People on the dole

Carmina_Piranha_3

TurkishDelight wrote: »

he is self employed because he doesn't want to stick to anyone else's schedule and he is only part time living with us with his own finances, so me being unemployed doesn't really affect him. Thanks though

but he's your dad?

what does he want your future to be?

whether he lives there or not if he is only part time and can choose his own hours then why can't he drive you to and from work? he's your dad! i don't understand that, i really don't.

DKLS

How about a Kibbutz, You can get an open return flight for under £300, There are Kibbutz with 4* hotels and water parks on site where you can get plenty of experience in a variety of jobs. Meet new people, build your confidence levels etc.
The 'pay' is poor I got around £15 as week, but that was reserved for booze, as all accommodation and food was covered by your labours.

seven-day-weekend

Although I sympathise with your situation, if you live in a remote area with poor bus services and can't get anywhere to work, then you are never going to get any work unless something changes.

You ought to think of other ways of getting to/from work - maybe even taking lodgings from Monday-Friday in the place where your job is and just going home weekends. Once you have a job you will be able to afford to live as a lodger in someone else's home and then maybe you could take driving lessons which would give you a lot more freedom of movement once you had passed your test.

If you keep letting difficulty of transport stand in your way you are never going to get anything.

pipkin71

Carmina_Piranha wrote: »

but he's your dad?

what does he want your future to be?

whether he lives there or not if he is only part time and can choose his own hours then why can't he drive you to and from work? he's your dad! i don't understand that, i really don't.

I guess some families aren't as close as others, carmina. In an ideal world, families would help each other out, but that just isn't the case in all families, which is a shame really.

Pipkin xxxx

meester

Wow, talk about drippy.

Have a bit of drive.

Firstly, get fit. Get up 7am every morning, go do an hour's run. You won't be able to do it straight away, but do more every day. There's no way that you should have any problem doing that.

If you're not going to work, at least have a bit of pride about something.

Iom-rf

DWP shouldn't pay for driving lessons though, thats stupid!, I paid £26 a lesson, so should everyone else....

adouglasmhor

Iom-rf wrote: »

DWP shouldn't pay for driving lessons though, thats stupid!, I paid £26 a lesson, so should everyone else....

It's a work related qualification, they are allowed to pay for it.

My work paid for mine.

Horace

OP. Instead of whining about having no qualifications, why not ask the job centre about training courses? They are there to get you into work and you need to take pride in yourself and concentrate on your good points rather than your bad in your attempts to gain employment.

I know what it is like to be unemployed - I find it demeaning to sit in the job centre waiting to sign on and listening to the advisors telling me that I have only been unemployed for a short while (4 months) and that I should expect to wait 6 months. Well, my Disability Employment Advisor told me about a job at a firm opening at the other end of my street (job centre one end, this job the other and my flat in the middle). As a result of her encouragement and my past experience I have now landed the job as an Events Consultant which will also mean a lot of foreign travel.

If you don't ask you don't get so stop thinking that the world owes you a favour and get some pride in yourself. Sorry if this sounds angry, it is because there are plenty out there worse off than you! Just down the road from my flat there used to be this massive car factory called Rover - most of it is now demolished, one bit is still being used and one listed building is full of smashed windows because no-one can be bothered with it. When they closed 5,000 jobs went down the swanee but most of those guys have now found work. If they can do it, so can you.

misscomickat

Is there any way you can move out of home and to a city? It doesn't sound like you're living much of a life at the moment.

briona

Well I've managed to read about 10 pages of this thread before coming to the conclusion that the OP is simply putting up barriers to every suggestion given. Yes, she is 20 with little or no qualifications or experience; yes, the transport seems to be an issue, BUT other people seem to manage. The over-reliance on a trust fund paying up next March is worrying because, aside from having a reasonable amount of money, NOTHING else will have changed. She'll still live where she lives and she'll still have little or no qualifications. The thing that has to change is her DESIRE to work. If you don't want it enough, it just won't happen. To illustrate, here's my story...

I was brought up in the West of Ireland, 25 miles from the nearest city and only likely place of employment. None of my family drove or had a car, and the bus service was appalling (literally 2 buses a day, e.g., 1 bus into town at 7:30am and 1 bus out of town at 5:30pm).

In 1999, I was 22, had a University degree but no experience and so ended up taking a below-minimum wage job (earning around £70pw of which £20 was bus fare to and from town every week). The hours of work were 9:00am – 6:00pm meaning that I had missed the ONLY bus out of town. Occasionally I hitched out of town. Sometimes I got lifts part of the way with people who I knew. And eventually I struck a deal with the employer to only have 30 mins lunch instead of an hour, so I could leave half an hour early to get the bus home.

After a month or so of working there, I found a house-share and moved into the city, 5 mins walk from work (paying rent of £30pw). After bills etc were paid (elec, mobile top ups, food etc), I had around £10pw spare. I spent my lunch times in book shops reading books on how to improve my CV. I would copy down whole paragraphs, or I would go to the library or an internet cafe and use the internet to look for jobs. After 6 months, I found one – in Dublin (about 3 hours away) but being young and having no ties, I relocated. And my two years working in Dublin provided the stepping stone I needed to get my career to where it is today. So you see, it CAN be done. You just have to WANT it enough. And exhaust every possibility trying to get to where you want to be.

Aged 20, and realising that there is no local employment and that transport will always be an issue, why don't you relocate?! If the nearest big town is an hour and a half away, why not move there? There are always jobs somewhere – it just depends on what you're prepared to do, where you're prepared to move to, and what you're prepared to work for...

Over and (finally!) out...

Briona