Mother (96yrs old) and Sister (80 yrs old), sister had been given notice

Fishing1948

LilElvis said:

Does your younger sister have Power of Attorney over your mother's financial affairs?

This is what I do not know, I do have other sisters, we are trying to ascertain this information.  Please can you tell me how to finish this post for me. I believe I have the information by now and I am grateful honestly but now all I seem to be doing is answer questions, so how do I stop any further comments please, cant seem to find that either

Fishing1948

AnotherJoe said:

and now the younger sister/daughter has instructed the older sister/daughter that she has to leave her home as her mum is going to line in a home

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Why does younger sister have any authority to tell / make younger sister leave mums house?

Whats it got to do with younger sister?

I have no idea, sadly my older sister is not fully aware, and I am putting together a list of things my resident elder sister what to do, and this is from this forum, I too have health problems am a new widow and suffer with diabetes so obviously have to take care of myself to,  I will instruct her to go to see her solicitor too. and I thank you for responding, just that now I must rest and cannot respond tonight, thank you.

AnotherJoe

p.s. if younger sister said this merely because she (wrongly) believes that because mother is going into a home it must be sold, this is incorrect, due to older sisters age, it doesnt .

And you cant stop comments. Just dont look again if it bothers you but then again maybe you'll have some follow up questions.

Grumpy_chap

Well done MSE forumites - the OP has got the information she needs and confident in her next steps.  Thank you all for the useful input   And good luck to the OP - we are here if she needs to come back for any further information later.

Fishing1948

Grumpy_chap said:

Well done MSE forumites - the OP has got the information she needs and confident in her next steps.  Thank you all for the useful input   And good luck to the OP - we are here if she needs to come back for any further information later.

Ah thank you so much, for this, I do appreciate you entering this on this thread. What is a forumites? Not confident, just have something to pass onto my sister and she can take it forward now and yes I will indeed return to this forum if required. I do indeed wish to give my gratitude and thanks for all your time, meant for all who responded, I apologise if you did not understand, I have responded to all, with time and patience to ensure that those who responded did understand, not even minding if they gave no response But I do appreciate the guidance on how to socially interact with the people who answer these questions. Thank you

Grumpy_chap

Good luck @Fishing1948 - this can't be easy for you.
A "Forumite" is simply a member / contributor to the forum, including you (it says so under your name on the left hand side).  We try to be a friendly community
It's great when the community can help out in any little way.  Thanks all.

Fishing1948

AnotherJoe said:

p.s. if younger sister said this merely because she (wrongly) believes that because mother is going into a home it must be sold, this is incorrect, due to older sisters age, it doesnt .

And you cant stop comments. Just dont look again if it bothers you but then again maybe you'll have some follow up questions.

Apologies if you receive two responses, I did respond instantly however now cannot see it. Thank you for your response, this is useful. it does not bother me responding, I shall indeed keep an eye, as do not want to disrespect anyone. So now I shall sign off and grateful thanks to all.

Fishing1948

Grumpy_chap said:

Good luck @Fishing1948 - this can't be easy for you.
A "Forumite" is simply a member / contributor to the forum, including you (it says so under your name on the left hand side).  We try to be a friendly community
It's great when the community can help out in any little way.  Thanks all.

Thank you for your compassion and helping me to understand, it is just wow the quick responses too. I agree three cheers all.

MovingForwards

I know you don't want more replies, but these are some things to think about.

https://www.gov.uk/get-information-about-property-and-land/copies-of-deeds

Obtain a copy of the title deed to your mom's house and see what name is on it. If it's your mom (late dad?) great. Older sister doesn't have to move.
Younger sister can't 'give notice', unless it's only her name on the title deeds, even then there is a procedure to follow.

It doesn't matter if it's a care home or a home, it's still not where she is living now. 

If GP is saying she can't look after herself, that medical opinion will carry weight.

Urine infections are common in older people. What other health issues does your mom have? Is she able to walk? Look after her own hygiene and toilet needs? Feed herself? Cook? Have conversations? Know what day of the week, what month, what year it is when asked? Can she recall conversations from previous times you spoke with her?

How often do you speak with your mom and older sister, either face to face or by phone?
Does your younger sister have more contact with them?

You need to find out more answers, this will lead to more questions, but you cannot ignore this situation and hope it goes away. What you can do is not get involved, but you do not seem like that type of person.

I appreciate it's a very difficult time, especially due to your own personal circumstances, however people will talk you through everything when / if you are ready to return.