Money Moral Dilemma: Should I share my 'free' £50 voucher with my partner?

keithyno.1

If I was your partner and you received a £50 voucher with a service we paid for jointly, you didn’t tell me, spent it on yourself and I then found out about it, I’d seriously think about dumping you and finding someone more trustworthy to share my life with.

T4476

Listen to the part of you that thinks it would be unfair, because it's dead right. 

Tembldrock

You don't have to share it but at least tell them about it! If this was a friend or a housemate personally I wouldn't mention it and spend it because I sorted the thing that got the free voucher. But if it is a partner then either spend it on both of you or say "Hey, I sorted the [Service] out and managed to get a free voucher, do you mind if I buy myself something nice?". Ultimately you put the work in to get the voucher but if you feel have to keep it a secret then it sounds like you know you are doing something wrong.

chrissio

Sounds like you should 1) keep the voucher and ditch your partner or 2) share the voucher and keep your partner; the two are inextricably linked. So ask yourself, do you want to stay with your partner and that will lead you to the right choice on the voucher.
If you do share the voucher, perhaps talk to your partner about getting involved in the household bill administration.

CapeTown

keithyno.1 said:

If I was your partner and you received a £50 voucher with a service we paid for jointly, you didn’t tell me, spent it on yourself and I then found out about it, I’d seriously think about dumping you and finding someone more trustworthy to share my life with.

Really      you would dump your partner over 50 quid.....

CapeTown

This is not a moral dilemma. This is someone who meticulously divides bills and nit picks. I see a doomed relationship

dmcw

I would keep it until something needs replacing in the household ie. kettle, microwave etc so that you both benefit and then I would suggest that next year your partner sources the new service providers. Take it in turns or you will find you take on this role solely. Good luck x

mwf862

Share it you post git! How much of a “partner” are you ACTUALLY??
Get a grip!!

ems888

You could give your partner the entire voucher in compensation for the seemingly controlling way you manage the finances and also undermine them by telling us they haven't 'a clue'. Or perhaps your partner is 'lazy'/struggling with motivation to organise some of the finances and your question is an expression of resentment. Either way, communication rather than pettiness would seem to be the way forward. 

noitsnotme

Are these dilemma threads from real people or are they made up click bait stories like ‘Dear Deidre’ in the sun newspaper?  Surely there are much more serious financial dilemmas going on in the world, particularly in the current environment, other than a couple of children arguing over £50?!