Fence wrong way round

williamgriffin

moonpenny said:

southcoastrgi said:

With a close board fence you would normally put the good side to your neighbour, so the fact that your daughter has the good side facing into her garden would indicate to me she doesn't own the fence 

I totally disagree with this.
If it is your fence and you have paid for it then you have the good side.

Not disagreeing with you but if the fence is built in situ and on the boundary, then how do you nail the feather edge without going onto your neighbours land?

GDB2222

I’d leave it to the police, now you have involved them. But, it would have been better to explain to the kids that you don’t mind them climbing in, but it’s wrong to throw stones and bits of wood. 

Mistral001

You need to be firm right from the start.  A "clear off or I will get your parents/police" should work and is entirely appropriate.  No explanations.  They must surely know that they should not play in someone's else's garden and expect to be told off if they are caught.  Any conversation on the matter should  be had with their parents or the Police.  

GDB2222

They do say that the British love their pets more than their children, and that does seem to be borne out by the comments in this thread. 

Mistral001

GDB2222 said:

They do say that the British love their pets more than their children, and that does seem to be borne out by the comments in this thread. 

You missed the point of my post.  Spending time explaining to them that they should not be in their garden is not information they need as they already know they should not be there.  They expect to be told off.  They do not expect to be treated kindly in a stranger's garden when they  have climbed over the fence.  They might even feel uncomfortable with it and their parents might feel a bit more than uncomfortable with it.    

GDB2222

Mistral001 said:

GDB2222 said:

They do say that the British love their pets more than their children, and that does seem to be borne out by the comments in this thread. 

You missed the point of my post.  Spending time explaining to them that they should not be in their garden is not information they need as they already know they should not be there.  They expect to be told off.  They do not expect to be treated kindly in a stranger's garden when they  have climbed over the fence.  They might even feel uncomfortable with it and their parents might feel a bit more than uncomfortable with it.    

Yes, I can see the issue about being labelled a paedophile because you don't dislike children.  

Nevertheless, there ought to be a way of telling a 6 year old off that does not involve the police. Surely?

Mistral001

GDB2222 said:

Mistral001 said:

GDB2222 said:

They do say that the British love their pets more than their children, and that does seem to be borne out by the comments in this thread. 

You missed the point of my post.  Spending time explaining to them that they should not be in their garden is not information they need as they already know they should not be there.  They expect to be told off.  They do not expect to be treated kindly in a stranger's garden when they  have climbed over the fence.  They might even feel uncomfortable with it and their parents might feel a bit more than uncomfortable with it.    

Yes, I can see the issue about being labelled a paedophile because you don't dislike children.  

Nevertheless, there ought to be a way of telling a 6 year old off that does not involve the police. Surely?

It takes judgement.  I am not talking about six year olds as their parents should have control over kids as young as that. 

If they are six year olds committing criminal damages, it is still a police matter, if you do not know the parents.  They no doubt will not be heavy handed and will not kart them off is a police van.  They are trained how to deal with these matters sensitively no doubt.

I would be cautious about changing the fence as there might be unintended consequences.  You might be making it a challenge to some kids resulting in them taking more risks to get over it.  The OP is correct to leave it to the police and rely on their advice rather than taking things into to your own hands 

williamgriffin

Mistral001 said:

GDB2222 said:

Mistral001 said:

GDB2222 said:

They do say that the British love their pets more than their children, and that does seem to be borne out by the comments in this thread. 

You missed the point of my post.  Spending time explaining to them that they should not be in their garden is not information they need as they already know they should not be there.  They expect to be told off.  They do not expect to be treated kindly in a stranger's garden when they  have climbed over the fence.  They might even feel uncomfortable with it and their parents might feel a bit more than uncomfortable with it.    

Yes, I can see the issue about being labelled a paedophile because you don't dislike children.  

Nevertheless, there ought to be a way of telling a 6 year old off that does not involve the police. Surely?

It takes judgement.  I am not talking about six year olds as their parents should have control over kids as young as that. 

If they are six year olds committing criminal damages, it is still a police matter, if you do not know the parents.  They no doubt will not be heavy handed and will not kart them off is a police van.  They are trained how to deal with these matters sensitively no doubt.

I would be cautious about changing the fence as there might be unintended consequences.  You might be making it a challenge to some kids resulting in them taking more risks to get over it.  The OP is correct to leave it to the police and rely on their advice rather than taking things into to your own hands 

Low level criminal damage would attract uniform attendance, no specialist training and the offence would be crimes and written off as the offender is too young to be dealt with. 

joop

If you don't use that part of the garden much, some spikey Grevillea shrubs would be a good deterrent. They use them to keep kangaroos in check in Australia!  They have a long flowering period and bees love them too!