Eviction Letter

Morglin

JuzaMum said:

Hi
My Mum wrote a letter to the council many years ago saying she was throwing me out. This was for different reasons to yours but served the same purpose. Due to this I was housed by the council. She wrote a very brief 'To whom it may concern' letter. She stated that she was no longer willing to house me from 'today's date' and would not let me in if I returned. She did not give reason. That was enough to fulfil the councils tick box policy. They don't need reason or justification from you just the fact you will no longer accommodate him. I am sorry that you are in this situation and wish you and your son all the best.

Yes, I did one for my daughter, years ago, on the advice of the council.  Different reasons to OPs.  All they required was a formal “to whom it may concern” letter, stating that X could no longer live in the property after X date.  You could note there are safeguarding issues, and leave it at that . Then just sign and date it.  They are basically for tick box procedures with council lettings.

AdrianC

deannatrois said:

Legally that may be correct but as he will only receive any kind of housing from social housing and I really don't want him on the streets, I am told they need some letter of eviction stating my unwillingness to have him in this house. 

Ultimately, it may come down to a choice. Would you rather have him in your home than him risk being on the street?

theartfullodger

Think the letter is so son can take it to social services/housing and apply as homeless to be rehoused .  


If so letter should be firm, direct andl leave no doubt that he's out from DD/mm.  Sorry, tough one.  Change locks, but keep old ones for when you move out 

Good luck. ? Lodger to help with £££?

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Its social housing so no problem with changing locks, if it wasn't a complicated lock (not a case of swopping cylinders, unfortunately).  

silvercar

deanna, sorry it has come to this. I don't think it really matters what you write as social services are bound to contact you once they have the letter. The question will be whether he will ask to be housed by the council?

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He doesn't have a social worker (they closed the case due to his non engagement in April) so I don't think they will get involved on his behalf.  The social worker I am in contact with has said I need to give reasons.  I agree, however, he will need support when being interviewed by housing (I know what they are like).  His communication skills aren't up to dealing with Housing's gate keeping so I'm very nervous about that.  

But I also can't live with his anger.  Its an awful situation.  I'm still trying to find out what options there are.  I wish social services were a bit more understanding of autism.., it was supposed to be an autism specialist team too.  

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Very difficult.  It may be more manipulation, He's saying Housing Needs are refusing to help him, but if they do it will only be after two days and only be for 30 days.  It could be gatekeeping on the part of the housing team, it could be he's presenting things a certain way to get a response out of me. 

On the one hand hes volunteering to talk over any issues we have but he's also saying its all my fault, he's breaking up with his gf, her family won't help him because they are sick of being dragged into 'our problems'. He's cancelled the MIND counselling.   It was a five bullet list of how this was all my fault  so not overly reassured he really meant the 'we can sort out our issues' because they seem to all be my fault lol (I'm not denying I have some issues but he's quite demeaning in his messages).  This was all in an email at 5pm on Friday so not possible to get hold of anyone. Of course.  

I've told him I love him but I will not be helping him if he returns to live here (because of our issues). That the 30 days is the assessment period.  Because he is vulnerable housing will have a duty to house him (I've emailed him the diagnosis documents he needs).  I've given him the out of hours number.  I've repeated that because of safeguarding issues I can't have him back here, its a very tough situation but it can be a big step forward to a healthier future..  

I hope I am right and Housing will help him if his gf's family do make him leave tomorrow.  I'd rather he had sorted this out mid week when he knew he couldn't come back here.

I am writing this in hope it will help someone in a similar situation.  No idea how it will work out but I know there are other people experiencing the same.  As far as I know Housing have to help him but maybe I am wrong.  The safeguarding issues have been taken on board by KCC.

onwards&upwards

Have you changed your locks?

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Had some problems with that but the lock is no longer allowing key access from outside.  Council will be sending locksmith on Monday.

AskAsk

deannatrois said:

Macman
Legally that may be correct but as he will only receive any kind of housing from social housing and I really don't want him on the streets, I am told they need some letter of eviction stating my unwillingness to have him in this house.  It is a genuine letter, but I don't quite know how to phrase it.  I also don't want to list his many crimes in such a way that they will say he's made himself voluntarily homeless. I can no longer cope with him living here, but I don't want him on the streets, I want him able to make better choices if he can do so.

Moving forwards
I understand and agree with what you are saying.  I don't think I am helping him anyway.  There's nothing here to make him try to move forwards.  

reminds me of my brother.  my mum threw him out as she couldn't cope with him.  he went to the police and told them he got thrown out and got no where to live, lol.  the police brought him back and told my mum to let him back in.  my mother said she doesn't want him back and she would like him to go to a children's home (he was 16 or 17 at the time i think) but the police said that as he was a minor and she was his mother, she had responsibility to house him even if he was a teraway.  she couldn't just send him to social services.

anyway, roll forward, he gets older and is over 18.  she throws him out again and again he goes to the police.  this time they put him in a hostel as he was considered homeless.

if social services want a letter from you to state that you are evicting him, just write a simple letter to social services to state why you are throwing him out and ask that they put him on the homeless list and the vulnerable list because of his autism.