Do-er upper and family expectations

easterbunni

If you're happy then who cares?

I wouldn't be inviting them round any time soon either!

Doozergirl

Pfft to big new houses. 

I bought my husband a piece of art for Valentines Day to hang by our front door. 

It says 'I thought about it in my head and I felt it in my heart and I longed for it to happen with all of my body and soul , but I made it with my hands.' 

And that is our house too.  A long story behind it with a great deal of struggle, but so much attention and love has gone into it.  Even though it's not quite finished, people say it feels like a real home.  

Enjoy the journey of making your house your own.  Yours. 🎈 

(Not some developer with a fancy marketing department).  

md258

My BIL is going through a similar thing at the moment- buying a (small) house needing a lot of TLC in a good (London) location for their needs. Me and Mrs md can see the potential and that it fits their lifestyle, but my other BIL and PIL think they should go for Shared Ownership / Move out of London / go for a flat in a better area / get something that doesn't need work / buy anything but that property.

I feel sorry for them (and you OP) having to fight to explain why this house is the right one for them, but I know when they have moved in and finished the work, they will be told how lovely it is and what a good purchase it was.

OP, it sounds like it is the right house for you- but you may need to write a list of those reasons so that when other people's opinions get to you, you can read it back and remind yourself why you are excited about your house and that it is the right house for you.

FreeBear

SpiderLegs said: shut up spiderlegs you don’t know anything about what we want.

You probably wouldn't like the black polished plaster in the lounge or the pale yellow Venetian plaster in the kitchen. But then you don't have to live with it...

zagubov

Sounds like you're describing our first house. Tardis. Magic on the inside. Loved it there. Took us three house moves to get back into one as good as that.
Move in, and treasure it.

lady1964

I remember the first house we bought in Essex, my in laws said along the lines of ‘oh, it a bit of a rubbish place for parking and it’s not as nice an area as **** (SIL’s) house. No, parking wasn’t great but it was what we could afford and we didn’t live in the parking area and the house was in a decent location and more importantly, the house had enough space and was suitable for us at that point in our lives.
Honestly, if you are happy with your house, does it really matter if others are impressed or not? No, it really doesn’t matter!

lookstraightahead

These comments have been so helpful thank you.

This house buy feels like The Good Life and we are Tom and Barbara, having Margot x 6 voicing their opinions! 

Falafels

Enjoy your lovely new home and let the Margots of this world, er, margot their little hearts out!

grumiofoundation

lookstraightahead said:

These comments have been so helpful thank you.

This house buy feels like The Good Life and we are Tom and Barbara, having Margot x 6 voicing their opinions! 

As usual Jerry doesn't get a word in edgeways then? 

warby68

I've owned 6 houses - I don't think my mother has 'approved' of a single one. She is very negative.  Its her in general, she always looks for downsides and doesn't believe in being happy because you're happy. Yet she is fiercely proud of her own home and extremely resentful of any remark that isn't 100% praise. Unlike my inlaws and our friends who muck in and share the joy even if its not their brand of joy.