Ex refusing to sell the house - child with me. Advice please!
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happy_penguin7
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My ex and I separated 2 years ago. We have 2 children aged 14 and 18. When I moved out our 14 year old decided to come with me (emotional abuse etc from ex that she wanted to escape from). My daughter and I lodge 15 minutes down the road (I can’t afford to rent a 2 bedroom property as I’m still paying half the mortgage and child maintenance for the 18 year old).
My ex agreed that we would put the house on the market at the beginning of this year (when she finished the course that conveniently started at the same time as ending our marriage, making her unemployed). She hasn’t stuck to her word and now I’m wondering what I can do?
To summarise:
My 14 year old daughter and I live in lodgings (can’t afford rent)
My ex wife has remained in our 5 bedroom home with our 18 year old son (he finishes sixth form in July)
My wife hasn’t paid any child maintenance towards my daughter
I pay child maintenance every month for my son as well as providing everything for my daughter.
My ex agreed that we would put the house on the market at the beginning of this year (when she finished the course that conveniently started at the same time as ending our marriage, making her unemployed). She hasn’t stuck to her word and now I’m wondering what I can do?
To summarise:
My 14 year old daughter and I live in lodgings (can’t afford rent)
My ex wife has remained in our 5 bedroom home with our 18 year old son (he finishes sixth form in July)
My wife hasn’t paid any child maintenance towards my daughter
I pay child maintenance every month for my son as well as providing everything for my daughter.
My daughter doesn’t want to stay with her mum or even see her (I’ve persuaded her about 4 times in the last year because I think it’s important)
What are my options here? I’m so worried that my landlord is going to give us our 2 weeks notice (it was always a short-term arrangement). I’m losing sleep and don’t know how much longer I can go on like this. Has anybody been in a similar situation? Thanks.
What are my options here? I’m so worried that my landlord is going to give us our 2 weeks notice (it was always a short-term arrangement). I’m losing sleep and don’t know how much longer I can go on like this. Has anybody been in a similar situation? Thanks.
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Have you seen a solicitor?1
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thepurplepixie said:Have you seen a solicitor?0
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And she hasn't. She can stop paying her half of the mortgage if she feels like it too, and take you into the territory where you lose your half of the house. The only way to force her is to go down the legal route.
You could in theory announce that if she won't sell it, you are moving back in. Would that maybe get the message through?0 -
yksi said:And she hasn't. She can stop paying her half of the mortgage if she feels like it too, and take you into the territory where you lose your half of the house. The only way to force her is to go down the legal route.
You could in theory announce that if she won't sell it, you are moving back in. Would that maybe get the message through?Has anybody that’s been through the legal route got experience of how long it’s likely to take?0 -
happy_penguin7 said:yksi said:And she hasn't. She can stop paying her half of the mortgage if she feels like it too, and take you into the territory where you lose your half of the house. The only way to force her is to go down the legal route.
You could in theory announce that if she won't sell it, you are moving back in. Would that maybe get the message through?Has anybody that’s been through the legal route got experience of how long it’s likely to take?0 -
I'm not sure why you're still paying maintenance: you each have a child with you, surely that balances out?
And as soon as the 18 yo finishes school, you could presumably start a CMS claim for your DD.Signature removed for peace of mind2 -
yksi said:happy_penguin7 said:yksi said:And she hasn't. She can stop paying her half of the mortgage if she feels like it too, and take you into the territory where you lose your half of the house. The only way to force her is to go down the legal route.
You could in theory announce that if she won't sell it, you are moving back in. Would that maybe get the message through?Has anybody that’s been through the legal route got experience of how long it’s likely to take?0 -
Savvy_Sue said:I'm not sure why you're still paying maintenance: you each have a child with you, surely that balances out?
And as soon as the 18 yo finishes school, you could presumably start a CMS claim for your DD.1 -
It sounds as though you will need to apply via the courts. Speak to a solicitor, and get them to do a formal letter about putting the house on the market and take things from there.
Are/Were you married? The process is a bit different depending on that .All posts are my personal opinion, not formal advice Always get proper, professional advice (particularly about anything legal!)0 -
You had no need to pay child maintenance when you have a child each. Simply you can't afford a place of your own - that cash could have gone towards that.
I appreciate you say the right thing by your son, but she is saving a sum by not contributing to the cost of raising your daughter.
I agree with savvy sue you legitimately could and should be putting a maintenance claim in for your daughter once you have stopped paying for your son in July
Your ex will soon get the message that you are not messing around. As it stands she sees an easy life paid for by you. Until reality hits why would she do anything different0
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