Just renting a room and have a problem! (lodger)

annetheman

MaryNB said:

annetheman said:

obsidianfox said:

Yep having to do most things around her,the time I can vacuum or tidy my room,the time I can do laundry,the time I can eat or make coffee £585 to be stuck in my bedroom waiting or creeping about like a mouse angry that I am called disruptive... trying to live and do things also trying to keep up with her. Yeah am looking to move but just settled a bit after a month... headache.

You're not being unreasonable IMO. You should definitely discuss house rules with your next live-in landlord, though - and be 100% okay with them (not "I can compromise" okay, but totally "that is absolutely fair, reasonable and works well for me" okay) before you move in...

The headache of having to sort somewhere new in such a short space of time could really turn into a blessing. I was a lodger for 6 weeks, the woman was okay but she took and wore my clothes without asking and also forgot to top up the electricity key at least once per week, leaving me with no electricity at all.... So many problems, so few rights (as a lodger). Ended up finding a lovely, big 1-bed in the same area and been headache-free here for 3.5 years.

If you can get a flatshare, it'll probably work out better for you experience-wise; many don't ask for more deposit than most rent-a-room landlords do i.e. a month.

What is wrong with some people?! Who wears their lodger's clothes??

Well, she was going through a lot at the time, hence the need for a lodger... She also used my favourite mug (which has my name printed on it) to drink red wine and left it in her room so it was all red wine -stained and gunky. I left it there when I moved.

Loved that mug

Hannimal

oldbikebloke said:

it is the LL's own home, they can enforce whatever rules they want to in their own home 

time for you to move and learn from your experience

It is also the lodger's own home. Sure, they don't own it, but as long as they live there it is also their home. 

Hannimal

Marvel1 said:

obsidianfox said:

Yep having to do most things around her,the time I can vacuum or tidy my room,the time I can do laundry,the time I can eat or make coffee £585 to be stuck in my bedroom waiting or creeping about like a mouse angry that I am called disruptive... trying to live and do things also trying to keep up with her. Yeah am looking to move but just settled a bit after a month... headache.

Per month?! 

Depends where this is, it might even be under market value if it's only two people in the house.

oldbikebloke

Hannimal said:

oldbikebloke said:

it is the LL's own home, they can enforce whatever rules they want to in their own home 

time for you to move and learn from your experience

It is also the lodger's own home. Sure, they don't own it, but as long as they live there it is also their home. 

yes, but the lodger does not have the legal right to dictate the rules and therefore "evict" if such are breached...

Hannimal

oldbikebloke said:

Hannimal said:

oldbikebloke said:

it is the LL's own home, they can enforce whatever rules they want to in their own home 

time for you to move and learn from your experience

It is also the lodger's own home. Sure, they don't own it, but as long as they live there it is also their home. 

yes, but the lodger does not have the legal right to dictate the rules and therefore "evict" if such are breached...

That's right. The landlady has all the power to decide - she doesn't seem to care that this is also the lodger's house. I do think renting sparerooms should be easy but I wish less people who are not reasonable with those they live with did so. 

macman

£585pm: it's probably been set near the current limit of £7,500pa for 'rent a room': beyond that the owner will need to pay tax on the income.

oldbikebloke

Hannimal said:

oldbikebloke said:

Hannimal said:

oldbikebloke said:

it is the LL's own home, they can enforce whatever rules they want to in their own home 

time for you to move and learn from your experience

It is also the lodger's own home. Sure, they don't own it, but as long as they live there it is also their home. 

yes, but the lodger does not have the legal right to dictate the rules and therefore "evict" if such are breached...

That's right. The landlady has all the power to decide - she doesn't seem to care that this is also the lodger's house. I do think renting sparerooms should be easy but I wish less people who are not reasonable with those they live with did so. 

your wishes are noted. Meantime in the real world the person who owns the property and has taken in the lodger gets to dictate the rules and chuck said lodger out if they, in the opinion of the owner, breach said rules. That is an absolute right in law, for very obvious reasons, they own it, they have the right to control who they share their own home with

Hannimal

oldbikebloke said:

Hannimal said:

oldbikebloke said:

Hannimal said:

oldbikebloke said:

it is the LL's own home, they can enforce whatever rules they want to in their own home 

time for you to move and learn from your experience

It is also the lodger's own home. Sure, they don't own it, but as long as they live there it is also their home. 

yes, but the lodger does not have the legal right to dictate the rules and therefore "evict" if such are breached...

That's right. The landlady has all the power to decide - she doesn't seem to care that this is also the lodger's house. I do think renting sparerooms should be easy but I wish less people who are not reasonable with those they live with did so. 

your wishes are noted. Meantime in the real world the person who owns the property and has taken in the lodger gets to dictate the rules and chuck said lodger out if they, in the opinion of the owner, breach said rules. That is an absolute right in law, for very obvious reasons, they own it, they have the right to control who they share their own home with

Sure, didn't argue with that. You must be fun at parties.

[Deleted User]

Avalanche123 said:

JonVarnas said:

Avalanche123 said:

I would be peed off with the washing machine (you can do it later) but the rest is completely unreasonable. You cannot be expected not to use the kitchen!

Lol, I'd expect running the washing machine @ 9pm+ would nark people off, but @ 9 in the morning?

Purely for the yoga purposes:) It is really disruptive.

Are you the OP’s landlord by any chance. 

I frequently have the washing machine going whilst doing yoga in the next room. It’s really not a big deal. 

[Deleted User]

obsidianfox said:

okay so am told leave asap but in writing it says "no less than 28 days" obviously I want to leave asap but can I take to court if thrown out?

I wonder if your landlord has stumbled across this thread.  Is your landlord proposing to return any rent you have paid in advance should you leave ASAP? 

I would want any request to leave immediately to be in writing so that the cow bag couldn’t try and claim breach of contract later on.  

You’re better off out of there anyway. Your landlord is one of those live-ins who want your money but don’t really want you to be there. I can’t imagine the next lodger will fare any better.