Neighbour dispute

Tippytoes

Kitty123456 said:

Tippytoes 

That must have been so hard and frustrating for you but I'm glad you managed to get out of it. Maybe its something we may have to do but I'm just worried for my daughter I dont even like the thought of her playing in the garden when shes older because of the neighbour. Makes me so sad it's hard enough with this pandemic. 

Yes, it was really hard.  I had to put up with so much from these people.  Noise, vandalism, trespass, being verbally abused whenever our paths crossed.  I even kept my windows shut.  The one thing that kept me going was that there was light at the end of the tunnel.  Yes, I would be able to sell if I could just ignore their behaviour for long enough.  That kept me going and when I locked the property up for the last time, I certainly didn't look back.  I honestly don't know what makes some people tick.  Surely it requires more effort to be obnoxious than to be kind?

trix-a-belle

sorry to hear you're going through this, as the neighbour is a council tenant perhaps another option is to get the council to purchase your house from you to release you from the torment

princeofpounds

trix-a-belle said:

sorry to hear you're going through this, as the neighbour is a council tenant perhaps another option is to get the council to purchase your house from you to release you from the torment

This is a great suggestion

mimi1234

Tippytoes said:

Yes, it was really hard.  I had to put up with so much from these people.  Noise, vandalism, trespass, being verbally abused whenever our paths crossed.  I even kept my windows shut.  The one thing that kept me going was that there was light at the end of the tunnel.  Yes, I would be able to sell if I could just ignore their behaviour for long enough.  That kept me going and when I locked the property up for the last time, I certainly didn't look back.  I honestly don't know what makes some people tick.  Surely it requires more effort to be obnoxious than to be kind?

I've tried to work out the above but haven't got very far.  The people who live next to us are just pure evil!

OP - hope you manage to escape.  It's an awful situation to be in.  I called the local Council anonymously but they told me there and then that non stop door slamming, DIY at 2 in the morning, loud parties and various other things were all just part of household noise.  They wouldn't do a thing for me so left it at that. 

I had hoped and thought that with the lockdown they would calm down but no.  It goes on and on and on.  Right, off to go sit in the porch to get away from the noise.  Toodles.

Tippytoes

This kind of behaviour is not just anti social but can also constitute harassment which is a criminal offence.  You could try the police.  They were worse than useless for me but your local constabulary may respond as they should. 

HampshireH

Kitty123456 said:

They are and I dont understand how they get away with it. Also she is a council tenant living in a 3bedroom house by herself as both children were taken which is when the noise started. I feel so angry with myself as we never even thought about next door being a council tenant when buying our house. We were first time buyers and our family only live down the road so it was just perfect and we had lived in the area previously with no issues. The previous owner of the house was an elderly lady so nothing was declared regards to disputes. I wish we had been smarter when buying a house. Everyone keeps saying it wont last forever but it feels like it

Just because someone is a council tenant it doesn't automatically come with an antisocial set of behaviours.

Are they council or housing association.

Your complaint to their landlord about heir lack of action needs to outline the breaches of their tenancy, (Harassment & antisocial behaviour are usually two seperate clauses) the involvement of any other agencies and go back to your MP. Once you have been through the complaints process (about their case handling) take it to the ombudsman. You can only do this once you have completed the complaints process.

You won't sell your house if the problem is that bad. 

kasqueak

I really really feel for you OP. I have been in the same situation in the past and the damage it did to my mental health was so bad. I used to drive around for hours after finishing work as I didn’t want to go home. It was such a sad time. 

We bought a flat and it was everything we wanted. A month after we moved in the neighbour from hell moved in. She had non stop parties. Loud bass music thumping the walls. Screaming, shouting, police arriving day and night. Drugs bring smoked out the window and the smell coming into our flat when we also had a baby under 1yo. 

We also complained to the council, asb team, police etc and were always told the tenant there had MH issues so there was nothing they could do! 

It was a nightmare. We ended up selling our flat to the council as at the time the local council were buying up private owned properties to add to council stock. They actually paid us market price so we got lucky in the end. 

I since know they have housed another person with MH issues so maybe the 2 are cancelling each other out!
Might be worth enquiring with your local
council to see if they are looking at buying properties in your town. 

I can’t tell you the relief when we had sold the place. Literally a ton off my shoulders. 

When looking for a new place I did so much driving past, visits to try and suss out the neighbours and thankfully I now live in a street where everyone is really friendly and kind.
If I hadn’t been able to sell to the council I would have put it into auction. Might have taken a loss but I couldn’t live there anymore and was desperate to sell.
Your story rang so true to me. I know the dread and the anxiety you have in your own home. I really hope your family find a solution. Good luck!

Slips36

I too have horrible neighbour and especially in this lockdown things have got worse.
Chavy single mum with 20 year old son ,10 year old son and 2 daughters with different fathers. Weed smoking, loud music, hot tub in a small garden until late at night. 
I had a word with them about weed smell they boy said sorry but few days later started smoking again. 
The only think I will do in your situation is to play loud music when they are sleeping to give them taste of their own medicine. You know the old saying if you can’t beat them join them.

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So sorry to hear of your struggles OP. 

It is strange how the noise only started happening at the beginning of lockdown. Is this because the neighbour moved in at this time, or something else has triggered her behaviour? 

Either way it is not acceptable. 

Not sure if there are perhaps certain websites / forums where you could specifically target landlords or developers, as they might not care so much about the dispute issue. It might be that you get a bit less for your property from them, but I think given the circumstances you might just have to take that hit. 

Sometimes it is just better to move on rather than spending time, effort and money fighting these kinds of people. 

Kitty123456

It was since her children was taken from her but made worse at the start of lockdown