My parents have bats in their airing cupboard

Ditzy_Mitzy

sarahandme said:

Pollycat said:

sarahandme said:

Exactly, at least someone sees sense 👍

I think you mean:

"At last. Someone who agrees with me".

Exactly. It was all one way before apart from a few defending my story. 
I just think people seem full of themselves and have different views,  ideals how they would deal with things. But faced with these things in reality its a different kettle of fish.
Before this happened to mum I might have been joining the majority on my high horse and suggesting the same very things, preaching how its illegal etc to kill bats, but believe me when you see you're mum in the state we did, you would do whatever it takes to make her feel better or safe. 

Unfortunately, being upset doesn't give one carte blanche to break the law or act in an immoral fashion.  Sometimes you just have to tough it out.  

sarahandme

Ditzy_Mitzy said:

sarahandme said:

Pollycat said:

sarahandme said:

Exactly, at least someone sees sense 👍

I think you mean:

"At last. Someone who agrees with me".

Exactly. It was all one way before apart from a few defending my story. 
I just think people seem full of themselves and have different views,  ideals how they would deal with things. But faced with these things in reality its a different kettle of fish.
Before this happened to mum I might have been joining the majority on my high horse and suggesting the same very things, preaching how its illegal etc to kill bats, but believe me when you see you're mum in the state we did, you would do whatever it takes to make her feel better or safe. 

Unfortunately, being upset doesn't give one carte blanche to break the law or act in an immoral fashion.  Sometimes you just have to tough it out.  

But again its easy to say sat on the other side of the fence isn't it?
We just wanted to do what was best for mum at the time. You'd do anything for your mum right?
So yes it was acting illegally, but impulses take over. 
What if it was a snake? 

Pollycat

sarahandme said:

I just think people seem full of themselves and have different views,  ideals how they would deal with things. But faced with these things in reality its a different kettle of fish.
Before this happened to mum I might have been joining the majority on my high horse and suggesting the same very things, preaching how its illegal etc to kill bats, but believe me when you see you're mum in the state we did, you would do whatever it takes to make her feel better or safe. 

I most certainly would do whatever it takes to make her feel better or safe.

That would be to move her into my house until the issue was sorted.

sarahandme

Pollycat said:

sarahandme said:

I just think people seem full of themselves and have different views,  ideals how they would deal with things. But faced with these things in reality its a different kettle of fish.
Before this happened to mum I might have been joining the majority on my high horse and suggesting the same very things, preaching how its illegal etc to kill bats, but believe me when you see you're mum in the state we did, you would do whatever it takes to make her feel better or safe. 

I most certainly would do whatever it takes to make her feel better or safe.

That would be to move her into my house until the issue was sorted.

Well like I said already. We asked her that but she didn't want to. That would have meant leaving my dad on his own who is 87, or he moved in with us too which is only a 2 bedroom house our daughter has nowhere to sleep. Besides theres only her single bed in daughters room. Plus our sofa isnt suitable for sleeping in. So you see it wasen't possible or practical. 
Plus they are used to their own surroundings and wasn't going to let a few bats drive them out of their home, dad wouldn't hear of it, and I don't blame him.
I just think most people faced with this situation would deal with it the way we did. 
Its easy to say on paper, well we should have done this or should have done that,  but not so easy when you're not prepared for it, but faced with it immediately. The adrenaline kicks in and you end up doing irrational things, but at the time seems like an only option. Especially when you got your father telling you what to do and how he wants it done. And at the time I dont blame him one bit as hes looking out for his wife isn't he? And I was looking out for mum, so tensions we're running high that day or hour to get the bats out of mums bathroom and didn't even concider if its illegal or not.
Plus we were dismayed by the lack of interest by the council to come out until 4th of July, which is still not until Saturday. But now its been a week and we haven't seen anymore bats, so by the time they get here theres nothing to see. 

onwards&upwards

sarahandme said:

Pollycat said:

sarahandme said:

Exactly, at least someone sees sense 👍

I think you mean:

"At last. Someone who agrees with me".

Exactly. It was all one way before apart from a few defending my story. 
I just think people seem full of themselves and have different views,  ideals how they would deal with things. But faced with these things in reality its a different kettle of fish.
Before this happened to mum I might have been joining the majority on my high horse and suggesting the same very things, preaching how its illegal etc to kill bats, but believe me when you see you're mum in the state we did, you would do whatever it takes to make her feel better or safe. 

My mum is terrified of frogs, genuine phobia. 

No way on earth would I hurt one because of that. 

sarahandme

onwards&upwards said:

sarahandme said:

Pollycat said:

sarahandme said:

Exactly, at least someone sees sense 👍

I think you mean:

"At last. Someone who agrees with me".

Exactly. It was all one way before apart from a few defending my story. 
I just think people seem full of themselves and have different views,  ideals how they would deal with things. But faced with these things in reality its a different kettle of fish.
Before this happened to mum I might have been joining the majority on my high horse and suggesting the same very things, preaching how its illegal etc to kill bats, but believe me when you see you're mum in the state we did, you would do whatever it takes to make her feel better or safe. 

My mum is terrified of frogs, genuine phobia. 

No way on earth would I hurt one because of that. 

That suggests that you care more about a frog than your mum. I actually hate frogs too, but wouldn't harm one, I'd ask someone braver to remove it, but not harm it. Besides there was never any intention to harm the bats. But they we're definetly not welcome in mums bathroom. They definetly we're not invited. 

Pollycat

sarahandme said:

Well like I said already. We asked her that but she didn't want to. That would have meant leaving my dad on his own who is 87, or he moved in with us too which is only a 2 bedroom house our daughter has nowhere to sleep. Besides theres only her single bed in daughters room. Plus our sofa isnt suitable for sleeping in. So you see it wasen't possible or practical. 
Plus they are used to their own surroundings and wasn't going to let a few bats drive them out of their home, dad wouldn't hear of it, and I don't blame him.

Well, like I said already, if she preferred to stay in her own home with risk of bats in it, she's clearly not that scared of bats.

If it was my Mum and she was as scared of bats as you make out your Mum is, me and my OH I would have slept on the floor and ordered a blow up bed for the couple of weeks until someone could come out to deal with the bats.

I could order one from Amazon today and get it tomorrow.

There's always a solution - if you want to look for it. Instead of only seeing the problem.

I guess you'll say next that you don't have Amazon Prime.

sarahandme said:

I just think most people faced with this situation would deal with it the way we did.

I sincerely hope you're wrong about that.

sarahandme said:

Its easy to say on paper, well we should have done this or should have done that,  but not so easy when you're not prepared for it, but faced with it immediately. The adrenaline kicks in and you end up doing irrational things, but at the time seems like an only option. Especially when you got your father telling you what to do and how he wants it done. And at the time I dont blame him one bit as hes looking out for his wife isn't he? And I was looking out for mum, so tensions we're running high that day or hour to get the bats out of mums bathroom and didn't even concider if its illegal or not.
Plus we were dismayed by the lack of interest by the council to come out until 4th of July, which is still not until Saturday. But now its been a week and we haven't seen anymore bats, so by the time they get here theres nothing to see. 

Have you ever considered an assertiveness course?

You say 'at the time I don't blame him one bit'.

Does that mean you blame him now for the fate of the bats?

I really do hope that your family have not done any damage to the bats you dealt with in such an inconsiderate manner.

sarahandme

Pollycat said:

sarahandme said:

Well like I said already. We asked her that but she didn't want to. That would have meant leaving my dad on his own who is 87, or he moved in with us too which is only a 2 bedroom house our daughter has nowhere to sleep. Besides theres only her single bed in daughters room. Plus our sofa isnt suitable for sleeping in. So you see it wasen't possible or practical. 
Plus they are used to their own surroundings and wasn't going to let a few bats drive them out of their home, dad wouldn't hear of it, and I don't blame him.

Well, like I said already, if she preferred to stay in her own home with risk of bats in it, she's clearly not that scared of bats.

If it was my Mum and she was as scared of bats as you make out your Mum is, me and my OH I would have slept on the floor and ordered a blow up bed for the couple of weeks until someone could come out to deal with the bats.

I could order one from Amazon today and get it tomorrow.

There's always a solution - if you want to look for it. Instead of only seeing the problem.

I guess you'll say next that you don't have Amazon Prime.

sarahandme said:

I just think most people faced with this situation would deal with it the way we did.

I sincerely hope you're wrong about that.

sarahandme said:

Its easy to say on paper, well we should have done this or should have done that,  but not so easy when you're not prepared for it, but faced with it immediately. The adrenaline kicks in and you end up doing irrational things, but at the time seems like an only option. Especially when you got your father telling you what to do and how he wants it done. And at the time I dont blame him one bit as hes looking out for his wife isn't he? And I was looking out for mum, so tensions we're running high that day or hour to get the bats out of mums bathroom and didn't even concider if its illegal or not.
Plus we were dismayed by the lack of interest by the council to come out until 4th of July, which is still not until Saturday. But now its been a week and we haven't seen anymore bats, so by the time they get here theres nothing to see. 

Have you ever considered an assertiveness course?

You say 'at the time I don't blame him one bit'.

Does that mean you blame him now for the fate of the bats?

I really do hope that your family have not done any damage to the bats you dealt with in such an inconsiderate manner.

I don't have Amazon prime. And I already told you mum is 86, they are set in their ways, but that doesnt exclude that shes scared of bats. You're skirting around the situation. 

Pollycat

sarahandme said:

I don't have Amazon prime. 

I rest my case.

sarahandme said:

 And I already told you mum is 86, they are set in their ways, but that doesnt exclude that shes scared of bats. You're skirting around the situation. 

And I already told you my Mum is 88 and she would have been out of that house like a shot, leaving the bats unharmed.

In what way am I skirting around the situation?

I'm saying what I would have done, what my Mum would have done, what my Dad would have done.

And it wouldn't have involved harming any bats.

Barny1979

So did you book the Council to attend OP?