Neighbours Using My Bin Without Asking

ratechaser

Davesnave said:

Deleted_User said:

greatcrested said:

Communicate!

What is the point of escalating a neighbour dispute? Yes, the neighbour is out of ordr but dumping her stuff on their garden will just put her back up (rightly or wrongly) and things will escalate.

Suggest reasonably that you have no objection to the odd item if her bin is full, but that if she has large amounts of rubbish/recycling that her bin cannot cope with she should go to the tip.

Bake a cake and take it with you when you go round to speak (socially distanced of course)

I agree that the OP could perhaps go round and speak to the neighbour, but bake a cake?? Why on earth?! They have every right to question why the neighbour is dumping their stuff in their bin. If anything the neighbour should be providing baked goods for the OP. 

I think you will find that greatcrested, rather like an earlier prolific poster who seems now to have vanished, simply has a great liking for cake. It's may a case of any excuse will do, or it may even be a metaphorical cake, which could be interpreted as cider or wine, if one so wishes. Personally, I used to find the lady next door considerably more focused on my speciic wishes after a few glasses of Chateauneuf du pape and half a dozen Ferrero Rocher, but YMMV.

It's been a good few years since a bottle of wine and some choccies were enough to get a lady to acquiesce to my wishes... clearly you must really be a smooth tongued charmer 

robatwork

ratechaser said:

Davesnave said:

Deleted_User said:

greatcrested said:

Communicate!

What is the point of escalating a neighbour dispute? Yes, the neighbour is out of ordr but dumping her stuff on their garden will just put her back up (rightly or wrongly) and things will escalate.

Suggest reasonably that you have no objection to the odd item if her bin is full, but that if she has large amounts of rubbish/recycling that her bin cannot cope with she should go to the tip.

Bake a cake and take it with you when you go round to speak (socially distanced of course)

I agree that the OP could perhaps go round and speak to the neighbour, but bake a cake?? Why on earth?! They have every right to question why the neighbour is dumping their stuff in their bin. If anything the neighbour should be providing baked goods for the OP. 

I think you will find that greatcrested, rather like an earlier prolific poster who seems now to have vanished, simply has a great liking for cake. It's may a case of any excuse will do, or it may even be a metaphorical cake, which could be interpreted as cider or wine, if one so wishes. Personally, I used to find the lady next door considerably more focused on my speciic wishes after a few glasses of Chateauneuf du pape and half a dozen Ferrero Rocher, but YMMV.

It's been a good few years since a bottle of wine and some choccies were enough to get a lady to acquiesce to my wishes... clearly you must really be a smooth tongued charmer 

Dave is, of course, the forum's resident Silver Tongued Cavalier. And long may he ride his charger into (forum) battles

bouicca21

Smooth tongued or or not, at my age I’m anyone’s for château neuf du pape and Ferrero Rocher.

Slinky

My friend pee'd off her new neighbour by putting excess rubbish they had generated moving into their house, into the neighbour's bin without asking first.  She says the bloke next door is a grumpy sod, and he reported them when their extension deviated slightly from the agreed planning permission. I do think she brought it on herself by not getting off on the right footing when moving house.

Bin issues are right up there with dog poo, guaranteed to annoy.

FormerMRSA

The thing is, I probably wouldn't have minded if she'd asked & I had space.  I just think it's rude to not even have the courtesy & assume I won't say anything.

Davesnave

robatwork said:

ratechaser said:

Davesnave said:

Deleted_User said:

greatcrested said:

Communicate!

What is the point of escalating a neighbour dispute? Yes, the neighbour is out of ordr but dumping her stuff on their garden will just put her back up (rightly or wrongly) and things will escalate.

Suggest reasonably that you have no objection to the odd item if her bin is full, but that if she has large amounts of rubbish/recycling that her bin cannot cope with she should go to the tip.

Bake a cake and take it with you when you go round to speak (socially distanced of course)

I agree that the OP could perhaps go round and speak to the neighbour, but bake a cake?? Why on earth?! They have every right to question why the neighbour is dumping their stuff in their bin. If anything the neighbour should be providing baked goods for the OP. 

I think you will find that greatcrested, rather like an earlier prolific poster who seems now to have vanished, simply has a great liking for cake. It's may a case of any excuse will do, or it may even be a metaphorical cake, which could be interpreted as cider or wine, if one so wishes. Personally, I used to find the lady next door considerably more focused on my speciic wishes after a few glasses of Chateauneuf du pape and half a dozen Ferrero Rocher, but YMMV.

It's been a good few years since a bottle of wine and some choccies were enough to get a lady to acquiesce to my wishes... clearly you must really be a smooth tongued charmer 

Dave is, of course, the forum's resident Silver Tongued Cavalier. And long may he ride his charger into (forum) battles

Not really.... my wife would never recognise me from that description! Mind you, someone from 50 years ago recognised me last year, so either I looked old when I was young, or I've aged reasonably OK. Sadly, the only charger I have nowadays is the one for the phone.

youth_leader

I've just come back from walking my dog in the village and a man was just collecting his blue recycling bins - he dragged them a bit then stopped and opened the lid and shouted to me that someone had dumped their stuff in his bin, bags and bags of glass jars.   He was really angry, I'd guess it was someone who came to leave them for the church opposite him, not realising it was closed at the moment. 

Unicorn_cottage

Put your bins round the back. I hate having bins out front if there is somewhere else to put them. It makes the street look like a dump.

oystercatcher

I would be inclined to have a chat and ask the neighbour to look out for 'someone' putting rubbish in your bins as it's really annoying you and say how you wouldn't mind if they had asked. Fingers crossed things will stop and she will ask in a while...or confess. Maybe she had an agreement with the previous resident? 
If nothing changes then hide the bins at the back or where ever you can. 

I had the opposite problem, someone took a bag with my name and address on it out of our bin and dumped it down the road and I was accused of fly tipping, luckily council withdrew the accusation after I wrote back. I am very careful with shredding now !

greatcrested

Davesnave said:

Deleted_User said:

greatcrested said:

Communicate!

What is the point of escalating a neighbour dispute? Yes, the neighbour is out of ordr but dumping her stuff on their garden will just put her back up (rightly or wrongly) and things will escalate.

Suggest reasonably that you have no objection to the odd item if her bin is full, but that if she has large amounts of rubbish/recycling that her bin cannot cope with she should go to the tip.

Bake a cake and take it with you when you go round to speak (socially distanced of course)

I agree that the OP could perhaps go round and speak to the neighbour, but bake a cake?? Why on earth?! They have every right to question why the neighbour is dumping their stuff in their bin. If anything the neighbour should be providing baked goods for the OP. 

I think you will find that greatcrested, rather like an earlier prolific poster who seems now to have vanished reincarnated, simply has a great liking for cake. It's maybe a case of any excuse will do, or it may even be a metaphorical cake,

It's both. I enjoy baking,and eating cake. Of most descriptions! (though hate marzpan...)

But really it's to make the point that holding out olive branches (or olives, or château neuf du pape) to people is a far better approach than chucking rubbish on their gardens........

Doesn't always work of course.

Smooth tongued or or not, at my age I’m anyone’s for château neuf du pape and Ferrero Rocher.

So that's where I went wrong at the the New Year's party Doozergirl. Knew I should have left the Madeira cake at home....!