Neighbours - omg

greenbee

Put a fence up where it should be (just inside the boundary on your side), and then return the conifers that are on the wrong side of it and inform him that you'll be cutting back to the boundary, so if he doesn't want his baby trees to die he needs to move them before it's too late. If necessary have a tantrum - who cares what he thinks And tell him to stop bullying you while you're at it. 

Apodemus

Lots of good advice already, but I think I would start to use a strimmer for mowing the lawn and allow the line to work right up to my boundary!

twopenny

I was thinking along those lines. You may need to use weed killer along your side of the boundary to keep it free.

Wikihow has some information about trees.

MoneySeeker1

Davesnave said:

Regardless of one's sex, I think the greatest problem of being on one's own is a simple matter of not having extra moral support when neighbours try it on, especially in the first few months of becoming resident.

I live close to a private complex of 14 properties and I hear most of the gossip from there. It seems to me that regardless of who they are, newbies usually face some sort of challenge from an existing resident within a month or two of arriving. Upsetting though it might be, this does appear to be a part of human behaviour, it happens so often.

That I can believe.

I guess, in hindsight, these things sometimes happen because No-One But No-One will be acceptable as the new resident of the place concerned to some people - because they've mentally earmarked the home for "one of their clan and/or friend of theirs" and will have negative feelings towards the new occupant before they have so much as clapped eyes on them. It's almost like some people that take that sort of attitude are looking/waiting for the New Person to "butter them up"/bow the knee to them/ask what existing person will ever so graciously permit (ie out of what they are perfectly entitled to do anyway - as there's nothing wrong with it).

It's about self-respect imo - ie being able to look oneself in the eye in the mirror and say "I know I've done right and I know I've stood up for what's right - I can live with myself".

lovehedgehogs

They’ve been here for over 2 years. We have been on ‘hello’ terms. That’ll do me! However we are no longer on ‘hello’ terms 😊 I have dug 10” down - on my side so not encroaching - and put a piece of drift fencing in.  This stuff is used on the side of motorways when there are ecological surveys to monitor newts .  The line looks wonky I followed the line of the conifers.  As an add on they are still on my garden.  I planted a pheasant berry on my side.  😊. 

onwards&upwards

Davesnave said:

MoneySeeker1 said:

Fingers crossed for you that this works out.

Just found your thread and was thinking "This will be a woman on her own" before I got to your post saying that's what you are. Bad neighbour types do try it on a lot more with a woman on her own - voice of experience type.

I've had to spend time psyching myself up to tell myself "I am not a 'woman' - I am a person. More fool them for treating me like a vulnerable little woman" and try and act just like a large well-built and well-informed man. It worked eventually and they leave me alone now.

As a man who stands 5' 4" in his socks, and now decidedly grey as well, I don't understand any of this. 

Well of course you don't! 

There is a certain type of man out there who views a woman on her own as an easy target or not somebody who needs to be considered seriously.  They're not the norm though thankfully and I've certainly never had to act like anybody other than myself to deal with them!

Davesnave

onwards&upwards said:

Davesnave said:

MoneySeeker1 said:

Fingers crossed for you that this works out.

Just found your thread and was thinking "This will be a woman on her own" before I got to your post saying that's what you are. Bad neighbour types do try it on a lot more with a woman on her own - voice of experience type.

I've had to spend time psyching myself up to tell myself "I am not a 'woman' - I am a person. More fool them for treating me like a vulnerable little woman" and try and act just like a large well-built and well-informed man. It worked eventually and they leave me alone now.

As a man who stands 5' 4" in his socks, and now decidedly grey as well, I don't understand any of this. 

Well of course you don't! 

There is a certain type of man out there who views a woman on her own as an easy target or not somebody who needs to be considered seriously.  They're not the norm though thankfully and I've certainly never had to act like anybody other than myself to deal with them!

Oh, you mean dinosaurs. Still a few desperately surviving in odd corners of the world I guess, but not many where I am, thankfully.
But a woman should be proud to be a woman and to compete as an equal with men, just like the 4 ladies mentioned in my sig, whom I'm very happy to promote.

onwards&upwards

Davesnave said:

onwards&upwards said:

Davesnave said:

MoneySeeker1 said:

Fingers crossed for you that this works out.

Just found your thread and was thinking "This will be a woman on her own" before I got to your post saying that's what you are. Bad neighbour types do try it on a lot more with a woman on her own - voice of experience type.

I've had to spend time psyching myself up to tell myself "I am not a 'woman' - I am a person. More fool them for treating me like a vulnerable little woman" and try and act just like a large well-built and well-informed man. It worked eventually and they leave me alone now.

As a man who stands 5' 4" in his socks, and now decidedly grey as well, I don't understand any of this. 

Well of course you don't! 

There is a certain type of man out there who views a woman on her own as an easy target or not somebody who needs to be considered seriously.  They're not the norm though thankfully and I've certainly never had to act like anybody other than myself to deal with them!

Oh, you mean dinosaurs. Still a few desperately surviving in odd corners of the world I guess, but not many where I am, thankfully.
But a woman should be proud to be a woman and to compete as an equal with men, just like the 4 ladies mentioned in my sig, whom I'm very happy to promote.

Oh no, they come in all ages, sadly. 

Please don't tell women what they 'should' be.

Davesnave

IMO if an individual identifies as a woman, they should be whatever they want, not define themselves as something vague like 'person' in order to deal with the world. They're valid as women.

Words like 'person' are very useful in asserting  principles and laws that apply to all, but individuals are complicated and may prefer to express this complexity in particular ways.

onwards&upwards

Davesnave said:

IMO if an individual identifies as a woman, they should be whatever they want,

Lol, that's very kind of you.