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Family members taking money from parent whilst in care home

concernedinmidlands
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Hi All,
I'm after some advice on a moral dilemma that I have.
I am aware of a co-worker and her husband who are withdrawing money from her mothers account, and transferring this into their own account whilst her mother is in a care home. They are withdrawing cash as well as transferring the funds by both internet banking as well as using her late fathers bank cards. Her mother potentially has dementia however the Drs will not allow the mother to sign off a POA as capacity is under question, and this is having to go through the courts. They have been syphoning money from her mothers account since her father passed away last year, initially small cash withdrawals however now it's getting worse as the greed sets in. In my eyes this is clearly theft from her mothers account, as well as potential fraud by removing money from the mothers account that Social Services will eventually need to use to cover the costs of care.
I could do with some advice as to the best route of action to take, I can not simply sit back as they are stealing money as well as deprivation of assets for covering the care home fees, and are freely telling everyone they are doing this with no remorse. Should I go to the police or inform social services of the deprivation of assets ?
I'm after some advice on a moral dilemma that I have.
I am aware of a co-worker and her husband who are withdrawing money from her mothers account, and transferring this into their own account whilst her mother is in a care home. They are withdrawing cash as well as transferring the funds by both internet banking as well as using her late fathers bank cards. Her mother potentially has dementia however the Drs will not allow the mother to sign off a POA as capacity is under question, and this is having to go through the courts. They have been syphoning money from her mothers account since her father passed away last year, initially small cash withdrawals however now it's getting worse as the greed sets in. In my eyes this is clearly theft from her mothers account, as well as potential fraud by removing money from the mothers account that Social Services will eventually need to use to cover the costs of care.
I could do with some advice as to the best route of action to take, I can not simply sit back as they are stealing money as well as deprivation of assets for covering the care home fees, and are freely telling everyone they are doing this with no remorse. Should I go to the police or inform social services of the deprivation of assets ?
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concernedinmidlands said:Hi All,
I'm after some advice on a moral dilemma that I have.
I am aware of a co-worker and her husband who are withdrawing money from her mothers account, and transferring this into their own account whilst her mother is in a care home. They are withdrawing cash as well as transferring the funds by both internet banking as well as using her late fathers bank cards. Her mother potentially has dementia however the Drs will not allow the mother to sign off a POA as capacity is under question, and this is having to go through the courts. They have been syphoning money from her mothers account since her father passed away last year, initially small cash withdrawals however now it's getting worse as the greed sets in. In my eyes this is clearly theft from her mothers account, as well as potential fraud by removing money from the mothers account that Social Services will eventually need to use to cover the costs of care.
I could do with some advice as to the best route of action to take, I can not simply sit back as they are stealing money as well as deprivation of assets for covering the care home fees, and are freely telling everyone they are doing this with no remorse. Should I go to the police or inform social services of the deprivation of assets ?3 -
Safeguarding to local authority.In my experience of care homes, they don’t want to know anything about residents personal finances so are unlikely to do anything about the issue.All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.2 -
How do you know for certain this is happening? Do you have any proof to take to the authorities?How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.98% of current retirement "pot" (as at end April 2025)1
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They are withdrawing cash as well as transferring the funds by both internet banking as well as using her late fathers bank cards.
It sounds to be the case that they have no authority to act on mother's account - using a card belonging to a deceased person is definitely fraud.
Contact Adult Social Services at the local council.
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Agree with the others, report it to the safeguarding team at the relevant council.
Without this, as long the care home bills are being paid it's unlikely social services will know about it or get involved. However social services expect a certain amount of money to be in the account and if the bills suddenly stop being paid they'll get involved. I'm expecting the daughter figures once the money runs out they'll just approach social services for funding and there's nothing they can do about it. This isn't the case though and social services will likely take them to court to recover the money.2 -
The council can’t take people to court for theft. That’s a police/CPS decision.All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.2 -
elsien said:Safeguarding to local authority.In my experience of care homes, they don’t want to know anything about residents personal finances so are unlikely to do anything about the issue.
https://www.scie.org.uk/person-centred-care/older-people-care-homes/safety
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justworriedabit said:elsien said:Safeguarding to local authority.In my experience of care homes, they don’t want to know anything about residents personal finances so are unlikely to do anything about the issue.
https://www.scie.org.uk/person-centred-care/older-people-care-homes/safety
I will repeat that in my experience there can be a discrepancy between what care homes should do, and what they do in practice.All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.3
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