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  • Sorry to read that your weekend has been tough with your OH’s comments.

    Hope the rest rest of your week goes well. 
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  • Kakiste
    Kakiste Posts: 1,022 Forumite
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    All deadlines met! (Even with an additional piece of paperwork dropped on me today at the last minute) I've a bit of marking and filing to do tomorrow morning before school but by 9am I'll be done with all schoolwork for the year. 

    Next two days should be hectic but nice. 

    I'm hoping my Tesco voucher turns up before the weekend as I'd like to go out on Sat or Sun and buy all the non-fresh stuff so I only need to brave the supermarkets briefly on the morning of the 23rd. Plus the kid really wants crackers, for which she's writing extra jokes!. :smiley:

    My friend is round tonight so we're going to finalise what we're eating for Christmas day/Boxing day and make a shopping list. 

    Bottom line; 
    £49k paid off 
    Car HP paid off
    Debt Free!
    Saved Escape fund and moved out. 

    Current focus; saving Emergency fund
  • It sounds like things are particularly difficult with your OH at the moment.  I would be saving every spare penny in an account he has no access to so you have a moving fund should you need to for you and your DD.  
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  • Kakiste
    Kakiste Posts: 1,022 Forumite
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    He doesnt have any access to any of my accounts. 
    He has calmed down significantly since last weekend's nastiness so seems to be back to normal.
    Bottom line; 
    £49k paid off 
    Car HP paid off
    Debt Free!
    Saved Escape fund and moved out. 

    Current focus; saving Emergency fund
  • I had to laugh at as long as it took your socks to dry off, I'm presuming home time came first lol  :D sorry you had it rough at the weekend, my relationship with oh went through a very up and down patch for most of last year and it can be very draining, and sometimes it's even worse when you get used to the pattern. Glad things are on the up and hopefully this continues over Xmas until you can decide where your at moving forward x 
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  • Better to be upfront and honest saying you will consider it to pacify him would probably just get him more set on the idea, then a bigger blow when you said no.  
    I think there must be something in the water atm, oh slept on the sofa yesterday as he had a blazing row with himself over the fact that instead of cooking and cleaning all day on my day off like a good little wife, I had spent the majority of the day wrapping the kids Xmas presents whilst they were at school. Which apparently is childish and selfish and should be the last on my list of things to do, as I wasnt biting he then went and slept on the sofa. Oh no, a bed to myself how ever will I cope? 
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  • Kakiste
    Kakiste Posts: 1,022 Forumite
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    @Lookafterthepennies2020 That sucks. Its horrible when there's an atmosphere isn't it? Especially when you know that you've done nothing wrong.
    Bottom line; 
    £49k paid off 
    Car HP paid off
    Debt Free!
    Saved Escape fund and moved out. 

    Current focus; saving Emergency fund
  • Nothing is going to dampen my week to go until Xmas spirit lol, I think I'm probably very much like u and have learned how to block it out and carry on until it blows over x
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  • Kakiste
    Kakiste Posts: 1,022 Forumite
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    Yep. I'm playing the mid-long game here. Its worth another year of this to have a completely fresh start with all the resources at my disposal
    Bottom line; 
    £49k paid off 
    Car HP paid off
    Debt Free!
    Saved Escape fund and moved out. 

    Current focus; saving Emergency fund
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