will hear them. Their dog barks alot as they're left alone alot but I put up with it in the hope the do the same for me.  If they don't then I will fully tell them how much theirs barks and suggest they use a pet camera. 
The noise you mention sounds normal everyday life to me. And don't under estimate the annoyance the sound of a toddler can make, particularly to someone without kids.