Child Maintence(CMS) Nightmare?

74jax

GeordieGeorge said:

74jax said:

GeordieGeorge said:

Whenindoubt said:

Thank you for the comments. I’m happy and contented now in my life and had moved on.  My ex-husband was fianacially controlling whilst I was married to him and applying for maintenance through the CMS for money he doesn’t need is just a way to get at me because it makes him sick to know that I have done so well after I left him.

It looks the other way round really, that you resent the fact that he’d done better than you. If your son goes to live with his father then I think that it’s right that his mother contributes to his expenses, just as your ex-husband has been doing when your son lived with you.

I 'think the point is, there's 2 children. One with each parent.
One can claim maintenance from the other, but one can't claim maintenence from someone who is a multi millionaire but not working.
I would honestly feel miffed too. 

She doesn’t actually know what he’s worth, or how many years the money has to last him though, and has been happy with the CMS rules while they benefitted her. People working in finance tend to earn high wages but to become unemployable young so she should have been setting aside money in the bumper years to cover the couple of lean ones that there will be now.

Completely, CMS should be paid from every non residential parent,  So if the ex was paying, I agree there's no reason why the op would not be happy (and I believe the op was).  Now the ex is not paying for the child not living with them, the op is not happy.  I totally get this.

Regardless of income being pennies or much more or benefits or whatever, if a child doesn't live with a parent for whatever reason, I believe the non resident parent should contribute.  So if the op has to give the ex £x amount, and th ex has to give the op £x amount, so be it.  But if both have a child and only one can claim then I think it's wrong.  Regardless of the money background.