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enthusiasticsaver

The side hustle sounds really good.  As you say checking on pet insurance is good though as the last thing you want to be saddled with is vet bills while they are under your care.  My DD just spent a fortune on vet bills for her 1 year old border collie who managed to get some sort of infection.  Luckily she had insurance and the vet managed eventually to prescribe something which worked before they had to go down the £4k tests and x ray route which would have been above their insurance limit. 

Hope the husband is not giving you too much grief. 

Chrystal

Thinking of you and hoping everything is OK  (((hugs)))

Kakiste

Hi all. Been hugely busy over half term. Daughter got food poisoning from a another kid's birthday party food so she spent most of the first half of the holiday throwing up whilst I nursed her and deep cleaned all the carpets. Then husband caught it from her and spend the second half of the week ill! So in total we only had about 3 days of the 9 where everyone felt OK enough to go and do things. 

I get 2 weeks in October half term so I had last week off as well- I painted the upstairs bathroom and sorted out the garden for winter and deep cleaned loads of rooms (then booked myself a massage for the end of the week as I knew that I'd have done all the grafting by then) 

Oh and I found out what was going on with the odd situation with the heavily encouraged friendship with the wife of husband's friend. It turns out they were in a really rocky patch (unbeknownst to me) and I was being encouraged to go out with her so husband could spy on what she was saying about his friend and their marriage (I assumed that it was the other way round) and when we were organising a second meetup; I was being told by husband to explain to her how hard marriage is and to encourage her to work at it rather than ending it. (As it turned out we spent the first night out talking about books! The second night out never happened as she's now left husband's friend.) The friend has come round to ours a few times in the past week and honestly it felt a bit weird to see someone so clearly distraught- When I think ahead to leaving husband I feel mostly relief at the thought! 

greensalad

Kakiste said:

Hi all. Been hugely busy over half term. Daughter got food poisoning from a another kid's birthday party food so she spent most of the first half of the holiday throwing up whilst I nursed her and deep cleaned all the carpets. Then husband caught it from her and spend the second half of the week ill! 

Just a quick thought... but food poisoning isn't contagious? I thought I had food poisoning a few months ago but when my sister in law who was staying with us started throwing up too we realised it was just a norovirus type bug. 

Also how ridiculous to make you an unknown spy! Hopefully it won't be too long for you now. What's your next target before you can jump?

badmemory

Maybe she was as relieved to leave as you would be to see yours go.  He could well be distraught because he has lost the power he had.

Kakiste

I misspoke/mistyped - I meant D&V. (Father of the kid had been ill for a few days prior to the party and then cooked the food for all the kids) 

@badmemory to be fair it could well be. You never know what's going on behind closed doors. 

Kakiste

@greensalad I've got enough in savings to be able to do the deposit and 1st month's rent now- just keeping an eye on the rental market which is completely dead at the moment. 

However I've heard today that someone I sort of know (mum of a good friend) is sprucing up a 2 bedroom house in a nice area just off the town centre ready for selling it after her previous tenant trashed the place. I'm going to run into her this week at the food group and see whether or not she would consider continue to rent it if it was to me.

greensalad

That would be great! I wonder if you could convince her more if you offer to do some of the decorating yourself? Painting and whatnot, just the basics. Then you'd get to choose what you wanted anyway and it's one less thing she would have to do. My sister in law did this recently with a rental and got a bit of money off.

Kakiste

Good suggestion- I'll ask her what she thinks of that. (If she's open to the idea I'll offer to help her clear it over the next few weeks as well)

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When I left my husband, I lay there the first night and just felt like a weight had been lifted. I felt at peace. Good luck x