Money Moral Dilemma: Who should pay for my daughter's broken phone?

TheProfessional

Reading the replies about all of this having nothing to do with the father does me feel sad for children in seperated households.

I can't imagine having the same level of responsibility as a stranger when it comes to anything to do with my son

phillw

TheProfessional said:

Reading the replies about all of this having nothing to do with the father does me feel sad for children in seperated households.

I can't imagine having the same level of responsibility as a stranger when it comes to anything to do with my son

It comes from the "I want there, its got nothing to do with me" in the original post.
If you go I'm with that mentality then defences go up.

Pollycat

Kentishbelle said:

My main concern is - why does an 11yr old need a mobile phone? If she does, why not a cheap basic one because accidents DO happen and she's a child for goodness sake, why a fancy, expensive all singing/dancing model?  Or is this a peer pressure/keeping up with the Joneses lark?

Of course it is.

And pester power.

afis1904

Pollycat said:

Blame yourself for not insuring the phone.

Insuring a phone this cheap is just throwing away money

Pollycat

afis1904 said:

Pollycat said:

Blame yourself for not insuring the phone.

Insuring a phone this cheap is just throwing away money

I didn't suggest the originator of the 'dilemma' insure the phone:

Pollycat said:

Bogof_OAP said:

Pollycat said:

Blame yourself for not insuring the phone.

Probably cost more than £100 to do that!

Lack of insurance was brought up in the original 'dilemma' so they must having been thinking about taking it out. But didn't.

BethP

Your daughter “smashed the screen”.  Good grief, how?  At age 11yo your daughter should’ve learned how to care for her belongings by now.  Her phone, her responsibility!  Repair / replacement definitely not down to her Dad.  She’s old enough to take responsibility for her phone.  Expect you’re wishing you insured it now.  I suggest your daughter does the research on repair options and discusses her findings with you.

JayD

Your daughter is 11. If you feel she is old enough to have the phone then she is old enough to look after it.

She smashed the screen, not her dad! The phone was her responsibility.

Now I suggest she saves up to replace it herself. Good life lesson for her.

happyinflorida

Are you serious?  You didn't get insurance for an 11 year olds phone?!!  Ye gods, you're mad, no your ex should not pay for your incompetence

crmism

Where the phone was broken is irrelevant. Whoever broke it is responsible, and if it was your former spouse then he should pay. Alternatively, if your daughter broke it then you should share the cost of repair or replacement if you can get your former spouse to accept part-responsibility. Why not ask him rather than pose the question on this site and, if there's some dispute, return for fresh advice/comments?

positiveevibes

If she smashed her phone in a friends house would you ask their parents to pay for it? Also the question is how she smashed it? It can and it happens to anyone even to adults. If you think she didn't really care and that is shy she smashed it then surely she should not have that type of phone at age of 11. If she was accidently you and her dad can half the repair price. Don't see why you have to make a big deal about it.