Old homeowner visiting, thoughts?

Cookietree

We’ve been in our home for 18 months now.

Doing the front garden on Tuesday, the old homeowner’s son drove up, parked and then chatted how he had lived her for 28 years, was his mums house, happy memories, he misses the musty smell, why have you cut down the trees, she loved them, why you changed the windows, why the fence, etc.
it was a really uncomfortable conversation. I got the feeling he wanted to come in & look.

this is the second time he has spoken to me and The gist of conversation it is a regular occurrence him & his brother drive up & do a drive by and discuss the changes we’ve made. 

I’m tempted to tell him, impolitely to !!!!!! off, or complain - but to Who?
I haven’t, since moving here, gone past my old home once ..
thoughts?

Aranyani

Just go inside your house when they appear.  Do it in a very obvious way. 

Maybe mum just died or something which is very sad but they need to get the message. 

davidmcn

Why are you engaging him in conversation if you don't want to? You're certainly not obliged to be polite (particularly if he isn't).

Caramac

I would be interested in seeing any changes made to my old house, but wouldn’t dream of going and asking to have a look. 

gingercordial

At the moment at least you have the perfect excuse that he cannot come inside.

"That's nice, sorry, left something in the oven."  And inside you go until he leaves.

camden_kid

I wouldn't take that nonsense and very quickly tell them it's none of their business what I do with the house.

youth_leader

They might have opposed the sale, like my young adult children who spent a very happy childhood in our house.  I'm a widow and couldn't face rattling around alone in the house any more.  Neither of my children  were happy I sold, but neither of them were in a position where they could buy it.  Both of them have told me they hope to buy it back one day.  I suspect your visitor's Mum has passed and he is on a sentimental journey.  

Soot2006

He'll get bored of it; I would probably politely chat and not worry about it.

My neighbour told me she sees our house's old owner drive by all the time. Given that they updated NOTHING in 12 years, I very much hope they're jealous of all the visible work we've done.  If I ever see them, I would absolutely have a chat about the house to learn what I can, and I wouldn't mind them having a look at the garden, but "unfortunately" my dog is stranger-aggressive so they won't be comingin!

AskAsk

next time you see him, pretend to listen to music through headphones.  the biggest conversation killer i find.

theoretica

I enjoyed snooping on rightmove/google streetview at the changes the people who bought it made to my childhood home (and didn't like what they had done so felt smug when they failed to sell it on) but wouldn't actually say anything negative in the unlikely event I met them in person.

Falafels

I've driven past my old home if I've been in the area for other reasons. Since then, owners have cut down my clematis and my climbing rose. Both of these are crimes against creation, of course.

But I wouldn't dream of stopping and telling them so.

If these guys drop by in the future, tell them you're sorry they don't like the changes - but it's absolutely none of their business and you're not prepared to discuss it any more.