Stupid son

Conor_3

johnbfan wrote: »

Am writing to Orange so will ask them to lower the tariff and block after it runs out.

Unless the phone is in his posession, that's not good enough as she can still rack up calls on it.

johnbfan

Will try the block the sim card if we get no joy with writing to her mother asking for her to get the girl to have her name put on the phone.

He has just come in from his girlfriends and we asked him to come talk about it but he has to go to bed as he has some work tomorrow. Its the usual head in the sand/!!!! in the air catching all the sun ostrich stance again.

He will be in for a shock when the court papers get stuck where the sun is shining.

So.... if he aint going to sort it I will write the letters and he can sign them and I will send them. At least I know if I try to get things sorted and fail it won't be for want of trying.

Thanks everyone.

kiddy_guy

It's straightforward. I've had problems with my simcard before, so I rang them up and asked for a new one. This cancels the old one. Ring them up and tell them that the phone is saying "insert simcard" and that you have done so - ask them then to send you a new one as you think that as you scratched it, this is why the phone isnt working. Then use the simcard in an old phone.

reehsetin

johnbfan wrote: »

Am writing to Orange so will ask them to lower the tariff and block after it runs out.

We told him how stupid it was now he is paying for it.

Im surprised they were allowed the phone without insurance but its definitely not on the bill. He is in trouble with another phone company besides this - his own on O2 - don't these companies credit check people before they give them contracts. He has been a bad credit risk before he took out the phone contracts we were surprised when they allowed him to sign for them.

insurance is never and should never be compulsory :eek:

bookshifter

My 2 pence:

I think you need to phone Orange CS ASAP (as others have said), get the current sim and phone locked/barred and ask for a replacement sim for the rightful bill payer to use.

Do not wait for the contract to end etc, act now!

Writing letters in my opinion just delays the problem, offering the girl the benefit of the doubt etc is just a waste of time since there is no trust etc between the parties.

Insurance would have done nothing for you, the phone was never stolen, I suspect the police (nowadays in any case) wouldn't care, unless you literally do have a policeman as a personal contact :j


In a way his own O2 bill is more concerning since that he is in charge of that, hopefully his problem is just that he has a low tariff but just talks too much, maybe there is a more effective price plan he can swap to?!

johnbfan

Having just tried to have a conversation with him there is lots he has not said and won't say. Suffice it to say he is actually not worried about the debt, when I said about blocking the sim he said he knew about that, I've tried to discuss the replies from here with him and he seems to know about all the advice anyway but is just not interested. He is not even interested in the consequences of being taken to court. Seems if he can't pay then he can't pay and that is that!!!

Don't know where he gets this idea from but he won't listen to reason. Apparently I don' have a clue what I am on about! its none of my business and he is happy to let it just carry on.

I would love to know which planet he comes from. Because the more I talk to him the more I realise its not this one. this isnt just a 20 year old in debt this is a 20 year old living in another world

bookshifter

Best wishes, I hope the situation gets resolved, your son is lucky to have you as a parent, many parents wouldn't give a toss ........ it seems like in life sometimes every move you make ends up different to how you want/planned!

I suppose it is also the fault of there being a lack of financial education for the youth of today, allied with 'generous' credit limits etc is a recipe for disaster.

I suppose the real question is whether you want to bail out johnbfan jr or let him be screwed over by his ex ............ decisions, decisions!

Once again, good luck!

Stephb1986_2

at that age they dont want to listen to the parents trust me im only 21 and to be honest i wish i listened to my parents i wouldnt of ended up in as much trouble as i have been with ex boyfriends ect. The best thing you can do is get the phone barred its useless to her then im not sure if your son will have to pay the remaining months line rental though

Stephb xx

Mikeyorks

johnbfan wrote: »

I would love to know which planet he comes from. Because the more I talk to him the more I realise its not this one. this isnt just a 20 year old in debt this is a 20 year old living in another world

Why is my son living with you;)

..... sorry, mine's 23 ..... but the philosophy remains the same. Left Uni nearly 2 years ago - and still thinks he's a student. Bags of academic sense ..... but not a single grain of common sense.

alnsv1000s

I have an 18 year old son who has been sensible with money but not with his physcotic girlfriend so know what it can be like.

I have given up talking to him as he does the opposite.

If your son has such a brazen opinion of finances and the consequences you should contact Equifax and Experian and get a notice of disassociation put on your file as his actions can effect you in the future.

Especially if bailiffs come knocking.