Scammed on dating site

kimwp

sassyblue said:

kimwp said:

sassyblue said:

MysteryMe said:

"It’s people like the rest of us on this forum who will effectively pay for your money to be repaid and why should everyone else suffer increased interest rates on credit cards or savings rates cut because you were daft?  There’s so much information everywhere about these scams there’s no excuse to send money to someone you’ve never met."

It is comments like this that make the job of investigators such as myself so much more difficult.  Two of the biggest areas for scamming are online dating and modelling sites and the percentage of victims reporting such scams to the authorities is much lower than in other types of fraud due to the embarrassment factor and receiving responses like that quoted. Someone being lonely, being vulnerable, being trustworthy does not make it their fault for being scammed. Victim blaming serves no purpose and actually helps scammers because the fewer the number of complaints, the fewer the numbers of investigations by either the police or trading standards.   I will also say using the word suffering in relation to interest rates is crass knowing the type of crime the OP has been 

Erm, where did I say it was the OP's fault? It’s ALWAYS the scammers fault but there is enough information and stories out there to read.

It’s also a fact we will all end up reimbursing the banks for anything they have to pay out, banks are businesses are they not?  The OP was asked more than once to share how she was scammed to helps others but chose not to.
I think it’s crass to make things up for likes but each to their own. 

Where did you say it was the OP's fault? "Because you were daft". Then pointing out that their mistake is covered by increased costs to others (while true) implies that they take responsibility, which would usually only be expected where someone is at fault. Hth.

The OP said she took responsibility for her actions if you read her posts properly and you agree that what she did ends up in increased costs to the rest of us.

Saying she was daft is not saying she was to blame, it’s saying she did something silly - it was you who called it her 'mistake' - which implies it is actually you who is blaming the OP. 

HTH

Yes it does, thank you for explaining.

Lavendyr

@sassyblue was spot on.
Had the OP felt comfortable here we might all have learned more.
Being kind costs nothing, folks.

izawa

Everyone reading this thread, please be careful. You would not transfer money to a friend without a genuine reason then why you want to transfer to someone whom you haven't met.

As for the OP, I feel sorry and I wish money gets recovered.