Shared Driveway nightmare

teachfast

Get some CCTV. Will be a good investment in the end. 

kardella

I just want to thank you all for your input, it helped me a lot as you always question yourself. I am hope the tenants will be mature with the outcome, but if not I shall keep records and photos and if necessary visit the police for a chat.
being able to chat on here as given me the confidence to pursue what is right.

thank you all so much, it’s much appreciated 🤗

Titus_Wadd

Sadly there are folk who just don't have the same life skills or moral values as normal people - our neighbour would be a be a successful man if he applied as much effort to his job as he does thinking of ways, "just-this-side-of-criminal" to annoy us.  The most annoying thing we do is not rise to the bait, live your lives and try to ignore any further nonsense whilst logging any behaviour that approaches anti-social.

I'm just about to start a cctv thread; I'm so glad we have ours.

Jeepers_Creepers

kardella said:

I just want to thank you all for your input, it helped me a lot as you always question yourself. I am hope the tenants will be mature with the outcome, but if not I shall keep records and photos and if necessary visit the police for a chat.
being able to chat on here as given me the confidence to pursue what is right.

thank you all so much, it’s much appreciated 🤗

You mentioned something similar before = how they tried to make you the one who was wrong. That is classic narcissistic personality disorder (or a better name would be empathy deficiency disorder).

In which case, know that there is nothing that'll persuade them they are wrong; they never are. "Always the victim, always the hero - never the villain."

They need putting back in their box - it's the only thing that works. There is no actual 'reason'. If they suddenly come across as 'reasonable' or 'apologetic', that's great - smile, say thanks - but understand it as just being a further attempt at manipulation, of saving face.

kardella

Jeepers_Creepers said:

kardella said:

I just want to thank you all for your input, it helped me a lot as you always question yourself. I am hope the tenants will be mature with the outcome, but if not I shall keep records and photos and if necessary visit the police for a chat.
being able to chat on here as given me the confidence to pursue what is right.

thank you all so much, it’s much appreciated 🤗

You mentioned something similar before = how they tried to make you the one who was wrong. That is classic narcissistic personality disorder (or a better name would be empathy deficiency disorder).

In which case, know that there is nothing that'll persuade them they are wrong; they never are. "Always the victim, always the hero - never the villain."

They need putting back in their box - it's the only thing that works. There is no actual 'reason'. If they suddenly come across as 'reasonable' or 'apologetic', that's great - smile, say thanks - but understand it as just being a further attempt at manipulation, of saving face.

Neighbours are still trying to push things like parking 3 vehicles in a 2 space drive so the the back of the 3 car protrudes over onto the shared driveway. I am ignoring it even though it will narrow turning space for when friends/family come to visit.  The father keeps looking up at my cctv camera on my driveway so I suppose I am waiting for them to complain about something about that... time will tell.
it’s just so sad as they have permission to turn front lawn into another parking space (they have 4 cars) and this would resolve all parking issues and give them plenty of room for their cars. But as you say, it’s about them feeling right about their behaviour. Just feel really sad about it all really.

Greymug

kardella said:

Jeepers_Creepers said:

kardella said:

I just want to thank you all for your input, it helped me a lot as you always question yourself. I am hope the tenants will be mature with the outcome, but if not I shall keep records and photos and if necessary visit the police for a chat.
being able to chat on here as given me the confidence to pursue what is right.

thank you all so much, it’s much appreciated 🤗

You mentioned something similar before = how they tried to make you the one who was wrong. That is classic narcissistic personality disorder (or a better name would be empathy deficiency disorder).

In which case, know that there is nothing that'll persuade them they are wrong; they never are. "Always the victim, always the hero - never the villain."

They need putting back in their box - it's the only thing that works. There is no actual 'reason'. If they suddenly come across as 'reasonable' or 'apologetic', that's great - smile, say thanks - but understand it as just being a further attempt at manipulation, of saving face.

Neighbours are still trying to push things like parking 3 vehicles in a 2 space drive so the the back of the 3 car protrudes over onto the shared driveway.

Option 1) call the cops and have the car towed.
Option 2) take a photo of the car clearly showing it's excessively protruding, then drive into their car and have them pay for the damage.

Petriix

For the most part it's better to allow people to do whatever they do and try not to be affected by things that you could choose to ignore.

We've got neighbors two doors down who treat the street like they own it. They sometimes park across part of our drive and they started parking on the immediate neighbors' drive while the house was empty.

Do you want to know what we do? We smile at them and say hello when we see them. We simply manoeuvre round them if they've parked slightly in the way. The neighbors next door just said it's fine if they want to carry on parking on their drive. We're all happy and go about our lives without stress. We could choose to be confrontational but what would we gain from that?

kardella

Yes, I am ignoring all silly behaviour and taking photos and keep a diary of events just in case there are any issues in the future.
just want a quiet happy life 😊

gettingtheresometime

Just in case you missed it OP I'd remove the plan you posted -if the neighbours are as bad as you say you've just painted a huge target on your back 

Choccygirl123

I feel for you OP we have a similar drive, but we are the middle house. Our old neighbours were a nightmare. They used to park on the drive in front of their house, which made it difficult, due to the width for us to turn into our drive. The deeds say access only no parking.

it came to a head when the neighbour parked up to the the joint boundary so my hubby just parked in front our own house for 2hours to unload his work kit, effectively blocking them in.

I had a knock on the door 2 days later from
the police about us driving too close to their car (didn't touch it) and blocking them
in. Thanked him for his visit invited him in, showed the deeds and reminded him it's a private drive way so civil matter. He just laughed at neighbours and I did show him the CCTV of the neighbours and their nutty mother walking down towards my garage to move my bins. He popped around to tell confirmed civil matter, but warned them about trespass. They moved 6months later- much too our delight! 

I'd put it in writing to the letting agent that it's not acceptable and call them to follow it up. If they don't do anything write a letter c/o owners of address and give to letting agent. 

Good luck getting it sorted.