Ex won't move out....

SpiderLegs

Angela_D_3 said:

SpiderLegs said:

I want to know what @Angela_D_3 thinks the ‘correct’ process is in this case.

we know it starts with a pointless solicitors letter, but I’m not sure what benefit that has other than to give the ‘victim’ some idea that they are about to slung out.

The solicitors letter protects you from the occupation order.   No skin off my nose if you want to go around changing locks and man handling people but if it bites you on the !!!!!! you've lived by the sword and will die by it I guess.

I'm not sure there’s been any mention of manhandling, but anyway, how does this letter protect someone from the occupation order.
seems quite bizarre that. Does it have to be a solicitor who writes it or can ken down the pub do it?
what form does this letter have to take?


it does sound a bit you are making stuff up now. We all know that something called an occupation order exists, and I think we also know that in this case (as described) the likelihood of the OP’s ex forking out the legal costs, and getting such an order granted are somewhere between 0 an 0.000000000001%

John_

Angela_D_3 said:

SpiderLegs said:

I want to know what @Angela_D_3 thinks the ‘correct’ process is in this case.

we know it starts with a pointless solicitors letter, but I’m not sure what benefit that has other than to give the ‘victim’ some idea that they are about to slung out.

The solicitors letter protects you from the occupation order.   No skin off my nose if you want to go around changing locks and man handling people but if it bites you on the !!!!!! you've lived by the sword and will die by it I guess.

I’m not sure why you are making this stuff up, but no, it doesn’t.

OP, if things have broken down as much as you say then I would suggest waiting until she goes out to work and changing the locks.

If you can collect her things and drop them at a friend of hers to be collected that’s even better.

Once that’s done give her a call and let her know where her things are, and that she won’t be allowed back in your home.

It’s the most sensible route, and the one least likely to cause you further bother.

Sistergold

The best way forward is to look for another rental property and move out! Most relationship when they don’t end well you just have to accept some loss in this case the rental property you love. You actually need to thank God you don’t own the house as that’s worse to deal with than trying to hold on to a rental property! Look for another place and tell her the move out date! 

Angela_D_3

SpiderLegs said:

Angela_D_3 said:

SpiderLegs said:

I want to know what @Angela_D_3 thinks the ‘correct’ process is in this case.

we know it starts with a pointless solicitors letter, but I’m not sure what benefit that has other than to give the ‘victim’ some idea that they are about to slung out.

The solicitors letter protects you from the occupation order.   No skin off my nose if you want to go around changing locks and man handling people but if it bites you on the !!!!!! you've lived by the sword and will die by it I guess.

I'm not sure there’s been any mention of manhandling, but anyway, how does this letter protect someone from the occupation order.
seems quite bizarre that. Does it have to be a solicitor who writes it or can ken down the pub do it?
what form does this letter have to take?


it does sound a bit you are making stuff up now. We all know that something called an occupation order exists, and I think we also know that in this case (as described) the likelihood of the OP’s ex forking out the legal costs, and getting such an order granted are somewhere between 0 an 0.000000000001%

You don’t know anything of the sort.  

The letter giving notice is protection and the civilised way to deal with things.  Via a solicitor holds more weight with a court should it come to that than Ken whom I hope you are social distancing from anyway 

SpiderLegs

Angela_D_3 said:

SpiderLegs said:

Angela_D_3 said:

SpiderLegs said:

I want to know what @Angela_D_3 thinks the ‘correct’ process is in this case.

we know it starts with a pointless solicitors letter, but I’m not sure what benefit that has other than to give the ‘victim’ some idea that they are about to slung out.

The solicitors letter protects you from the occupation order.   No skin off my nose if you want to go around changing locks and man handling people but if it bites you on the !!!!!! you've lived by the sword and will die by it I guess.

I'm not sure there’s been any mention of manhandling, but anyway, how does this letter protect someone from the occupation order.
seems quite bizarre that. Does it have to be a solicitor who writes it or can ken down the pub do it?
what form does this letter have to take?


it does sound a bit you are making stuff up now. We all know that something called an occupation order exists, and I think we also know that in this case (as described) the likelihood of the OP’s ex forking out the legal costs, and getting such an order granted are somewhere between 0 an 0.000000000001%

You don’t know anything of the sort.  

The letter giving notice is protection and the civilised way to deal with things.  Via a solicitor holds more weight with a court should it come to that than Ken whom I hope you are social distancing from anyway 

Ah so you have made it up.

Jeepers_Creepers

The tenancy agreement is in my sole name.
The Council Tax is paid in full, but doesn't name the ex on the documents.
She has not contributed to the rent,
nor paid any utility bills.  I wish to continue living in the rental property.
The ex has a house and currently rents that out.
She has savings,
a full time job etc etc.

Haven't you changed the locks yet? What's keeping you?

[Deleted User]

Angela_D_3 said:

SpiderLegs said:

I want to know what @Angela_D_3 thinks the ‘correct’ process is in this case.

we know it starts with a pointless solicitors letter, but I’m not sure what benefit that has other than to give the ‘victim’ some idea that they are about to slung out.

The solicitors letter protects you from the occupation order.   No skin off my nose if you want to go around changing locks and man handling people but if it bites you on the !!!!!! you've lived by the sword and will die by it I guess.

Protects who from the occupation order?  You're talking total cobblers.  Even the information from Shelter Scotland that you copied and added your own rubbish in italics to at the bottom doesn't support what you are claiming.

[Deleted User]

Hmmm, similar scenario here several years ago, my ex-partner/houseguest refused to move out, i sought legal advice and was told under no circumstances must i change the locks or do anything that would be confrontational.
The law taking my side was a 50-50 chance and Mediation was advised rather than allowing it to go to court.
It was not a good time, partner had everything to gain and i had everything to lose, it ended up with me having to give 50% of everything i had - me, successful self employed - him minimum wage scrounger.
Not happy and still angry - me that is.
OP, tread carefully and double risk assess everything.

Angela_D_3

SpiderLegs said:

Angela_D_3 said:

SpiderLegs said:

Angela_D_3 said:

SpiderLegs said:

I want to know what @Angela_D_3 thinks the ‘correct’ process is in this case.

we know it starts with a pointless solicitors letter, but I’m not sure what benefit that has other than to give the ‘victim’ some idea that they are about to slung out.

The solicitors letter protects you from the occupation order.   No skin off my nose if you want to go around changing locks and man handling people but if it bites you on the !!!!!! you've lived by the sword and will die by it I guess.

I'm not sure there’s been any mention of manhandling, but anyway, how does this letter protect someone from the occupation order.
seems quite bizarre that. Does it have to be a solicitor who writes it or can ken down the pub do it?
what form does this letter have to take?


it does sound a bit you are making stuff up now. We all know that something called an occupation order exists, and I think we also know that in this case (as described) the likelihood of the OP’s ex forking out the legal costs, and getting such an order granted are somewhere between 0 an 0.000000000001%

You don’t know anything of the sort.  

The letter giving notice is protection and the civilised way to deal with things.  Via a solicitor holds more weight with a court should it come to that than Ken whom I hope you are social distancing from anyway 

Ah so you have made it up.

What on earth are you talking about ?  

MoneySeeker1

Sistergold said:

The best way forward is to look for another rental property and move out! Most relationship when they don’t end well you just have to accept some loss in this case the rental property you love. You actually need to thank God you don’t own the house as that’s worse to deal with than trying to hold on to a rental property! Look for another place and tell her the move out date! 

Absolutely not!!

Why should OP - it is his property (albeit rented) and the agreement with the owner (landlord/lady or local Council or whatever) is with him and him alone. The OP has a loss anyway - of the emotional variety - ie it sounds like he got "used" by this girlfriend for free accommodation and free labour on her own house and that is loss enough  to know he was used like this by her.