Friends Former Partner Won't Move Out

beyer78

Lover_of_Lycra said:

Is your friend married to this woman? 

No.

Exodi

Some people do make life hard for themselves.

Even if he was convinced that she's right and she's entitled to live in his house for the next decade (laughable at best) - what does he really have to lose by kicking her out? He already seems to believe he needs to move out! The upside in changing the locks and making the first move is that should Mickey Mouse and his entourage not turn up to evict him, it will be clear she's not magically entitled to his house.

The fact she suggested he could live with friends/family... unbelievable.

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beyer78 said:

Lover_of_Lycra said:

Is your friend married to this woman? 

No.

He’s not married to her. The kids aren’t his. She’s contributed nothing to the purchase of the house because he inherited. She has as much right to remain in that house as I do. 

Mojisola

pinkshoes said:

Change the locks and state that her kids can stay for 7 days but she can’t

He risks having the police at the door if he shuts their mother out while keeping the children in the house.

Comms69

Mojisola said:

pinkshoes said:

Change the locks and state that her kids can stay for 7 days but she can’t

He risks having the police at the door if he shuts their mother out while keeping the children in the house.

Potentially. It's not an offence in of itself. 

elsien

It may not be, but if you’ve got kids inside and mum hammering on the door demanding to be let in, I’m fairly sure I know which side the police will be on.
It may be legally correct that the friend can just change the locks, but the police don’t generally have a good grasp of civil law in these circumstances and are very likely to direct that she be let back in, however unlawful that may be.
Why trigger a situation that is only going to escalate, by not giving any notice at all? 

ZaSa1418

change the locks when they are all out, the kids can go and live with their fathers and i am sure the mum can go and shack up with whoever she was having an affair with

Comms69

elsien said:

It may not be, but if you’ve got kids inside and mum hammering on the door demanding to be let in, I’m fairly sure I know which side the police will be on.
It may be legally correct that the friend can just change the locks, but the police don’t generally have a good grasp of civil law in these circumstances and are very likely to direct that she be let back in, however unlawful that may be.
Why trigger a situation that is only going to escalate, by not giving any notice at all? 

You're assuming the OP is being encouraged to prevent the kids leaving, which isnt what was suggested. Rather that they were free to stay (and by virtue free to leave) for 7 days days. 

They can 'direct' whatever they like. And the OP can tell them to go forth and multiply. 

The reason to not give notice is to avoid the situation where the ex is a victim of a "brutal domestic incident"... 

Aranyani

pinkshoes said:

Change the locks and state that her kids can stay for 7 days but she can’t, and if she enters the house then you will revoke your offer of letting her kids stay.

she has no rights

Keep children that aren't his in the house but lock their mother out?  That seems like a recipe for disaster. 

Definitely don't drag the kids in to it, not fair on them at all. 

Mojisola

Comms69 said:

You're assuming the OP is being encouraged to prevent the kids leaving, which isnt what was suggested. Rather that they were free to stay (and by virtue free to leave) for 7 days days.
They can 'direct' whatever they like. And the OP can tell them to go forth and multiply.

And that's likely to end up with the OP down at the police station and the mother and children in possession of the house.