Friends Former Partner Won't Move Out

beyer78

A ex colleague and good friend of my husband's is in a bad way.
He owns a house which was left to him by his mother 16 years ago.
In 2017 he met a woman who has 3 children they are not his  biologically.
She moved in with him in November 2018.
Recently he has discovered that she has been seeing another man who is the father of her oldest child.
He told her that she has to move out of his property.
She has told him that she is going nowhere and has seen a solicitor so she and her children can remain in the property until they come of age and he is the one who will be going.
He contacted a solicitor and was told she could get residency even though they are not his biologically and he is the owner.
Surely this can't be right?.
If she needs housing isn't that down to the children's father's to pay for it?.
She doesn't want to leave and go into social housing.

AskAsk

this article from CA seems to indicate 6 months on an occupation order

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/ending-a-relationship/if-you-were-living-together/your-ex-partner-is-trying-to-make-you-leave/

Comms69

when shes out, change the locks. done. 

beyer78

Comms69 said:

when shes out, change the locks. done. Don't you think she is aware he could do that?

Comms69 said:

when shes out, change the locks. done. 

elsien

beyer78 said:

A ex colleague and good friend of my husband's is in a bad way.
He owns a house which was left to him by his mother 16 years ago.
In 2017 he met a woman who has 3 children they are not his  biologically.
She moved in with him in November 2018.
Recently he has discovered that she has been seeing another man who is the father of her oldest child.
He told her that she has to move out of his property.
She has told him that she is going nowhere and has seen a solicitor so she and her children can remain in the property until they come of age and he is the one who will be going.
He contacted a solicitor and was told she could get residency even though they are not his biologically and he is the owner.
Surely this can't be right?.
If she needs housing isn't that down to the children's father's to pay for it?.
She doesn't want to leave and go into social housing.

Maybe get a better solicitor but have someone with him as he may be misunderstanding the information he is being given. Or the solicitor may have not understood they are not his children.  She can apply, he can contest. It is by no means a done deal. She may also need some sort of process to remove her in order to apply to the council for housing support. He absolutely does not need to leave his own house.
If she doesn't want social housing then there is a large private rental market out there. 

Comms69

beyer78 said:

Comms69 said:

when shes out, change the locks. done. Don't you think she is aware he could do that?

Comms69 said:

when shes out, change the locks. done. 

I have no idea what she's aware of. That is how he resolves this - she goes out, he changes locks. Done. Finished. Ended. 

Comms69

elsien said:

beyer78 said:

A ex colleague and good friend of my husband's is in a bad way.
He owns a house which was left to him by his mother 16 years ago.
In 2017 he met a woman who has 3 children they are not his  biologically.
She moved in with him in November 2018.
Recently he has discovered that she has been seeing another man who is the father of her oldest child.
He told her that she has to move out of his property.
She has told him that she is going nowhere and has seen a solicitor so she and her children can remain in the property until they come of age and he is the one who will be going.
He contacted a solicitor and was told she could get residency even though they are not his biologically and he is the owner.
Surely this can't be right?.
If she needs housing isn't that down to the children's father's to pay for it?.
She doesn't want to leave and go into social housing.

Maybe get a better solicitor but have someone with him as he may be misunderstanding the information he is being given. Or the solicitor may have not understood they are not his children.  She can apply, he can contest. It is by no means a done deal. She may also need some sort of process to remove her in order to apply to the council for housing support. He absolutely does not need to leave his own house.
If she doesn't want social housing then there is a large private rental market out there. 

Nope, just present at the council as homeless. Nothing else needed

74jax

beyer78 said:

Comms69 said:

when shes out, change the locks. done. Don't you think she is aware he could do that?

I have no idea what you mean, is she aware?  how does she go out?  How do her kids go out?  What is she eating etc/ how does she see the other person if she doesn't go out?
I don't see a problem with what was said.  She leaves, he changes the locks.

beyer78

She works part-time 25 hours.
The youngest is 11, others 13 and 15.
She says it's unfair because our friend earns more than her or the fathers of her children.

Comms69

beyer78 said:

She works part-time 25 hours.
The youngest is 11, others 13 and 15.
She says it's unfair because our friend earns more than her or the fathers of her children.

So she leaves the house? I dont see the issue. 

Like literally how does that information change anything?

ZaSa1418

beyer78 said:

She works part-time 25 hours.
The youngest is 11, others 13 and 15.
She says it's unfair because our friend earns more than her or the fathers of her children.

It may be 'unfair' but it is tough, she has no legal right to stay in that house until the kids age out, they are not his kids. 
I agree with whoever said change the locks