Split with partner, ignoring, force of sale

blue_max_3

Have you tried putting a note through the door? Might catch him off guard.

Sistergold

How are people like? He wants you to go without a penny if it was left to him? Scandalous! Anyway thank God it can not be the way he wants. You can not pay half of the mortgage while you are not living there and you will get half of the proceeds regardless of who is paying the mortgage. 

If you are very bold the best way forward is to move back in. Tell him you can not move since he wants your name and money to continue in the house you might aswell move in. Whatever happens please don’t sign your name off and sign house off for nothing as even though you are so fed up you deserve your share even if you then give it to charity. It’s your money. As a person you need to stand up for yourself and not let selfishness to prosper!
Okay on that note depending on affordability you can still get a mortgage while still being on the other mortgage. 

On moving in make sure everyone knows that you have moved in. If family can go with you the better.  Tell him that you have told the police of your predicament and you will report any aggression from him. Really make sure that friends and family are all over you so that he does not feel he can harm you in anyway! Well you really need to mean business for this to be done. You basically need to beat him at his own game before involving the lawyers. You have left him to have peaceful enjoyment and from where he stands he can keep it all! 

Brock_and_Roll

The OP cant move back in can she - the ex has changed the locks. No reputable locksmith would get involved in this matter  - as the house is jointly held there is risk of criminal damage etc.
Having been involved in a similar matter myself, I am afraid the only real recourse is via the legal route - which is long winded and expensive but we go there in the end.

getmore4less

When did the law say you can't enter your own property, by force if you don't have the keys?

AskAsk

to all the suggestions of moving back in, i would advise against this.  the relationship has broken up.  the bloke sounds like a prat and it is lucky that she found this out before she actually married him!  if she moves back in with this hostility going on, there can only be huge rows and possibly even violence breaking out.  when people are angry and doors are being kicked down or pick locked, things can get out of hand, so it is best that she stays away from the bloke and let her solicitor deal with it as he obviously is not someone that she can talk to in any sensible way about the house.
i wouldn't risk my personal safety or getting done for attacking him in a rage so that i can get one over him.

Mgman1965

AskAsk said:

to all the suggestions of moving back in, i would advise against this.  the relationship has broken up.  the bloke sounds like a prat and it is lucky that she found this out before she actually married him!  if she moves back in with this hostility going on, there can only be huge rows and possibly even violence breaking out.  when people are angry and doors are being kicked down or pick locked, things can get out of hand, so it is best that she stays away from the bloke and let her solicitor deal with it as he obviously is not someone that she can talk to in any sensible way about the house.
i wouldn't risk my personal safety or getting done for attacking him in a rage so that i can get one over him.

This ^^^^

Forcing your way into a house (even if partially yours) and then trying to live with someone you hate, who likely has a mutual feeling is a recipe for disaster. 

People will not want to visit you more than once and stress levels and worry (what if he deliberately leave the place unlocked with all my possessions in there/things go missing) will be off the scale.

He can then land you with half of all the bills.

And there will ALWAYS be an atmosphere you can cut with a knife.  

Every night, 3 choices, 

1/ Go out

2/ Sit downstairs with each other feeling the daggers and argue over the TV.

3/ Lock yourself away in your room every night.

Don't move back in, even for a short time, your sanity and mental health will suffer.

rik111

We don’t know the full story here. No mention of who paid the deposit. There are always two sides to a storey and I suspect the Ex paid a large deposit and for improvements and now the op wants half the equity..... Sounds to me like you have to go for a forced sale but a few more facts would have been nice before everyone jumps to conclusions as to why the Ex won’t respond.

getmore4less

Choice 4. Move back in with a big FO partner and dominate the place in a non aggressive way. 

Slithery

AskAsk said:

to all the suggestions of moving back in, i would advise against this.  the relationship has broken up.  the bloke sounds like a prat and it is lucky that she found this out before she actually married him!  if she moves back in with this hostility going on, there can only be huge rows and possibly even violence breaking out.  when people are angry and doors are being kicked down or pick locked, things can get out of hand, so it is best that she stays away from the bloke and let her solicitor deal with it as he obviously is not someone that she can talk to in any sensible way about the house.
i wouldn't risk my personal safety or getting done for attacking him in a rage so that i can get one over him.

That was exactly my point on why she should move back in. By making it uncomfortable for the other party they are more likely to force a sale, whereas at the moment there is no incentive to sell.

Slithery

Mgman1965 said:

AskAsk said:

to all the suggestions of moving back in, i would advise against this.  the relationship has broken up.  the bloke sounds like a prat and it is lucky that she found this out before she actually married him!  if she moves back in with this hostility going on, there can only be huge rows and possibly even violence breaking out.  when people are angry and doors are being kicked down or pick locked, things can get out of hand, so it is best that she stays away from the bloke and let her solicitor deal with it as he obviously is not someone that she can talk to in any sensible way about the house.
i wouldn't risk my personal safety or getting done for attacking him in a rage so that i can get one over him.

This ^^^^

Forcing your way into a house (even if partially yours) and then trying to live with someone you hate, who likely has a mutual feeling is a recipe for disaster. 

People will not want to visit you more than once and stress levels and worry (what if he deliberately leave the place unlocked with all my possessions in there/things go missing) will be off the scale.

He can then land you with half of all the bills.

And there will ALWAYS be an atmosphere you can cut with a knife.  

Every night, 3 choices, 

1/ Go out

2/ Sit downstairs with each other feeling the daggers and argue over the TV.

3/ Lock yourself away in your room every night.

Don't move back in, even for a short time, your sanity and mental health will suffer.

That was exactly my point on why she should move back in. By making it uncomfortable for the other party they are more likely to force a sale, whereas at the moment there is no incentive to sell.